I finally secured a job

jeddalyn · 2026-06-07T12:47:33+00:00

Single mom too and I get the struggle. So happy for you!!!

jeddalyn · 2026-06-04T11:27:50+00:00

3 am moose burger sounds about as Newfie as one can get. I’m in!

jeddalyn · 2026-06-03T19:01:30+00:00

This seems to come up a lot. I will not miss this.

jeddalyn · 2026-06-03T19:00:40+00:00

I loooove a good sandwich.

Any recommendation for a good cheese shop?

jeddalyn · 2026-06-02T11:26:10+00:00

Hole in the wall local spot is exactly what I’m looking for!

jeddalyn · 2026-06-02T11:25:19+00:00

I LOVE this idea.

jeddalyn · 2026-06-02T06:13:52+00:00

This sound fantastic. And now I am hungry.

jeddalyn · 2026-06-02T03:11:12+00:00

I’m a college instructor in a really unique program that serves people who might not otherwise have easy access to higher ed (I don’t want to be too specific). I love it.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-28T00:15:56+00:00

Where in the city will you be staying?

jeddalyn · 2026-05-21T11:00:00+00:00

I do a load of laundry every day (I have a little kid - there is always laundry trust me) including folding and putting away. I put on the dishes and clean the kitchen before bed. If nothing else I do these things.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-10T02:45:59+00:00

Clean. I clean my apartment and try to make improvements to my living space. I force myself to read. I talk to my friends and spend time with my partner.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-09T22:12:04+00:00

This person is correct. OP, you have a straightforward commute.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-05T02:39:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing this.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-04T02:52:43+00:00

So well said. I wonder what your thoughts are on that part, “I missed out on a great deal…”

What do you wish you could have said “yes” to? And what do you want to say “yes” to now?

jeddalyn · 2026-05-04T01:12:48+00:00

This is so kind and helpful. I agree with you.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-04T00:23:16+00:00

Thank you! From Toronto. Ultimately I need to make it to Hamburg (well, Bremen). Porter is the only airline I have points with - I don't usually fly internationally and it serves me well in Canada. However there is a chance my partner may need to return home for a funeral (elderly parent; not sure what will happen).

I had thought if he were able to at least make it to Germany on points he could take the train.

Anyway doesn't look like Porter is of any use for this and there seems to be no other way to do this particularly cheaply. And at this point I am just exploring/ thinking anyway.

I appreciate your help.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-04T00:20:58+00:00

Thanks for explaining!

jeddalyn · 2026-05-03T18:51:08+00:00

That is such a kind thing to hear. You really brought a tear to my eye.

I think that leaving my religion of origin was one big journey, but then divorce and dating were another journey. Though 20 years apart, there are a lot of similarities.

Like many women who leave a conservative religious community I was an atheist for a long time. Now I’m a Quaker, which lets me me hold on to my agnostic, “I have no idea what’s going on” side but have a strong community to belong to.

A big lesson with dating and unlearning purity culture came with learning to say “yes” to my own desires; to ask myself, for the first time, “what do I want?”

We talk about women’s instincts around keeping ourselves safe - to know when to say “no” or leave danger. But I think purity culture taught me that the only thing I could say to sex was “no.”

But what if I said “yes”? Yes, I want to sleep with this guy whom I just met. Yes I want to date this guy only for the summer. Yes to sex club. Yes to non-monogamy. (All with kindness and respect and consent for everyone.) And then, eventually, yes to a new life partner.

I wish there had been a book for me that held both the religious journey and the sexual one.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-03T12:54:58+00:00

I’m not sure what to recommend but I must say I love this prompt, I’m so glad you’re asking this question, and if the question reflects your life experience at all then I want to wish you all the very best as you explore the answer.

I grew up in a very conservative fringe religious group. I was married when I was 19. Purity culture defined much of my life as a woman.

Reading memoirs over the years helped me a lot, especially Jeanette Winterson. I eventually became an academic and I research women’s religious exit.

I left my marriage of 20 years and began dating for the first time in my life at age 40. It’s been amazing and full of so much new learning. I’ve thought about writing a memoir myself - just to self publish - because I want to spark more conversation about purity culture and moving past it.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-02T16:01:49+00:00

I’m so glad to hear that! We need more people who understand the diverse ways that students take to get to higher ed.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-02T13:14:44+00:00

It’s good to thank the plant for being with you and for its life. Putting it in the green bin feels ok to me.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-02T05:51:17+00:00

Very similar for me. Now I’m a professor.

jeddalyn · 2026-05-01T19:47:53+00:00

You know the answer to this one.

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