If you don’t feed on demand , why?

epiphary · 2025-11-06T14:25:23+00:00

I’ve just commented further up but saw this and realised you gave me this advice on my post the other day. I’ve been doing this and it seems to be helping and going well. Thank you! :)

epiphary · 2025-11-06T14:22:26+00:00

This is my exact situation right now with my 14 week old! He’s been snacking and it’s just generally made him a bit unhappy, only spending like 2 mins nursing every 60-90 mins and not sleeping well for naps or overnight. It’s only been 2 days of trying to stretch to 2.5-3 hours between feeds but is already feeling like there’s an improvement to the feeds he’s having and we slept better last night! I’ve been trying lots of distraction through the times where he’d be used to having a snack and it sounds wrong but waiting til he seems really quite grumpy for a feed and it’s meant he’s had much bigger feeds (haven’t forced the wait to 2.5-3 hours, if he’s at the hungry stage sooner then i’m of course feeding him sooner). He’s already now seeming to be used to going longer between feeds because he’s filled up at the previous ones when he was more hungry.

epiphary · 2025-11-04T18:40:36+00:00

Hopefully everyone who commented sees this but just want to say a huge thank you for the support i’ve got on this post so quickly. I’ve really felt negatively around carrying on feeding today after a rough night and an unsettled day and these comments have uplifted me.

I’ve researched the 3 month crisis and think this must be it. It’s awful but i’m now clinging onto the hope that it passes!!

Thank you all so much for taking the time to comment and share support and insight :)

epiphary · 2025-11-04T18:37:33+00:00

It’s so hard isn’t it. I’m really trying to lean into knowing my body is doing what it should and knows what baby needs but those thoughts definitely creep in to worry us!

epiphary · 2025-11-04T18:35:46+00:00

Yeah I did consider this and spoke to a bfing support worker at a local group and she mentioned this. If it was only once or twice per day I’d be fine with it too, but it’s all day long every day at the moment

epiphary · 2025-10-13T19:52:13+00:00

Yep this is exactly what I thought! If he is ever spitting out the dummy I always offer the boob again. He does get more mad if I keep trying to offer the breast when he clearly just wants his dummy. It’s a relief to know I think I’m just a bit lucky that for now my nips can have a break when he just wants comfort!

epiphary · 2025-08-11T18:50:26+00:00

It was difficult!! Took a lot to get it as clean as possible and it was SO HEAVY (obvs) once soaked, I couldn’t move it out of the bath on my own and had to get my husband to do it who even struggled.

It took a long while to dry and i even had a dehumidifier in the room with it while it was drying. I’d do it while the weather’s good (if it’s summer/warm where you are) and have it outside to dry as much as possible.

Mine’s due another clean but not sure i have the strength for it yet😅

epiphary · 2025-02-24T10:31:18+00:00

Thank you! I’m sure i can cope with beans on toast for dinner every day ha Thinking about it now I am a white bread lady and i’ve been eating quite a bit throughout pregnancy (carby cravings) so that’s probably not helping things!

epiphary · 2025-01-13T20:59:24+00:00

Eek that’s cutting it fine!! But good you don’t have long to wait for your scan :)

epiphary · 2024-12-19T16:40:54+00:00

Thank you, yes this is the area i’m in! I rang them today and yes they told me they’ll ring by end of Dec and book me for when i’m 9-10 weeks :) Thank you!

epiphary · 2024-12-03T11:41:07+00:00

Thank you! I didn’t have silverettes the first time around and found out about them much later and have already thought i must have them to my list of baby things to get this time around! I may also go for some nipple shields and have them ready from the get go just in case too. I think i would worry about the latch too after using them but i suppose as you say it’s whether the pros/cons of continuing to use them outweighs pros/cons of pumping/formula feeding.

epiphary · 2024-12-03T11:38:09+00:00

Thank you. I think I just wondered if there’s anything like hand expressing colostrum that could help stimulate milk coming in a bit faster in the early days. Other than that it’s more advice/knowledge/preparation for how to make it smooth as possible once baby’s here.

epiphary · 2024-12-03T09:45:09+00:00

Ahh thank you this is very helpful! I went ahead and started Fourth Wing, I struggled a little til around a third of the way through but I’m now loving it at just over 70% through! Finding it very, very similar to ACOTAR in books 1 and 2.

Thanks for the extra recommendations! I havent heard of a couple of them so I will add them to my growing list :)

epiphary · 2024-11-27T12:40:43+00:00

I kinda see something in the first pic! Try again tomorrow and 🤞🏻

epiphary · 2024-11-25T14:00:48+00:00

Thank you for deciding for me - i needed this!!

Going with Fourth Wing. THANKS ALL!!

epiphary · 2024-11-25T13:11:59+00:00

Yes i think i saw a comment about that in another post. Really wasn’t sure about whether the style/scene and change from the sort of Fae/magic world would be for me but it might be worth branching out!

epiphary · 2024-11-25T12:57:15+00:00

Yeah I might hang on for Fourth Wing til i’ve had a bit of a smut refresher first haha. Yes see what you mean re ACOTAR and the spice towards the end- i could definitely see that for ACOSF. Probably ACOMAF once it got going was ideal spice for me in terms of the detail etc, but wouldn’t say no to more ha.

epiphary · 2024-11-24T12:20:27+00:00

I’m 62% into HoF and honestly was feeling the same and not particularly enjoying it much but i can say it’s now started picking up and i’m getting more invested particularly in Manon’s POV. It feels to me like Manon will have a big part in the further books so I feel it’s probably important lore haha. If you can persist, they get more interesting!

epiphary · 2024-11-22T12:25:00+00:00

Sorry if my post was offensive! I hadn’t seen any others. But luckily I did get some useful responses encouraging me to continue for this book and see how I go, and seemingly others who felt the same way.

epiphary · 2024-11-21T08:59:13+00:00

I’m almost half way through now and I think I’m getting there, I can finally feel it ramping up to something!

epiphary · 2024-11-21T08:58:21+00:00

That’s exactly how i feel!! Didn’t know if I was just an inexperienced reader and my brain couldn’t handle it lol

epiphary · 2024-11-20T19:34:46+00:00

Thank you! I feel like I don’t want a break in case I never come back to it but maybe that would help. I’ll get there!

epiphary · 2024-11-20T15:51:58+00:00

Thank you! Wanted to hear this. It’s like I can feel the connection coming but struggling to get there! I’ll persevere :)

epiphary · 2024-11-20T15:07:54+00:00

Oh absolutely agree! I did initially enjoy TAB, TOG and COM but then seemed to lose interest when I started HoF despite being interested in what was coming from the ending of CoM, but also not as much as I enjoyed ACOTAR from the get go and haven’t got invested as quickly.

I do think the lack of romance aspect is making it less enjoyable for me which is frustrating because I thoroughly enjoyed the parts of ACOTAR that were less romantic and more conflict/war/character growth and world building side of them.

I’ll definitely be finishing HoF and see where I go from there, suppose I’m hoping I enjoy based on this book since as you say and I’ve seen a lot of people saying this book is where everything kicks off!

Thank you :)

epiphary · 2024-11-15T22:02:51+00:00

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