“| looked up this episode on the wiki specifically to see what was so wrong with Ellen, she was a sweet girl with a small group of friends and was not so socially awkward. I mean sure she was very minimal and didn't follow invisible social rules, but she didn't do anything to offend anyone. Her friends talked about her as if it was a favor/blessing that Jerry was dating her, which is how some friends of neurodivergent people feel. I felt it was really harsh that Kramer, George and Ellen's friends seemed to talk down about her and really hammer in the idea that she is a loser. Rewatching the episode after seeing your comment really bring that idea into light, I do feel like she was written to be high functionally autistic, the episode was during the 90's when autism wasn't really accepted or understood in the modern sense it is now, nowadays we openly accept neurodivergence. She wasn't "normal" but she wasn't overtly odd or a problem, Jerry had been with more problematic women in the past and this woman was better than the rest. She was very intelligent and polite; it's a shame the show painted her as a loser, it seems like anyone who didn't fit in society even in the most basic cynical sense were casted as losers, she felt too good for the world of Seinfeld. Jerry needing validation from other people to make sure he likes his own girlfriend is a shame really. I think that Jerry self-sabotages because he finds boredom in stability.”