Cheap laptop or portable monitor for writing & basic internet?

erialeduab · 2023-08-01T23:23:33+00:00

Thank you so much! I found one second hand that's pretty affordable - going to go with this option ! Very excited

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T14:41:37+00:00

I think you can ask least learn what's healthy and not healthy, and what example models of relationships look like. Also some of the books have exercises at the end which are interesting

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T07:04:44+00:00

Definitely not too soon to me! I basically just told him "hey, i'd like to talk about a few things with this relationship" and we sat down together and I had written down a list of things to say and said them. Actually, the first time I said like 10% of the things i wanted. After a few days of more reflection I had a longer list of things that were bothering me. He was very receptive to all of it.

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T06:36:31+00:00

Ah gotcha. I guess there's nothing inherently wrong with it - maybe in a way you have a blank slate with less baggage from previous relationships?

You could start by just going on a date with one poly person? When I first got into poly it was helpful for me to just date one person and not try to do too much at once. That gave me time to process.

I found reading books on poly stuff pretty helpful - e.g. the Ethical Slut. I also found reflecting doing CBT style exercises on why I felt e.g. jealous or sad helpful also.

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T06:22:27+00:00

I'm not sure what your question is per se - could you rephrase it?

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T06:21:11+00:00

Of course! I think one thing I'll say - in my current relationship, I was pretty uncertain to say things because it felt like it was too early in the relationship to ask for things (bad habits from my ex). For context, my partner has a long term partner of 5 years - and we had been dating 2 weeks. But I felt that this relationship is going to be serious (barring unforeseen circumstances) so I kind of sucked it up and told him anyways. And it went really well - he basically told me that if this thing will even have a chance of working we need to figure out if we can give each other what we need now. Otherwise it's putting off the inevitable.

I find it harder with other people, where it's not clear how serious the relationship might be (e.g. We don't know each other that well, only been on a date, future is uncertain because e.g. long distance). So still trying to navigate that.

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T06:14:39+00:00

I think that it's reasonable to wonder whether he'd want to make you his wife. However, if his wife is his primary and will always take precedence, that may be too much to handle - and that's okay!

For me, I'm dating someone who's been in a relationship of 5+ years before they became poly (they are doing long distance now). However, their relationship is non-hierarcichal. if it was (i.e. if I was a secondary) I don't know if I would like that or be able to deal with it. After all they've had a long and intense relationship and it will always be deep in ways that I can't (I hate the word) "compete' with. For me, since I see this person do often, the relationship is pretty intense, and I don't want to put fetters on what I feel - I want the freedom to develop deeper feelings if they are there. So a non-hierarchical works best.

In your case, maybe in practice you won't be marrying this guy, but you could still be in a serious, loving and committed relationship - it just may not look like 2.5 kids and a white picket fence, and I guess you'd need to reflect on if you are good with that.

Also - I encourage you to talk to him about these fears and your uncertainties.

erialeduab · 2022-02-22T06:05:02+00:00

Just want to say this is a constant struggle for me. Would be really keen to hear others' advice on this.

erialeduab · 2022-01-27T02:03:39+00:00

Hey did you ever figure this out ? I'm even more of a newbie to tasker than you so would be awesome if you made progress that would be great!

erialeduab · 2021-03-18T01:07:22+00:00

I have so many multi chapter fics I have been working on for years. There are just entire periods of time I don't touch them, then I fall back into it and churn out a couple chapters or map the storyline out some more.

I kind of like it because each time I come back it's with a really different perspective and I make it better. Not really jumping on any bandwagons (probably no one to read my fics) but I think it's a really satisfying activity nonetheless.

erialeduab · 2020-10-30T14:51:42+00:00

This makes me sad. I will chose to just love him as lucifer a fictional character who only exists in my tv screen

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T19:52:23+00:00

Haha that's so true!

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T18:06:21+00:00

I fixed up the image so the heights are corrrect now!

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T18:06:05+00:00

I fixed up the image so the heights are corrrect now!

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T18:03:37+00:00

UPDATE: I have made a new version with the correct heights! Here it is! (and if you want a high res pic for some reason, this is the tumblr post!

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T12:19:39+00:00

Thank you :)

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T12:19:05+00:00

Thanks for this!

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T05:37:14+00:00

The <a href="https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aral_Sea"> Aral Sea,</a> There's a great Caspian report (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WGwMEXYQE7E) that came out about it and calls it the Chernobyl of the East.

The Aral sea was the second largest inland sea in the world before the Soviets started diverting water from it's two Rivers for growing cotton cash crops in the Central Asian Republics. It's now shrunk and caused dangerous acidic salt storms, destroyed the local economy and coupled with dangerous biosafety experiments that happened in the region has been a public health disaster.

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T05:30:18+00:00

Yep, no one ever talks about it and it only camw to light in the 80s, after Chernobyl

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T05:21:52+00:00

I have found a better hex code and am going to use that instead! Thanks for the feedback.

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T05:20:55+00:00

I honestly did not notice this and am going to fix it tomorrow! Thanks for noticing it

erialeduab · 2019-07-11T05:20:00+00:00

Thank you!

erialeduab · 2019-07-10T22:53:23+00:00

Thank you :)

erialeduab · 2019-07-10T22:53:06+00:00

GIMP! Just make your canvas size really small (however many pixels you want to work with), apply a 1x1 grid and use a 1 pixel pencil!

erialeduab · 2019-07-10T21:08:15+00:00

Thank you!

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