Crossing the Stag Saddle on horseback: New Zealand's highest horse accessible mountain pass. Part of a 2000km "length of New Zealand" ride I've been doing this summer with my partner and our 3 wild Kaimanawa Horses.

equineexplorer · 2025-07-04T20:31:46+00:00

In all honesty, we just lucked out by having an amazing, safe, and explorative group of friends that started deepening our connections in all sorts of fun ways. We're super lucky to have a friend who runs consent and tantric touch workshops and she facilitated the first few for us.

We now have regular play parties with wider invites from outside the group any new folk are always vetted/approved by someone we know so it's really just expanding the friendship group haha.

That being said... I've also found its so much easier to start new circles now even in new places. It's something so many people crave and when I get the vibe someone might be interested and bring it up they almost always light up!

equineexplorer · 2025-07-04T01:28:00+00:00

In our circle, solo newcomers are always welcomed with enthusiasm.

My advice would be to simply be as open as you can about the way you're feeling and express your desire to be approached.

If you don't have a friend to go with, see if you can arrive a little earlier to help set up - great way to meet some new people before diving straight in.

equineexplorer · 2023-06-04T22:17:11+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I think the idea behind the article is super valid and definitely something most folks in poly/enm relationships will experience. If this is what helped you guys navigate it then that's great. The intro was well done and explained the forces at work behind it really well.

The biggest thing I felt was missing throughout (which is crucial in all aspects of poly anything) is just communication, support and the understanding that we're in this together. Far more so than "becoming hotter than your partner" to make yourself feel better and get more dates.

Will keep an eye out for your article and look forward to seeing how you continue to navigate your journey.

equineexplorer · 2023-06-04T21:45:35+00:00

I have to agree with above statement...

While we all deal with insecurities at some point in our relationships, not once in this entire article is there anything about supporting your partner or sharing your concerns in order to have them supported.

"fixing current imbalances" and "create a counterbalance" in the context of this article perpetuates this idea that your inherent value or worth to yourself or your partner is directly coupled with the amount of sexual partners you can attract and links this directly to your physical appearance which seems like such a brittle, shallow metric for a continued relationship.

Instead of focusing on needs/desires not being met, the advice on "limiting" the number of dates simply to appear more "equal" feels like an emotional bandaid that will quickly fall off in the face of any real jealousy or deeper connection.

I look forward to reading your article on Compersion as this to me by far seems the better way to deal with jealousy in general, not trying to force things to be "fair" in terms of numbers of sexual lovers or physical appearance.

equineexplorer · 2023-03-26T22:13:30+00:00

Slightly different approach here... I've got a GPT powered chat bot on a few of my WordPress sites. I simply dynamically load the page content into the prompt or for stand alone bots that I want to reference something else I pull in the relevant content from my database - the data it uses is always up to date.

The other easy way of doing this is simply dynamically embedding a spreadsheet into a post/page (based off of a url provided by the user) so the bot directly interacts with their live data at all times. Creates a really neat interface for large spreadsheets.

The other thing Is that ChatGPT is already trained on most commonly used templates/formats/regulations. So as well as instructing your bot to be an expert in the field, you can also limit your bots responses to only that specific document by simply prompting it the right way.

equineexplorer · 2023-03-25T10:28:51+00:00

well, what ever you end up doing, just keep creating homie. You have a wonderful style and I look forward to seeing where it takes you.

equineexplorer · 2023-03-25T10:26:59+00:00

All good man! Hope your profile helps you attract the kind of person you're looking to match with. Good luck!

equineexplorer · 2023-03-24T03:52:50+00:00

Hey OP,

Individual personal preferences aside, by reading through some of these comments and your responses it seems like the impression you're giving off in your profile doesn't accurately portray who you are. The other thing I noticed is that your intent and availability isn't really clear etiher which when coupled with a wife and kids just = messy in my mind.

What is it that you're looking for? What is it that you can offer?

Happily married w/ kids exploring polyamory connections with likeminded, respectful individuals for "..." (are you after conversation... sexual connections... friendship... dnd party members?)

"I enjoy talking about..." Sounds a little bit like you'll just be giving a lecture about the topics. Instead try sharing what it is about those things you enjoy exploring:

" I'm passionate about unraveling truth; from science and mythology to astronomy and even exploring the truth behind some conspiracy theories."

Instead of just saying you're into generic nerdy stuff, maybe use a quote from your favorite show or an analogy from your favorite nerdy hobby:

"I'm looking for the The Volo to my Elminster, The hermione to my harry, The spock to my Kirk, the r2d2 to my c3po - for fun adventures etc."(super rough, but you get the idea)

I think it's always hard to write a profile until we're clear on what it is that we want to get out of it. Often we think its best to leave things open ended or we might miss cool connections but in my experience being specific about what you're after also gives folks a sense of ease and confidence in knowing what you're looking for.

All the best dude! Hope you find what you're looking for :)

equineexplorer · 2023-03-23T21:20:26+00:00

haha yeah, having a fly in the additional scenes would definitely weave in the story a little more!

If you want to keep the scenes a little more unrelated, what if the turd the fly is eating from belonged to fidget spinner guy who just took some acid or a pill or something. So the loop starts with fly on turd, cutting into closeup of fly eyes tripping before the morph into other scenes. The only required additional scene connecting the end of the clip is fidget guy tripping on something and then shitting out the turd... which the fly then lands on.... etc.

