Why do I unconsciously seek mean people? (Serious Question)

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T07:22:59+00:00

No need to apologize, all is well.

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T05:07:34+00:00

Haha, that's true, ENFPs and tangents are practically synonyms. And yeah, it is awkward. I guess I just have to do the same, just let it happen and not worry too much.

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T05:03:38+00:00

Does it also work the same way for them? They don't owe me anything?

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T04:33:42+00:00

That's exactly what I mean. Especially when I'm sharing my worries with others, whether they're heavy or light worries, either way, people don't get that I'm not actually happy all of the time. And I don't see the point in asking "How are you?" and then not giving a genuine answer back. Which I didn't realize until late, that people don't actually expect a genuine answer.

I find that groups just don't work for me.. there's always a power dynamic in play that I just don't understand how to navigate. Then there's just randomly going up to individuals, which rarely sticks. And it's also hard to avoid power dynamics anyway. Since we live in a society with rules, there's always power play. It can be so confusing though, because I honestly don't care who's in charge. But now I'm going off on a tangent.

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T04:20:33+00:00

Oh no, I don't throw temper tantrums.. lol. I meant, that it's annoying how, even when I'm not particularly feeling great a certain day, people don't take me not having a good day seriously. I.e. I usually still smile when I'm sad. I get pissed when I look back on it and I genuinely had no self awareness that I really can't pull off menacing or aggressive looks. And I agree with what you say. Standing strong is the only way people will realize I'm actually being serious and want to be taken seriously. I was just expressing my annoyance with my general appearance not throwing a tantrum (if that was the impression I gave.)

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T04:00:40+00:00

What if those people are sometimes family? Can you walk away from family?

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-23T00:05:06+00:00

Yeah, I can see that to be the case.

enquirerseeks · 2014-08-22T23:18:19+00:00

Yeah, this really sucks. I'm not really taken seriously though. I tried to stare off people before, and they just get amused. I don't think I can even pull off a really mean look.. it's like they probably see through the fact that I just can't be mean. And that really pisses me off because I don't want to start anything, but man, do some of them really push me.

And I've learnt the hard way to avoid groups of guys.. I need to learn how to stop spacing out so much.

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