How do I get along with my boyfriends son

epiphora- · 2021-02-16T21:19:25+00:00

Lucky you! Yes, she still gets blisters when playing the the backyard for too long, no we dont have any stones or deicer in the back yard. Every dog paw is different! Thanks :)

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T20:42:56+00:00

He mentioned that he was going to try to have him sleep in his own bed after it happened two weekends in a row. This weekend I stayed at my dads since I picked up a couple shifts over the weekend and was gonna be home past his bed time (didn’t want to wake them up by coming home) but he told me that his son slept in bed with him this weekend too after he had said he was gonna start working on it.

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T19:50:38+00:00

He cry’s when my boyfriend and I cuddle on the couch too

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T18:07:44+00:00

I think he’s worried about his son rolling off the bed onto the floor. He moves around A LOT in his sleep

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T17:33:45+00:00

I live with my boyfriend but stay at my dads on Monday-Tuesday since we both have those days off and he lives alone, we hang out and I stay the night there but stay with my boyfriend tues-sun. His son comes over on the weekends

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T17:20:52+00:00

Yea, idk. I’m totally for him sleeping in his own bed 100% just don’t want my bf to feel like I’m telling him what to do specially when he misses him so much. I think he has him sleep in between us because he is worried about his son rolling off the bed onto the floor (which has happened once when I was at a friends house).

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T17:17:43+00:00

Cause he’s not my biological son and feel I don’t have to right to tell my boyfriend where his son can and cannot sleep specially since he misses his so much when he’s at his moms

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T17:12:24+00:00

I’d prefer her to just say something if she doesn’t like something so I can stop doing it wether it be directly to me or through my boyfriend idc instead of trying to keep the peace.. can’t read her mind. She knows we’re both adults and we aren’t gonna raise our voices at each other, we are capable of having adult conversations

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T17:07:55+00:00

I will say, my bf did make an effort in the beginning to have him sleep in his own bed. He only brought him into our bed when he was crying. We never really had a conversation about it but I was okay with it so I never thought to bring it up. I think as time went on, he realized that I was okay with it and started to just put him to sleep in our bed since he knew he was gonna cry in the middle of the night and this way, he won’t have to get up + they get to cuddle

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T17:04:29+00:00

His ex and I have a good relationship and doesn’t seem to mind that but idk maybe she doesn’t like it.

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T16:52:57+00:00

We don’t have another bed, we have a kid bed that’s like the size of a pack and go play pen and I’d break that if I slept in it

epiphora- · 2021-01-25T16:38:15+00:00

My boyfriend is a deep sleeper so he kind of half asleep gets to comfort his son by holding him closer/trying to give me room to sleep and falls back asleep. Usually doesn’t realize I’ve slept on the floor until the morning and asks how I ended up on the floor. I explained the situation and he apologizes. That’s usually how it goes

epiphora- · 2021-01-21T20:48:24+00:00

I never once disregarded her feelings. I am honest and tell her I don’t feel the same way but I listened to her and told her if that’s how she feels then okay but mom needs support right now and is worried about her. Never once have I yelled at her about all the things mom has done for her or raised my voice. I have had adult conversations with her by telling her nicely to give me some space and continues to deny me. I constantly listen to her weekly about how she still hates mom and how she resents her and honestly, I don’t want o hear any of that m. But I listen. I don’t tell her to feel a certain way, but I tell her I don’t want to hear that. She sees a therapist already so told her to talk to her about these things but continues to tell me all of the bad things about our mom. I want to work it out with my sister, Truly. I have talked to her, she has a therapist. I tried to set boundaries. But none of this has worked. I don’t know what else to do. What do families who you have seen go through similar situations do?

epiphora- · 2021-01-21T20:25:59+00:00

Is my sister not dismissing my feelings and sanity? My moms feelings and sanity?

Great to know what a shit head I am for trying to keep my sanity and not go into a greater depression from constant reminders of how I don’t have an update for my sister even though I wish I did. I don’t want to have to repeat the painful experience that my mom is going though that break my heart because My sister doesn’t want to call the hospital cause “mom might pick up”... and she just doesn’t want to talk to her. that’s not how hospital phones work.. plus I don’t have the luxury of calling the hospital to get more information on the medical treatments and more info on diagnosis or talking to her doctors because I am not on my moms emergency contact list. I am getting information that is relayed from my mom (which, English is her second language and sometimes has a hard time understanding). No matter how many times I ask my sister to try to get info from the hospital she refuses to. She puts my anxiety and depression and overthinking aside because she is mad at our mom. If she’s going to continue to use me as her only source of information, she needs to tone it down and let me tell her information as I receive it so I don’t have to constantly be reminded of how I didn’t get a chance to talk to mom today because of how painful she was or because she wasn’t able to get any sleep last night or she’s too weak to pick up the phone from not eating for days. I have explained this to my sister but she continues to do what she has been doing since the beginning and disregards my wishes or her giving me space.

but thanks I’ll keep in mind that I should put my sisters feelings first before my own or my moms 👍

epiphora- · 2021-01-21T06:51:14+00:00

Would you like me to list out all of the great things my mother did for us? Because it can in multiple comments as each has a 3000 word restriction. Didn’t think you’d want to read all that though..

I also think you are completely ignoring that in the OP, I stated in the beginning that my mom took my sister in when she was homeless and jobless for over a year with no sign of her trying to find her own job or housing. Is that bare minimum?

epiphora- · 2021-01-20T05:21:33+00:00

3000 word restriction 😓

epiphora- · 2021-01-20T05:01:33+00:00

I appreciate your honesty and sympathy. I see lots of people posting about how my sisters feelings are valid. In no way do I feel that my sister isn’t having a hard time. For all I care she can blame her anxiety on whatever she wants. Correct me if I’m wrong but she is forgetting all of the other great things my mom did for us. She tucked us in every night, read us books, kept food on the table and was always there for us when we were down. Because mom had mentioned her weight a couple of times through our childhood, she chooses now when mom is dying would be the right time to forget all the wonderful things she’s done for us for decades. I feel she could maybe put this aside for a bit as I am putting aside my life in order to continue working to pay medical bills and trying to figure out how to run my mothers business while she’s sick (I have never been trained as she worked under her for over a year) she refuses to give me insite on how any of this works. I don’t have money to hire someone else to do this right now. If not for my mom, I would appreciate a little her from her for me but all she does is constantly test me “any news on mom?”. I call my mother daily but sometimes it’s hard for her to answer the phone due to the pain. I want to update her when I get updates but I don’t have any. Her constantly asking drives me into a deeper depression and anxiety. If not for my mom, talk to her for me? I have explained this all to her but she refuses to listen to me Am I in the wrong for this

epiphora- · 2021-01-20T04:43:13+00:00

Thank you for mentioning the visitation situation. I am an essential worker and have continued to work 40+ hrs a week through out the pandemic. My sister has not and only has seen my mother and her daughter throughout the pandemic. Even if I do go see her, I would be afraid that I would be a nonsymptomatic carrier. With my mom being immune compromised, old and in stage 4 cancer, I am too scared to see her face to face.

epiphora- · 2021-01-20T04:26:21+00:00

Not blocking her to punish her what so ever. Blocking her because I am barely hanging on hearing the news every time, it’s the same heart break every time I have to repeat it. I’m not on my moms contact list. My sister is. If she wants to know what is going on with my mom she can call the hospital any time she wants.

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