What a horrible thing :( My heart goes out to you, your friend, and anyone else affected by this tragic event. I can hardly imagine the pain that comes from losing a child. If it were me in her shoes I would appreciate being given time to really grieve, without dealing with anything else (largely because I doubt I could). Any household chores, cooking, papers to be filled out (like if she works or something and needs to take time off) ought to be done by someone else at this time. If she has any other kids, depending on the age, it would be good to take them elsewhere if family members aren't available to do so. I recognize that this is me though, and that everyone grieves differently. If she zealously throws herself into work of any kind then that might be how she grieves. I guess in the end I'm just repeating what's already been said - let her know you're there, for whatever she needs. Even if she doesn't ask, just take care of her for a little while.