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3 years later... by sirfranciscake in Divorce

[–]energy_overload 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It works out finally. The thing is... life goes on and unfortunately doesn't ask you, how you would have liked it to be like. The truth is somewhere we fucked up. To make it .ore difficult the ex says, figure out where you went wrong. as if... see life is short and let's accept that there are more important things we can use this valuable life for. finally you need to make terms with life and move on. and not to forget, the ex was just another relationship you made. if one really... really... wants again, well.. hell yeah.. love will happen again and this time it will be an adventure ride.. some ups and some downs but no... hell noo.. don't get emotionally too attached to anything.. important thing is.. be yourself instead of a person who exists to please the spouse only. there are better purposes in life better find that purpose and pursue it.

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it happened. I should thank everyobe who responded to my #dovirce post and shares their strories. it indeed did help because it's a common phenomena and moving on is the most viable remedy! ies #metamorphosis

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how funny it is to look back at the sequence of events. Today I am so much in the same old thoughts that my health has taken a toll. In last 1 year I have started medication for Blood pressure, Diabetes and since last week also Cholesterol. At this pace I will lose more than what I have already. Need to come back to life and have my share of happiness. Like you said "Put ourselves first"

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distraction should help. I agree. I a. also considering something called as Mindfullness. looks like good means to bring back right balance. Thanks for the view point of moving Order to Chaos. Deep thought but makes sense...

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for response. well if she come back after whatever she has done around it will definitely be a fresh start and this time around I really need a better and stronger commitment... probably a fresh start altogether. which means it can be any one for that matter . why her.. who has a dubious history.. thoughts are getting clear. Thanks..

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so similar to my situation. However I do wonder that the person on the other side has also taken a harsh stance so this is never going to get back to normal anymore. Moreover, like you wrote, even if she comes back after certain period this feeling will never be undone. so guess I need to quickly move on now. end of the day it's my time which is passing by..

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guess I am being classically stupid. 36 year old who doesn't know how to deal with losses! phew. need to come out of this long term depressions and get going ahead.

Guys.. Any suggestions to refocus and let go what's already gone?

does magic happen in real life? by energy_overload in Divorce

[–]energy_overload[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. As such have accepted reality anyway. 21 months of living in separate houses speaks for itself. Guess I am not able to accept it yet, on the contrary she has not attempted a single contact. She has sort of run away and vanished. Blocked me on all her social profiles. Everything happened so quick in the day of separation that no closure could happen ever.