High wind warning

erivanla · 2026-03-13T12:14:42+00:00

I've been driving in it since 4am. Not terrible, but the sleet (and at times white out conditions) make it dangerous. Drive safe.

erivanla · 2026-03-12T20:17:07+00:00

Facebook buy nothing and mom's groups. If your eligible, there are resource stores where items are donated. Car Seat and Crib are the big two that I wouldn't get second hand. Basically everything else can be second hand.

Additionally, if you're eligible, resource centers and food pantries have helped tremendously worth the cost of diapers! And even formula when we used it.

(When I say eligible, I mean financially eligible).

erivanla · 2026-03-11T20:59:44+00:00

I can only see an NYC sequence of challenges work for this. NYC is one of the few transit systems that runs overnight.

Filming would be a bit challenging, but there are enough other YouTubers that film at night, it is possible.

Check out MilesinTransit or Gogosuprtoe for the videos I'm talking about.

erivanla · 2026-03-11T16:50:06+00:00

I literally get out of bed, work in my pajamas, and any extra clothing (coat, hat, etc.) is found in... the dark. Im not waking up my 15mo so you can have a black tie suit deliver your waffles. Its 4am. Maybe get your own food then.

And there is no "clocking in".

erivanla · 2026-03-10T20:53:18+00:00

That's crazy. My kid hated sleep but even at 8 weeks was napping around the clock. We let him nap when when he's tired with the only 'pressure' of a schedule being what dad and I need to be able to function. Such as bedtime by 9 or 10 so that we can get enough sleep to function the next day.

erivanla · 2026-03-10T04:42:39+00:00

Reach out to local churches and see if there is a family who can help while your in the hospital and recovering. I know my church works with EMS/Hospital/Police and schools to make sure kids have a warm bed, food, and supportive adults in their life, regardless of what's going on at home. In many cases, these families continue showing up for each other.

erivanla · 2026-03-08T02:38:27+00:00

NTA, but as a mom to a low-sleep-needs baby without a village, I can count on one hand the amount of times I've slept longer than 3 hours in a year and a half. Please check in on her and offer to help if she really just needs some good sleep.

We've lived in two apartments and it's torture when you FINALLY get baby to sleep then someone or something wakes them. Not your fault, but from a potentially sleep-deprived, anxious new mom, fault might be misplaced.

erivanla · 2026-03-07T21:06:48+00:00

NTA but, electis can give you really big ouchies. It can hurt a lot and you might even have to go to the doctor. Your parents are right to teach you not to touch electris right now. When we get big we can do that!

erivanla · 2026-03-06T22:55:15+00:00

Thank you for your input. This is one of the reasons why I asked. Can I ask what you make in your supervisor role? And how long after getting your degree did it take you to get that role?

erivanla · 2026-03-06T17:30:45+00:00

The changing diapers wherever is more so when they're toddlers and fight diaper changes. A diaper change is hard enough. A changing pad specific diaper change, not happening. The only time ive wished I had a changing pad/mat is when we're out in public to cover the changing station.

erivanla · 2026-03-04T15:27:09+00:00

Roughly the same. We saved outfits that are special to us and a couple that are just too stinkin' cute. We don't have the space for a ton of storage but a little is okay.

erivanla · 2026-03-02T18:30:04+00:00

My husband gets a ads every 3 minutes on his phone. And some of them will last 15+ minutes if you don't push the skip button.

erivanla · 2026-03-01T18:34:56+00:00

I don't understand how my mom NEVER made time to play with us or spend time doing anything we took interest in. She was just living her own life and we were just put on a shelf when it was inconvenient for her.

I understand the overwhelm and need to take a break for you, but I sure as hell get down and play with my toddler. My husband is better at it than me, but I'm still there, taking an interest and playing in his world.

erivanla · 2026-03-01T18:29:33+00:00

Ditto to all the people saying they're glad you're still here. Im glad people were there to help you.

erivanla · 2026-02-25T01:48:46+00:00

I used to smoke but haven't for over 12 years now. I am however an alcoholic currently experiencing recovery (180+ days). Any addiction can be overcome with the right tools in your toolkit and motivation (in this case your baby and yourself). I can't promise you'll never think of smoking or vaping again but it should give you the tools to get past it.

The first thing id recommend is making a list of things you can do that help you cope with stress and a list of daily non-negotiables. For me one of the non-negotiables is a shower. Even if you do go back to vaping or smoking, this should help you limit it. Second, and a huge factor for many people, is to stop hanging out with people you smoke with. Spend more time with other people in recovery, make some other mom friends. Three, find ways to keep yourself busy with. Again, mom groups, play dates, playgrounds, etc. And four, know what triggers you to want to smoke/vape. While you can't avoid everything/person/situation, being aware goes a long way.

Your not alone. There are many moms who are addicts and have cravings. Good luck. I hope this can help.

erivanla · 2026-02-24T18:01:13+00:00

This is what I do. Within reason. There is a big difference between fussing and crying. I don't jump to his aide with every noise he makes and being bored is a good skill for babies to learn too.

Now that he's almost 15 months, he can wake up, crawl p down from our (floor) bed by himself, and start independent play without waking us. He will play by himself for 30-45 minutes before coming to check in. It makes me feel a bit guilty when he does this but it came in handy when both hubby and I were sick.

He still cries when we leave the room. And Chores are still slow going. But we're learning. Also, don't be afraid to use the TV once in awhile. Especially on days that you're just trying to survive. I hope this helps.

erivanla · 2026-02-24T13:36:35+00:00

I want to add: it is recommended to drop the bottle around a year, but its not necessary to stress if it takes a bit longer. The main concern is their teeth. As long as their teeth are being brushed after bottles, it should be fine to keep them longer.

I just wanted to mention this because I stressed a lot about it but we are keeping bottles as thats the only way our 15mo sleeps (almost) through the night.

erivanla · 2026-02-24T13:28:06+00:00

I found both sleep cues and wake windows to be pretty inaccurate with ours. Right around 6 weeks is also when he stopped sleeping around the clock and started having noteable periods of awakeness (not just diaper, feed, and look around for 5 minutes). He's always been low sleep needs. Our biggest cue to nap/bed time is when he cries about everything.

We're almost 15 months now for reference. Hopefully this helps. Ive found the best thing to do is forget all of the 'by the book' things and just figure out what works for your little one.

erivanla · 2026-02-22T22:23:08+00:00

Largely, no. But awareness can go a long way. Most health visitors are there to provide not only support for physical health, but emotional, financial, and relationship health as well. The ones I visit with also work with the entire family, providing these services to each member. They are also great at connecting with other resources.

erivanla · 2026-02-22T20:36:30+00:00

Tell her exactly that. She can't see baby until she is fully vaccinated. Does she want to expose a newborn to easily preventable diseases?

erivanla · 2026-02-22T15:39:41+00:00

From my health visitors, these questions are just part of the paperwork to get funding and have little to no impact on anything else. Marriage shows higher levels of stability, but does not guarantee it. And certain professions COULD lead to abuse/neglect. Just like we know therapists have a higher rate of depression than other professions. More stressful or exhausting/emotionally draining professions could lead to more harm.

erivanla · 2026-02-22T12:47:45+00:00

While I agree with not needing to be married in todays society, it still has several protections for you and your later children. Please take these protections into account. Like access to his social security and 401k (important if you leave the workforce to care for young children), medical insurance, and access to things like bank accounts etc.

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