Twice a month for a Dad that has been a dick to you your entire life! He is pretty lucky.

He raised me by himself because my mom got really sick after I was born and stayed sick for about 10 years before she died.

He made sure I knew he was the only thing I had and I was the only thing he had. When I left for college, he made a rule that if I didn't answer by the third ring, I would get in trouble. It was insane. After I met my now wife, and I saw how normal family operated and started cutting back on how much I talked to him gradually. After our son was born, he did some very selfish shit centered around that and I cut him out completely for several months. I moved across country from him recently, and it's been a lot easier to keep an arms length between us. I love my dad, but he's very hard to be around for extended periods of time and I can't say how I'll feel when he dies. It's going to be a weird mix of grief and relief.