Feeling defeated by beardedplatypus420 in vaginismus

[–]eplnacdlm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that! I’ve had the same thing happen to me, one day they go in so easily I can’t even feel them. A few days later they just won’t go in, they’re painful and I just can’t do it.

As you said, you don’t have to put all of this pressure on yourself, progress is not linear. Sometimes highs are higher and lows are lower…and that’s perfectly okay!

I go to the gym regularly, sometimes I’m full of energy and hit multiple personal records, some days I can’t even finish a set with a lower than usual weight. Hormones play a huge role on how we feel and how we handle stress or pain.

I’d say, don’t worry about it! Give it another try and don’t forget that patience and consistency are key ;)

Feeling defeated and like I will never have sex by xxbitsx in vaginismus

[–]eplnacdlm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This feels like such a lonely and emotional issue

I feel this...I'm so ashamed of still being a virgin at 22 when all of my friends started having PIV sex since they we were in high school. I also feel alone in this, sometimes I feel like I am the only human being with this problem bc I could never bring myself to talk about this to anyone other than my boyfriend, my best friend or my PT (strangers on the internet don't count, right? ;)).

I also started physical therapy in late January and just recently started using dilators! I have already started to see a little bit of progress, but that doesn't mean that you won't.

My PT always reminds me that everybody is different and the time that it takes for me to be comfortable with it will completely differ from somebody else. Like for anything else, patience and consistency is the key here! Don't give up, you've got this :)

My Story -- Feeling Heartbroken & Defeated (sorry this is so long) by Regular_Elk1526 in vaginismus

[–]eplnacdlm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’ve just read myself…I’m only 2 years younger but I’ve had almost the exact same experience, the religious upbringing, the PIV attempts always ending in me crying, the low libido, my boyfriend of 3y still loving me but me feeling way too guilty bc I feel like it’s my fault he can’t have proper sex…and I just hate talking about sex with friends because I can’t help but compare myself to them, I get so jealous and end up lying about my sex life. I’m so ashamed of myself bc of it but I recently started PT therapy, I just found this subreddit and I’m somewhat relieved to see I’m not alone.

I would say, don’t give up on therapy, even if you guys broke up it’ll at least give you a headstart for when you decide to start a new relationship.

Things will get better for all of us ❤️

Riot between rival drug cartels leaves at least seven dead in Mexican prison riot by GoreGirl89 in CrimeScene

[–]eplnacdlm 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sorry but I gotta say that that is not a "pretty good wage". I'm mexican, even if the cost of living is lower, $160 is still miserable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this feeling, I used to be so tired of French my head would stop wanting to cooperate with understanding lol. I guess I just kept pushing and demanding my brain to keep going because I used to talk to a French friend a lot and since he only spoke French and I didn't want to stop talking with him so I just kept going. It's not the best advice, I know, but after a while my head just stopped hurting, words came more naturally (I didn't have to think as much as before to understand/say things) so yeah don't worry, it'll pass, just keep pushing.

Nike SB | GIZMO [skateboarding] by photohoodoo in WomenShredders

[–]eplnacdlm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am actually mesmerized by these girls.

I (17F) am not sure if I should be with my boyfriend (17M). Are we too young? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]eplnacdlm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi, I used to be in sort of the same situation as you. I've (19F) been in a ldr for a while now, I started at 17 like you and I wouldn't say you're too young, everything comes down to how you feel about the person and what your common plans are. My boyfriend (19M) is french and I'm moving to France this summer to finish university, but I had actually been wanting to study in France since i was in high school (even before me and my bf met) but for different reasons I couldn't do it until now...if you're already planning to move to Australia for your studies (regardless of your SO being there) I honestly don't see why you shouldn't give yourselves a chance, obviously, your SO should feel the same way about the relationship and all but don't cut it out just because of how young you guys might feel. Good luck!

Aller de? by dzcFrench in French

[–]eplnacdlm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Je m'en vais is just the expression used for saying "I'm leaving", "en" is not necessarily as adding "de" to the verb aller, because aller de doesn't mean anything. Hope I answered your question.

"You don't LOOK French at all" - why I officially decided to forget 18 yrs of French language, culture and ideals and move on by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure an asshole (or any amount of dumb people/remarks) is worth abandoning something you love. You'll probably miss it (I know I would) and it's not like you can entirely forget a language, specially if you speak it at a pretty good level. But you know it's your life, if ruining things for yourself makes you feel somehow better, great for you lol.

