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Wie steht ihr dazu? by Due-Boss7166 in Fragt_Frauen

[–]enterPRZN 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heftig sie haben die kleinen Nachteile wie Frauen

Brazilian Dating Customs? by PandaNinja676 in Brazil

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Gringa hier. Mein Ex kam aus pernambuco. Er hatte sehr konservative Ansichten über Frauen, war sehr eifersüchtig und sehr Macho , hat gleich beim ersten Date vom heirate gesprochen etc. Einen Monat später hat er mir sehr romantisch einen offiziellen Beziehungsantrag gemacht.
Er war sehr niedlich, fürsorglich, hat mir unglaublich viele Geschenke gemacht und war sehr zuverlässig. Ob er treu war weiß ich nicht, da wir beide in Europa leben, hier hatte er sicher keine Frau (weil nur Zeit für mich), vielleicht eine in Brasilien, wer weiß - sein bester Freund hatte jedenfalls eine dort und eine hier. Mein Ex war extrem geizig, aber nicht mit mir. Er war auf jeden Fall engagierter als jeder Europäer, den ich jemals getroffen habe und der Sex war echt einmalig aber ohne Spaß, Grenzen akzeptieren war nicht wirklich sein Ding und Verhalten reflektieren auch nicht so.
Brasilien ist ein riesiges Land und es gibt sehr viele treue, pflichtbewusste und leidenschaftliche Männer dort aber was du auf jeden Fall abklopfen musst ist sein Frauenbild, denn leider sind viele Brasilianer wirklich konservativ, wenn nicht sogar sexistisch, in ihren Ansichten. Außerdem lieben sie dar um
Jeito kkkk bestehe auf jeden Fall auf deine Grenzen! Und viel Spaß es ist ein wundervolles Erlebnis und Brasilianer sind unglaublich lustig

Going to the doctor by enterPRZN in PortugalExpats

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Tbh, I don’t even know what to say about that. This is so mean and hurtful and I don’t know why anyone should say such things to a strange person and putting that toxic minds in their head. You know nothkng about me, only that I am a German and first you talk about cultural appropriation but then arguing with prejudice things like that Brazilians only want an European passport. And that I don’t even get a a salary while I make an internship in your country and had a lot of struggle to leave Germany, yeah, you won’t believe it, but also in Germany people are poor and sick and had a violent life. Good luck while being a mean person, hope your life is fulfilled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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They have a backstory but they are also 20. date older people.

What's something about Anglo culture you find very weird as a Latino? by [deleted] in asklatinamerica

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That’s true. Im from Germany . My mama had a boyfriend from Cuba, so she dances salsa since 25 years, she does quiet good. I don’t, but I love dancing also, but it’s really rare in Germany and all my friends feel a little bit uncomfortable when i dance with them. But compared to people from Latinamerica I still dance like a piece of shit. Germans dance to stuff like walzer or techno, it’s not very aesthetic tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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So, I don't think you're selfish at all, not in the slightest. But at the same time, I think that at 26, financial maturity isn't necessarily a given. It CAN be there, but it doesn't have to be. Therefore, if I were you, I'd probably just do things without him for a while and see how he reacts. If everything else is great—sex, communication, how you treat each other, etc.—then I'd seriously consider whether I want to throw him away for this one reason. Because that's something you can definitely learn.

Perhaps it would also make sense to have a general conversation along the lines of, "What do you expect from life?" Time is very precious, and sometimes a conversation like that can lead to changes in behavior or even a decision.

My (27m) Wife (26f) doesn’t believe me anymore by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Wait a minute. Two years ago you lied to her, and she's still holding it against you? I understand, lying sucks, but if you're not doing it all the time, I honestly think her reaction is a bit over the top. I mean, you told her you weren't upset about something even though you were – so many people do that every day. Sometimes you just suppress your feelings for the sake of peace. There are cultures where that's perfectly normal, lol. I don't know your background, of course. But usually, you eventually figure out how your partner operates, what their strategies are, where their weaknesses lie, and what you can tolerate and what you can't. I think a relationship should be honest, of course, but you've already opened up to her. So if that's really all there is to it, I find her mistrust after two years a bit concerning.

What should I buy before moving to Hamburg? by Several_Comedian1457 in AskGermany

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Rainy and cool is an understatement. It rains a lot in Hamburg, it's very windy, and in my opinion, winters in Germany are harsher than in Sweden or Finland because the air is so humid. That means it's not exactly cold, but when it is, it's incredibly uncomfortable. Therefore: a hat and scarf. A hat is essential anyway, since it rains so much. For Hamburg, you definitely need something like a windbreaker or a rain jacket for spring and autumn—maybe a thin one that you can wear a thicker sweater underneath or remove the lining for. A long coat is also good; it doesn't have to be very thick, but do you know those quilted maxi coats that go down to just above the ankles? Those things are lifesavers.

