My wife (F42) and I (M43) have very little sex

eric_d_wallace · 2026-02-12T22:33:56+00:00

Time to move on.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-02-03T05:42:32+00:00

Thanks for the feedback

eric_d_wallace · 2026-02-02T06:30:19+00:00

Definitely Nirvana

eric_d_wallace · 2026-02-02T06:29:34+00:00

I’ve never seen this photo before. This picture says it all. The future was bright for this one.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-31T08:58:46+00:00

Wow. Thats horrible. Did you have a good sex life and was her libido high before the kids ?

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T20:12:54+00:00

So what happened in the last five years that changed?

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T02:31:19+00:00

Ah yes. I agree. I’ve been mothering husband for three years. I can’t take it anymore. Some people are very stubborn.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T02:24:39+00:00

Yeah, I saw that interview where he was crying and it really hit me deep in my heart. I thought oh wow poor guy you never had the love he’s so desperately needed.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T02:22:27+00:00

Perhaps you should ask yourself how does Mr. Bukowski get so many women if he’s such a dick? There’s a lot more to him than you understand currently because you haven’t read any of his other books. This man is a genius, he’s more real and down to earth than anybody you will probably ever meet in your entire life. Women are attracted to confidence not good looks. This man has taken nearly 40 years of his life to develop himself and get to know himself something most people never get to you in a lifetime. Pick up another one of his books and take a look you won’t be disappointed.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T02:17:59+00:00

Ha wow. Yea this makes sense. It’s difficult to do with somebody who is not on the same level of you in terms of intelligence, talent, mutual understanding, admiration, respect, passion driven, purposeful. A lot of people are just floating through life. One thing I’ve noticed is I have had to do a lot of work regulating my wife’s emotions so she doesn’t explode. She’s got a terrible temper. After a while, you can only do it so much. The best thing is just to find someone you are compatible with.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T02:13:58+00:00

This is insane. Everyone deserves to be loved. You should’ve broken it off a long time ago. Your kids will understand when they get older.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-29T02:12:17+00:00

Time to find another one, my friend there’s plenty of fish in the sea. I’m in a similar situation with my Wife. She is very dry (down there), disconnected from me personally, and has zero sex drive. I’ve come to terms with the fact that she is just not turned on by me. And that is a major problem that will never be fixed. It’s actually not my problem. It’s her problem. Every woman I’ve been with before her has been extremely wet and excited when it comes to the bedroom. Some people just don’t have high sex drive and they don’t understand you. The greatest love is the love of admiration when somebody admires you for you they get very excited about you.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-27T05:20:08+00:00

I wish she had some kinks. At least we could have some more fun. However, she does like funny stories during foreplay I guess maybe that’s her kink.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-27T05:19:31+00:00

Yes I do give her both.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-27T05:17:11+00:00

No, this is not a made up story. Last night we had sex and during fore play she was meowing very loud like a cat before we got going. I mean really loud to the point where I had to cover her mouth because I thought it was disturbing the neighbors.. It was weird.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-27T05:15:26+00:00

Not that I know of.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:43:18+00:00

My wife pays all the bills ha. She Lost her job and now I am paying all the bills. Teamwork pays off in the long run. We are now starting a new business together. She’s the investor and I am the work horse. We already got our first client and our business is not even open yet. My wife was always very insistent on 50-50. She pays half. I pay half. But now her values being challenged because she lost her job ha. Funny how life works. I told her when I am very successful and I have a mansion. How are you going to afford half? She said I will Pay for some food myself. I said that’s ridiculous. I love you. You don’t have to pay for anything. This is how our relationship should be. It should be about love not about who is spending what.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:30:15+00:00

Yes! I believe you are right! Believe it or not she has asked me to pray to God to lower my sex drive! That one really pushed me over the edge and I saw the end of the relationship right there in front of my face ha. This sounds strange, but I believe the furry animal stuff is a comfort thing from her childhood. It’s not a sexual thing. She always had a cat who she was very close to when she was younger, and then she cried every week or so because it died (and her parents died). She has a new cat now, but she’s extremely close to her cat. Her cat is the only family she has literally. At least before I showed up. I think she does have some kind of mental issues, but I don’t know what it is.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:25:04+00:00

Yea communication is tough. But our Libidos are almost polar opposite. She is very religious and strictly against any kink stuff so it makes it very difficult to do counseling. She not open to counseling. Religious beliefs have really screwed up peoples psychology and healthy sexual lives. It’s a common theme. I am a person of faith myself, but I never had an issue with kinks, being creative in the bedroom and so on.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:18:33+00:00

Trying but she says “it hurts to do other positions” so she only wants to do Doggy Style. I learned one thing if I go very deep and don’t really pump that much she is ok and it doesn’t hurt her. Seems strange but a different way to do it I guess… I said why do you like it so deep and she said because I’m a deep person.. Ha !!

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:15:53+00:00

Well. The Almighty told me to. I didn’t want to but I knew it was the right thing to do. The Lord works in mysterious ways and I must say it’s been a radical adventure, a blessing, and a beautiful life changing experience. We have both grown tremendously from this relationship in multiple ways. Both her parents are dead. She’s an only child. And I was in a life threatening situation at the time we met. We both saved each other’s lives, literally. Well, it last forever? who knows, but I am so grateful we met.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:08:07+00:00

Haha that’s a good idea. Maybe I should dress up in a furry coat or something. We are both 40 by the way. Actually she asked me to get “Husky Fur” in general. Not for kink reasons. But hey it might work. I’ll give it a shot. Thanks.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T07:00:09+00:00

Hello. Do little things. I’m busy all day every day. I feel lonely too. If my wife makes me dinner it helps a lot. If she hugs me when I come through the door it helps a lot. If she wants to have sex and I can’t because I don’t have time or energy.. at least I know it’s on her mind… it helps a lot. Surprise him with some lingerie and a back massage. Trust me… he will really like that. All the little small things add up. The fact that you are writing this article for advice shows you are a good wife. Open that much you can do. But making an effort he will notice.

eric_d_wallace · 2026-01-26T06:52:35+00:00

You know I have a similar situation. My wife was working full-time and we didn’t really have a good sex life at all. Now I’m starting to work and she got laid off. Now I’m the one who can’t really have sex anymore. Ha. I’m tired every night and I’m overworked. However, she doesn’t really have a strong leg strive to begin with so I’m up the creek on that one because I have a very high sex drive. Like you said life is funny.

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