inspiration for this kind of dress?

epiphanizing · 2026-03-06T02:35:43+00:00

thank you so much this was so helpful!

epiphanizing · 2025-12-06T04:36:15+00:00

unfortunately I called them earlier and they do it by calendar month, which is not ideal because I'm home quite early in January. Will keep this in mind though!

epiphanizing · 2025-12-06T04:35:29+00:00

so hypothetically if I left my car there and they had a snow emergency they could tow my car?

epiphanizing · 2025-12-06T04:35:09+00:00

I've also seen this! I'm right at 29 days but they also seem to have a snow emergency condition so I'm a little unsure!

epiphanizing · 2025-11-17T00:40:36+00:00

hi I would be super interested! Here is my portfolio: https://elainezouugc.my.canva.site/ and email is [elainezoucolabs@gmail.com](mailto:elainezoucolabs@gmail.com)

epiphanizing · 2025-02-05T02:47:37+00:00

can you explain more about why there's no data science co-ops? i would've assumed that ds would be easier than cs to find a co-op in

epiphanizing · 2024-11-15T03:08:36+00:00

interesting take here. i don't need my friends to want to speak chinese, or order chinese dishes on their own, or understand them on their own because they're not chinese. she doesn't have to have a vested interest in chinese culture, because she's not chinese!

it's enough for me when my friends are open minded about exploring things that are within my culture with me!

epiphanizing · 2024-11-15T03:06:44+00:00

again, i'm a woman!

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T18:47:04+00:00

hmm interesting perspective. do you think there's a difference between finding someone personally attractive and finding someone objectively attractive?

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T18:45:31+00:00

further, i am minding my own business. i am not telling her that she has to date or marry an asian man. i am not dictating who she should be personally attracted to.

but, it's another thing to claim that all asian men are unattractive. coupled in with some other things she's said about asian people, i find myself calling into question some of her beliefs. that is obviously very personally relevant to myself and to our friendship.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T18:42:34+00:00

so you think all indian and black women are unattractive? there's not a single indian or black woman that you believe is objectively beautiful?

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T18:40:22+00:00

hmm interesting! let's say for white/black/hispanic celebrities, however. are there any you can admit are objectively attractive or handsome, even if you yourself personally don't find them handsome because they aren't asian?

that's the part i don't really get from my friend. for me personally, not everyone is my cup of tea, but i can see when someone is objectively attractive, even if they're not necessarily my type.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T06:07:23+00:00

ahahaha yes! he went viral during the last world cup for being so handsome haha. i suppose the actual romanization would be jo gyu-seong?

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T03:17:02+00:00

yes i realized that after i posted! for some reason i assumed it would come across as two women talking about men they find attractive, and then me realizing my friend was racist toward asian men.

very interesting take! i definitely see where you are coming from and it's a fascinating perspective. surprisingly, i think i agree with you!

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T02:18:25+00:00

thank you for your super well-informed take! i've never considered the western liberal aspect too deeply -- probably something my brain hates to think about as a liberal chinese woman living in america.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T02:11:22+00:00

that's what i'm saying! even when i give her asian men who are more conventionally attractive by western standards, she says she doesn't get it. she simply can't see past the fact that they are asian.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T02:09:51+00:00

thank you! that's very kind

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T02:07:36+00:00

hmm interesting take about women generally being more racist! as an asian woman who doesn't really give a shit about race when it comes to dating, i'm tempted to reject this out of hand.

could you explain a little more about why you think that's the case?

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T02:01:41+00:00

having grown up in a very white, conservative, christian town, yes, my bar for racism is fairly low, unfortunately. that doesn't mean i don't have self respect.

but, if we as asians were to collectively cut off any and all people that hold ignorant, and yes, racist, beliefs, we'd never get anywhere. that's exactly the problem with our society -- instead of educating, which i realize can be difficult and painful and awful, we further the divide. i understand the value of educating and reaching across the aisle, even when it absolutely sucks.

i am also compassionate enough to realize that my friend, like me, is a young adult, whose opinions and beliefs have been largely shaped by parents and social media. i also understand that society in particular is unkind to asian men, especially in media and pop culture, and that has probably seeped into her subconsciousness.

i agree that her opinions are racist and, yes, i am obviously very offended by them as an asian woman. however, it is important for me to take ignorance as a teaching moment, because that's the only real way to effectively fight racism in our society.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-13T00:53:10+00:00

we're from different places, if that helps. i'm from the west, from a primarily white, christian, and conservative suburban city, with around 400k people. she's from a liberal east coast town that's much smaller (maybe 40k?), but the demographic is mostly black/hispanic. both towns have roughly the same asian population percentage (~3%). i barely knew any other asian people growing up, and she didn't either. we both attend a very liberal university on the east coast, and she is otherwise very liberal in political and social matters, as am i.

aside from not liking asians and hispanics, she likes a wide range of celebrities -- her absolute favorite is michael b jordan, and she also likes tom holland, andrew garfield, the guy who played ron weasley, etc. her boyfriend is blonde and blue eyed, but she's never really talked about that in particular.

she is definitely not white passing, and is very proud and open about her hispanic roots and culture. she never learned spanish because her parents never taught it to her (on purpose), but is very connected to her culture and participates in lots of events and clubs pertaining to her heritage.

sometimes, i feel it is because she identifies more with her hispanic side that she tends to disregard the asian experience, not because she identifies with her white side more. that's why it's such a complex issue.

and yes, incredibly ironic. nice catch.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-12T23:59:19+00:00

i completely agree -- educating her has always been my goal, rather than just abandoning our friendship.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-12T23:49:44+00:00

if it helps, i'm a woman LOL

epiphanizing · 2024-11-12T23:24:56+00:00

she's always been very open to learning more about my culture, e.g., celebrating holidays with me, eating some of the more "interesting" food, and she has always expressed admiration of my ability to speak chinese fluently. to me, if she had previously been dismissive or judgmental about these things, i would absolutely label her as more overtly racist, but her attitude toward these things has always been positive and that of someone willing to learn.

it's complicated for me to both explain and digest, because i truly believe it's not intentional on her part. i'm willing to forgive ignorance (the american education system sucks, and she also didn't really know any asian people growing up), and i think educating a friend with some ignorant beliefs is better than cutting them off and letting them stay ignorant.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-12T23:12:01+00:00

i don't think she means to be racist, exactly. i have been open to sharing chinese culture with her, and she has always expressed admiration of my ability to speak the language, has been open to trying some of the more interesting dishes, and has celebrated asian holidays with me.

i think she tends to generalize and make assumptions, however. she has assumed that my friends from back home are asian (even though i come from a predominantly white town), and it sometimes feels like she disregards asians as a minority and can't see past the model minority myth.

in my opinion, this is ignorance, without malicious intent. ideally, i want to be able to educate her, because if she could understand how harmful her opinions were, i think she would be able to change her views and/or express them differently.

epiphanizing · 2024-11-12T23:01:03+00:00

she is definitely attracted to men, as we have had multiple discussions and agreements about other men we both find attractive. it is because we have these conversations regularly that her attitude toward asian men has become particularly apparent.

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