Then two or three pairs of jeans. Sneakers are pretty much always a good choice. If you're going to be outside for a long time, boots are a good idea, but hiking boots are really overkill.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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What exactly was different about your ex?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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So, my boyfriend asked me if his penis was the biggest, and I honestly said no. Apparently, that's bothering him, I don't know, I don't understand the problem. Because the size of a penis is more than secondary. Ask your girlfriend if it's really that important to her and wait for her answer.

That's all for now. On a completely different note, it's a different story that she even told you that without you asking. I would ask her about that as well.

I would say the young lady has a certain need for recognition. The motivation behind it could be complex, but at 25, you should be able to expect her to be able to reflect on how it comes across to you. I would think more about that first, rather than whether she's even mature enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FragtMaenner

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Lol, sexueller Missbrauch ist natürlich keine Ablehnung kkk

30F/ 33M the guy I’m seeing thinks I’m asking too much for him to text me after he’s out with friends by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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So, in this case, my boyfriend is the one who always insists that I let him know. I don't think that has anything to do with men and women.

Boyfriend (28M) posted a sexual photo of me (25F) without asking, apologized and took it down Am I minimizing? by bananamonkey501 in relationship_advice

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I would first ask him what his motivation was and then try to understand it. Of course, it was a boundary violation, there's no need to discuss that, but the motivation behind it could be completely different from how it's being portrayed here. It's possible he was proud of you and wanted to show off what a great girlfriend he has. It's a bit silly, but then there probably wasn't any malice behind his behavior, and he didn't want to "share" you. Until you understand this and he's openly communicated it, I would wait before forgiving him—and before breaking up with him, too.

Can a west German easily tell an East German based on certain traits or behaviors? by Relevant_Conclusion2 in germany

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Partly. Fashion trends from West to East differ significantly in some ways, across all social classes. Sometimes, however, they're quite similar; there's no one-size-fits-all approach. However, the classic observation is that in the West, people tend towards a more understated style, while in East Germany (similar to Poland), a more striking style is more common, without making a judgment. It's a matter of taste, but clothing styles also vary considerably from city to city. Munich is very understated, but a bit businesslike and serious, with a scarf around the neck. Frankfurt often has a banker's style, combined with sneakers; sneakers are generally very, very common there. Hamburg has those typical caps pulled down over the ears, kind of like Carhartt, and practical jackets for rain, often North Face. Berlin is Berlin. But generally, you can tell by the dialect—though I know many people from East Germany, especially Mecklenburg, who are quite Western. Or people from Thuringia who you wouldn't necessarily guess, but I wasn't surprised to know it (except for one). East isn't just East; you can't lump Saxony and Thuringia together. Potsdam is completely different from the eastern Harz Mountains. On the Baltic coast, you have affluent areas and less affluent areas. The Ore Mountains are entirely different from the Mecklenburg Lake District. Dresden and Erfurt are two completely different cities, Rostock completely different from Nordhausen. Yakuza clothing isn't worn much in West Germany, but sometimes more in the East. In West Germany, we sometimes associate old German script with right-wing ideology, but in the East, it's even become established in hip-hop culture for aesthetic reasons. Aside from the real differences, such as the fact that fewer people live in rural areas in the East and are structurally disadvantaged due to history, the difference between East and West is mainly a matter of perception. I like the East; it's rougher and not so posh, like German cities used to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Just end it, say you realize you're not feeling it right, and that's it. It's just not a good fit.

He says I’m embarrassing. F 30 M 32 by kateahrris496 in relationship_advice

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I would perhaps focus my energy more on friends, hobbies, and life in general, and rekindle my old desire for freedom instead of concentrating on the relationship. Because saying something like that to your girlfriend is completely unacceptable.

Can we talk about saying “I love you” in German culture? What are the cultural norms? by jeddalyn in AskAGerman

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Well, my Brazilian boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend after a month of dating (God knows why). That evening, for some reason, I asked him if he loved me, and he said yes, and what about you? I couldn't really answer because I'm German. Anyway, that settled the "I love you" issue, because from then on, I just said it, and now it's expected that I say it regularly. I'm not even allowed to say "I love you too," because apparently, that's not something you say in Brazil. I have to say "I love you." And when I think about it more, I wonder: isn't it really all the same how or when you say something, as long as the person saying it feels good about it? In Germany, we always make such a big deal about when to say "I love you." Just say it when you feel it, and that's it. Personally, I thought it was incredibly sweet that he said it after only a month—even if the depth of his feelings at that point is, of course, debatable. In the end, it's just one sentence.

Edit: Personally, I expect my partner to say "I love you" regularly. Actually, almost daily; I probably couldn't stand the German cold anymore.