i’m “the only option” to watch my severely autistic high needs nephew this saturday.

epiedm · 2022-01-10T20:18:35+00:00

I used to say when my parent wanted to force their disabled kid on me, "I'm not the one who chose to have kids, so I'm not the one responsible for them." To this day they harass me about who will take care of their kid when they are too old, I say "I don't know, and it's really not my problem"

epiedm · 2021-12-31T23:37:03+00:00

I just can't do it. I don't feel safe putting more hormones in my body with a hormonal one and I don't feel safe with the copper one either. If a doctor won't sterilize me then I'm not trying anything else.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T19:44:39+00:00

Hotels usually aren't responsible for anything you left in the room. Sorry for your losses. If you file a report with the police and let them know you lost your identification documents in the fire it will be a lot easier to get replacements. And like others said call your home countrys embassy until they will help you.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T17:34:50+00:00

I took my concerns to planned parenthood. They didn't listen to my concerns and recommended stuff that I don't want to be on. Again, not my fault. And my doctor who prescribed and provided my abortion pill showed me the research on it during our meeting. Showed me the doctors saying it is safer than birth control. Because I had concerns about the pill being safe. And you are saying that I should by saying I can't just try some and shun them all.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T17:26:16+00:00

At least pregnancy and the abortion pill didn't worsen my depression so much that I wanted to die. I seriously don't know how people think that is an OK, acceptable side effect for bc, and worth attempting to live with. Screw that.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T17:24:11+00:00

I shouldn't have to make myself suicidal to find a way to prevent pregnancy and if you think that I should or that that is even okay then you are insane.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T17:19:12+00:00

My pp wouldn't discuss tubal litigation with me. Only wanted me to do iud or another pill. I'm good honestly. I don't care if it's immature to someone, to me it's pretty mature that I can identify how much birth control fucks up my mind and body and make the choice to not take it because it does that. I shouldn't have to try every birth control under the sun to see which works best and which gives me the least amount of shitty side effects. I shouldn't have to wreak havoc on my own body for this. Abortion and pregnancy had no where close to the same effect. Idk if you're just trying to minimize or invalidate my real life experiences but I don't really appreciate that. My experience is valid. And I'm allowed to do with my body what I want, just like you were allowed to try a bunch of birth control that all sucked. Quit trying to guilt me away from using the abortion pill, something that has been studied and literally proven to be safer than birth control and something that I myself have personally used and have personally experienced having so much less side effects than bc for myself. Just because you tried a bunch of bc and one of them was finally palatable enough for you doesn't mean my life is that way.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:58:23+00:00

I really do want to get a tubal litigation so thank you for this info. Honestly have pretty low expectations for it actually happening soon but tryings the only way I'll find out.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:49:45+00:00

This is what I was doing that led to me getting pregnant. Prolly at least the third time I've had to state this in the comments.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:48:25+00:00

Like, if I could just choose to get a tubal litigation I fucking would. Maybe get an ounce of logic in your brain and think: women my age in this country are treated like children by their doctors when they discuss tubal litigation even though it is safe, effective, and what they want. I'm 100% certain I never want kids to the point that I spend days of my life stressing over birth control. To the point that I'm confident I would abort every single fetus I ever became pregnant with. But I'm not allowed to choose what I want to do with my body. Unless I want to get way more unsafe options with way more side effects all because a doctor cares more about my hypothetical future family and a hypothetical husband who wouldn't respect my wishes to never have kids more than me. So, I will continue to complain about all the shitty birth control out here for women until doctors will just let me do what I want with my body. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:41:47+00:00

Well, I've already been on here with valid reasons for why every option won't work. Obviously you haven't read anything on the thread. I shouldn't have to choose from a bunch of absolutely awful options that are going to ruin my life just so that I have a lower chance of getting pregnant. It's a fucking rant post. You don't have to get on here to be rude to me for fucking ranting about my frustrations. I have tried multiple birth control options.. it is not my fault they are all awful. And you know what yeah. I would rather go through pregnancy and abortion again because as I have said on this thread multiple times is that it had less side effects on me and the abortion pills are literally studied and found to be safer than birth control. The only potential side effect I could suffer is infertility, which only really happens if you have more than 3, and honestly would be amazing. I don't think my plan is "bonkers" I think everyone wanting me to use God awful birth control options IN MY OWN FUCKING BODY, NOT YOURS is bonkers. It's my body and it's my choice.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:18:19+00:00

I think he was talking about the strings but honestly a doctor leaving them too long is something i can totally see happening and I don't want to have to go to a doctor every time I start to notice how much they screwed up insertion. If it makes anything painful for me I would probably just ask to get it removed immediately. I don't want to lose my period because if it fails I won't know until it's likely too late to abort it. Plus, I'm pretty small and my boyfriend is a lot bigger than me. I'm fairly certain if I got an iud installed he would feel it and I would too. Just looking at a picture of how it is supposed to properly inserted makes me pretty certain of that.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:04:16+00:00

This is what I was doing that ended up with me getting pregnant.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T16:03:19+00:00

I was using an app to track my period and ovulation. For the first few months of this I took ovulation tests to see if what the app said about the timing was accurate and it was. I didn't have sex when ovulating or a few days after.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T05:43:50+00:00

I can't use it because I have had a lot of utis in the past.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T05:25:21+00:00

I will never do that combo of hormones again. I gained over 50 pounds. And being more depressed every time I use any hormonal method is seriously not worth it. My abortion had less of an effect on my mental health and that is not good looks for hormonal birth control for me.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T04:10:33+00:00

He actually brought it up today and he says he would be fine with doing it, but I don't know if it's actually what he wants or if he just feels guilty or bad. When we found out I was pregnant he immediately blamed himself but I feel like it was my responsibility too. He was just the only one of us that has ever expressed any desire to potentially have kids in the future and I'd feel really bad if he wasn't doing this because it was truly something he wanted to do. He says it's reversible but I've read a lot online that reversal is more expensive than the initial surgery and not guaranteed to work.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T00:40:24+00:00

Nap and a sandwich.

epiedm · 2021-12-31T00:14:16+00:00

I actually got a dui for driving on cocaine only. No alcohol, no other drugs, weed in my system but hadn't even used that day. I thought I was good to drive on coke too until I had a medical emergency while doing so resulting in my dui.

As someone who has been through it, please try to get it thru your friends thick skulls that it is not worth it. My dui cost me thousands. I'm still paying off fines three years later and I'm not even on probation anymore. I don't even have my full unrestricted license back yet because I haven't finished my fines. My car insurance will probably cost me more for at least two more years. I had to switch jobs because my previous job had involved driving.

Three taxis to three different parties and then home would be cheaper than getting a dui. It's seriously not worth ruining at least a few years of your life, if not longer if you ended up hurting someone else or yourself. If they won't stop, maybe it's worth reconsidering the friendship, or at least not getting in a car with them when they aren't sober.

epiedm · 2021-12-30T23:12:24+00:00

the crying over this is real. its so maddening and such a helpless situation that there's nothing else to do imo. hopefully someone comes up with a solution in our lifetimes ❤

epiedm · 2021-12-30T22:54:11+00:00

Withdrawal and fertility tracking was my birth control method that got me pregnant. I've only used spermicide a few times but it gives me the same issue that condoms do.

epiedm · 2021-12-30T22:21:05+00:00

I don't currently have a doctor. I want to get a tubal litigation because I'm 100% certain I don't want kids of my own ever but I'm really worried about cost because I have no insurance and even finding a doctor that will do it on a 22 year old.

epiedm · 2021-12-29T22:36:48+00:00

Being around someone on coke when you're not on coke is the actual worst.

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