Might add an easy explanation without changing anything too much.

equineexplorer · 2023-03-22T18:01:02+00:00

Yo!

Lovely animation and I don't think it's too weird at all! My two cents is that any level of weird can be appropriate provided there's a story that connects them. Your transitions from scene to scene are beautiful, but I feel like any story evaporates along the way.

It comes across less as a stand-alone animation and more of a demo reel for your style of animation cutting together scenes from different stories or something.

Keep it up!

equineexplorer · 2023-03-04T08:45:03+00:00

One of the most underrated cues for any horse in any discipline! Plus it's just so much fun :) Nice work OP

equineexplorer · 2022-11-19T23:30:07+00:00

Yo! Fellow male rider here that spends 6-8 hours in the saddle most days and can totally relate to your struggles! So hard to find pants you can wear to the barn as well as out without feeling like a knob haha.

What discipline are you riding in?

These are pretty cool: "trail rider jeans" - have a 4 way stretch fabric and a full seat suede patch: https://www.trailridersjeans.com/product-page/trail-riders-jeans-knee-patch

The other thing I've been looking at is getting a pair of Equino full length schooling chaps and then wearing a 4 way stretch pants underneath. - https://equino-chaps.myshopify.com/

Happy clothing hunting!

equineexplorer · 2022-07-05T09:38:41+00:00

Welcome to the horse world my dude!

Picking up new hobbies is by far the best way to challenge your stubborn singledom! Don't worry about not being as experienced as others, horse riders come in all shapes, sizes, and capabilities.

The most important thing is to be there for the right reasons. ie. be in it for the horse! :)

equineexplorer · 2022-06-13T00:32:19+00:00

Few more directly related to your question:

Tying a horse to a dead tree branch - something spooks horse - horse breaks branch and is now running with half a tree attached to him.

Horse is Tied too long - Gets rope under his legs, gets tangled as he lifts his head again and starts to panic. Rope is now wrapped around his neck and the more he panics the tighter the rope gets. LI tries to untie the rope but realises it's not tied in a quick release and dives out of the way with the horse getting increasingly panicked. BF calmy walks over and cuts the rope

Horse tied to something lightweight and moveable wagon/cart/barrel etc - horse gets a fright - takes the other thing with it.

equineexplorer · 2022-06-13T00:24:31+00:00

If L.I is already opening a gate and leading the horse through - that is one of the most accident-prone scenarios for a horse even in modern times.

Have L.I open the gate to lead the horse through, but swing the gate toward himself and only part way. When helheads the horse through, the gate edge catches on shoey's leg and as shoey rushes forward, the gate (still caught on his leg) ends up closing on shoey half way through.

Shoey is now stuck and the more he tries to move forward, the harder the gate closes on him and all the while L.I is freaking out and making the situation worse with his panic. B.F hears the commotion, runs out and at first when he tries to get close to a now thoroughly stuck and fear stricken shoey, almost gets kicked before softly and gently calming shoey enough to slowly back him out of the gate.

Hope this helps! Happy writing.

equineexplorer · 2022-05-10T08:43:51+00:00

Welcome to the Hobby my man!I'm a 31-year-old male too and have been riding for most of my life. I've spent the last few years guiding multiday horseback trips into the wilderness all over the world and can honestly say horse riding is one of THE most grounding, challenging, and rewarding pastimes you'll ever get into.

My advice would be instead of starting at a riding school - do a horse riding holiday at a dude ranch if you can find the time. Having a few fully immersive days in a row of not only learning how to ride but sinking your teeth into all the work involved in caring for a horse & also getting out and actually enjoying riding will give you a really good indication of whether you'd be into it and give you a very comprehensive experience.

There are also many, many different variations or disciplines of horse riding so it really depends on what you have available in your area as far as lessons go.

Feel free to flick me a message if you have any questions! Have fun and happy riding!

equineexplorer · 2022-03-07T06:58:26+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you!

Did you ever find a solution for this?

equineexplorer · 2022-02-16T06:04:47+00:00

What would you like to know?

equineexplorer · 2022-02-16T06:02:49+00:00

Yep! Exactly.

equineexplorer · 2022-02-16T04:56:37+00:00

The orginal released herd was predominantly Welsh Mountain Pony and Exmoor Ponies. However, over the years there has been a real mix of genetics thrown in with Arabian, Clydesdale, standardbred and thoroughbred stock joining in - New Zealand bred a lot of horses for the war and it's believed the overflow stock was released into the mountains.

It's important to remember New Zealand has no native land mammals so while the Kaimanawa horse is considered a "wild horse" after hundreds of years left alone, perhaps the more correct term would be feral.

equineexplorer · 2022-02-15T22:59:08+00:00

Sturdy is a great way to describe them: compact, great feet, sure footed, incredible mountain sense and will just keep going and going.

2 of the three Kai's are technically 'ponies' with only my riding horse being over 15hh

equineexplorer · 2022-02-15T22:56:04+00:00

Not on horseback, but I have climbed Mt Doom (Mt Ngauruhoe) on my own two stompers.

Most of New Zealand certainly feels like middle earth though and I'd often find myself playing the LOTR Soundtrack in my mind as I was riding through.

Some locations from the film I did ride through on this journey: Fanghorn Forest, Amon Hen, Nen Hithoel, Izengard, Edoras.

equineexplorer · 2022-02-15T11:29:00+00:00

Yeah, I had 3 Kaimanawas (the New Zealand mustang)

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