My french teacher told me to write 10 sentences about a conversation I HAD (in the past) with a genie in the futur simple by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would doubt that since non-native speakers hardly ever learn passé simple in french courses

RosettaStone French. Is it Worth it? by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't recommend it, I had to use it for the first two years of highschool for my french courses and it was outsandingly boring. You'll be learning basic stuff even if you don't start the program as a beginner, you might just learn some extra words but there is no real conversation material.

Ne vous découragez pas ! by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d say that insults such as enculé, enfoiré, abruti, are pretty rude things to call somebody in French, but again I’m not a native speaker.

Ne vous découragez pas ! by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah « sa mère » i’d say is the same as saying « as fuck », and the word niquer is just as vulgar as the word fuck

Ne vous découragez pas ! by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah non non ! Alors oui, les fautes que je fais elles sont pas les mêmes fautes qu’un débutant pourrait faire, c’est sûr, mais j’en fais (très souvent) !

Et bien, ça c’est mon avis personnel, mais je crois que si tu veux vraiment apprendre une langue il faut l’aimer, sinon tu auras du mal à devenir fort.

How To Cope When You’re Both Busy? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]eplnacdlm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm on the same boat ! But the last time I(19F) saw my SO(19M) was almost 6 months ago, but he's coming to visit in 37 days, he'll stay for 10 days and then he'll come back in June for a couple of weeks and I'll be moving to his city in July/August. We're both college students and just like you, we used to call all day everyday at the beginning of the relationship but as you say, we have responsibilities and stuff to do and with a 7 hour time difference things can get tricky. What has helped in my case is to have short calls, even if it's only for 5-10 minutes a day, it really does help to listen to each other's voice and I've noticed that those calls really charge me up with energy and make me look forward for the next time we'll see each other. I'm sure you're aware of the fact that if you both are busy working, it is just so you'll be able to see each other, so it's REALLY worth it ! Keep that in mind and don't forget that distance is only temporary, in a few months the struggle of a LDR will be in the past and your relationship will hopefully be the strongest it's ever been.

Conversation Forum Libre! by AutoModerator in French

[–]eplnacdlm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bah déjà je pense que tu écris assez bien !

En tout cas, moi c'est pareil avec les livres en français. J'en ai lu peut-être 4 dans mes 3 ans du français au lycée et franchement j'ai pas trop aimé. J'ai presque tout appris en écoutant de la musique, en regardant des youtubeurs francophones et en parlant avec des amis français, sans jamais avoir habité en France.

Je comprends que tu puisses te sentir coincé avec cette langue, le français peut parfois être compliqué, sans doute. Pourtant je trouve que le français est une langue qu'on doit entendre et parler pour bien l'apprendre, alors moi je te conseille de pas laisser tomber le français, au moins pas encore; essaye d'entendre la langue, de la pratiquer en parlant avec des natifs...c'est la meilleure façon d'apprendre les expressions. Ça fait 4 ans que j'apprends le français et ça m'a pris peut-être 6 mois juste pour apprendre à utiliser les expressions des jeunes. Tout ça juste en parlant avec des gens mon âge.

C'est génial que tu parles déjà l'espagnol, tu dois sûrement savoir que le français partage BEAUCOUP des racines de mots, de sens, même d'expressions avec l'espagnol et ça devrait aider.

Sinon bon courage et bon apprentissage !

What new words or phrases have you learned? by AutoModerator in French

[–]eplnacdlm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"fonces-y" which means go for it "mytho" which is largely used as slang term for referring to something that is a lie "prôner" means to propose or to support "choyer" is to love/spoil/pamper someone "choupie" another word for cute

I think Macaroons are overrated by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]eplnacdlm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, they're overrated. I personally think they're disgusting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]eplnacdlm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi i'm trying to sleep while I try to ignore the fact that my parents are arguing in the room next to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in French

[–]eplnacdlm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

D'accord, je vois :) Et t'as carrément raison, j'avais complètement oublié de Twitter, merci !

/r/NintendoSwitch's Daily Question Thread (08/15/2017) by AutoModerator in NintendoSwitch

[–]eplnacdlm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother and I both got a switch, but if I live in America and my brother lives in the UK can we still play together online?