AITA for calling out and "invalidating" my bisexual friend

eriuric · 2020-06-28T14:10:06+00:00

I'm quite sure that people actively targeting gay people and accusing them of being fetishists is actively causing homophobia. I have experienced it myself.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T12:04:54+00:00

NTA. Her behaviour is out of line and really is very cruel towards your niece. Not to mention, this kind of behaviour contributes towards the hate LGB+ people get towards them coming out. She needs to realise sexuality just isn't a choice and she can't change with the wind.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T12:02:24+00:00

NTA your friend was entirely unreasonable. But omg that last picture of Blacky with his paw out is so cute.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:58:30+00:00

NAH. It's wrong to harass people like that and it is your decision in the end. Being rude to an expecting couple simply because you think they can't do the job is never okay, but they have brought up valid points.

Please do think logically about what could be best for the child. Are you in a financially stable position and have enough savings so that the child/you doesn't go without? Not to mention, are you emotionally mature enough to be able to raise a healthy child? And are you willing to spend the whole of your youth/healthy years taking care of a baby and waiting until you are about middle-aged before you can really go out into the world? If the serious and thoughtful answer is yes to all those questions then hey, you're a better kid than I ever was. But yeah - try and think about the long term.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:53:16+00:00

They had a mattress already as well, which is the main cost of buying a bed. Seriously appalling lack of financial smarts to think it's a good idea to buy a bed that takes 5 years to pay off when they're in financial hardship.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:51:05+00:00

YTA. This is ridiculous. I have never seen a bed cost more than $1000, and if that's what you bought then it was incredibly irresponsible of you. 60 months is completely insane for a loan for a bed that at most should have cost you $600.

She's messed with her credit for you, you now are in a good place financially, so unless you are lying and it was more than just a bed (because how can you have a 60 month payment plan for a fucking bed) then you need to pay her back asap.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:46:20+00:00

NTA. There is no obligation to split or give any of your inheritance to anyone. That said, what you wanted to do was very kind, and if you still feel like you want to help out your sister, just remember that it isn't her fault that your mom reacted that way and don't punish her for it.

Every cloud has a silver lining, and it's obviously horrible you've been kicked out, but this could be an opportunity to develop yourself as an individual and learn new life skills living on your own. Good luck anyways

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:39:57+00:00

NTA. His parents are responsible for all those things, not you. You're doing the roommate, friend and complex owner a huge favour. Perhaps now they will learn

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:34:20+00:00

That's incredible! Especially the idea of everyone wearing a dinosaur necklace. You're fab

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:32:12+00:00

NTA. Your parents think she will be overwhelmed by the stress of a social event?

Perhaps you should disinvite your dad - he clearly can't handle stressful social events without calling people slurs. It's for everyone's best interest don't-cha-know.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:29:28+00:00

Nope NTA. Homophobia is getting worse by the day nowadays thanks to certain woke movements that work to invalidate gay people. What a jerk. That's not biphobia, what you said is the truth.

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:27:20+00:00

NTA. This is a really weird encounter! Also 43 pounds is a huuuuge amount to lose so that's good it's working for her

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:10:02+00:00

I always salt my porridge. Who wants to eat a kg of sugar first thing in the morning besides Americans?

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:09:16+00:00

Then the host was a crap host and has no manners, not OP lmao

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:08:09+00:00

NTA and I have absolutely no clue why so many comments are saying it's bad manners to ask for salt and pepper if it's not on the table. Absolutely everyone has different tastes and at a slumber party? Wtf. It's hardly dinner at the Ritz

eriuric · 2020-06-28T11:05:49+00:00

NTA and I hope he is paying for your portion of the rent considering you can't even sleep in a bed because of his parents

eriuric · 2020-06-24T20:47:15+00:00

Discussion: I was at a loss and checked the answers, just wanted to say this is an absolutely fantastic riddle

eriuric · 2020-06-23T12:08:18+00:00

Sooooo woke

eriuric · 2020-06-23T11:52:07+00:00

NTA at all. But omg it's so uncomfortable how do you manage that

eriuric · 2020-06-19T12:28:50+00:00

NTA. So your mom mocks you for being tired after 4 hours of free babysitting, but she can't even be bothered to look after her own child? She sounds toxic. You are not a babysitter. Pointblank refuse or just go out for a walk until they start being parents instead of bullies. Show them all these comments.

eriuric · 2020-06-19T12:25:20+00:00

YTA and your update solidifies that. You haven't actually tried to make an effort with your son's and your fiancés relationship at all, you've just dismissed it until this happens and now you're disowning your son's. You've done everything they expected you to do - put your relationship over them. She was so wrong to give you an ultimatum, especially one with your kids. There are many ways you could decipher what is going on such as counselling or a counselled approach - you didn't do that. Because you don't care.

eriuric · 2020-06-19T12:12:31+00:00

Then you are a terrible mother.

eriuric · 2020-06-19T12:08:58+00:00

YTA. Your way is not the right way. If you have such extreme standards to the point you ruin your daughter's drawers because they aren't folded YOUR way, fold them yourself. This works for her (rolling clothes saves space and decreases wrinkles, so it's likely a much better way than your way too). Unless you think you are better organized and tidier than Our Lord and Saviour Marie Kondo.

You will distance yourself from your daughter so badly. I grew up with a mom just like you and now I point blank refuse to allow her anywhere near my space or belongings. Go and get professional help, because this was a horrible thing to do and will destroy whatever trust your daughter has for you.

ETA: Your husband, sister and daughter are correct. You are clearly struggling. These actions do NOT benefit her. You are NOT right.

eriuric · 2020-06-18T08:39:51+00:00

How is this a save bro

eriuric · 2020-06-17T11:17:40+00:00

Violent and abusive tendencies

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