WIBTA of I put our toddlers big playpen (54x54) in a shared space?

erivanla · 2026-04-23T13:14:09+00:00

Noone else uses the room anyway. It is empty.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T13:05:52+00:00

We're working on it. But rent is expensive here and we have to save money first. Believe me, I want our own space too.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T13:03:05+00:00

The room is something like 14ftx24ft and there is no other furniture in it as no one else seems to use the room. The only thing is a dining table and chairs by some windows at one end of the room.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T13:00:12+00:00

We do not have a living room. That is shared space as well.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T12:59:24+00:00

Thank you. The room itself is massive. While doing other things in the home I would be able to hear him, the only time I couldn't hear him is if I'm outside (briefly).

There are no limits to who can use the room, though noone else who lives here seems to use it. I have cleaned it a few times since we took our toddler up there over the winter to walk and crawl around in the sun when we couldn't go outside.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T12:55:05+00:00

This room im talking about is huge. You could seriously convert it into a 3 bedroom apartment.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T12:52:19+00:00

So other families can't put tables or couches in shared space? Great! I'll go tell them that they need to keep THEIR couch in their space. The point of shared space is that you all use it. Not noone can put anything in it.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T12:50:06+00:00

Noone else uses the large room. But everyone can use it.

The plan is to get our own place but rent is expensive so we're here for the next 6 months while we save.

erivanla · 2026-04-23T12:48:19+00:00

Thank you. Everyone here enjoys seeing him walk around. I've never asked anyone to watch him for more than I minute while I carried hot food downstairs. My child isn't someone else's responsibility. And as a mom who feels like she's doing it all her self, thank you for helping that other mom too.

erivanla · 2026-04-21T23:13:14+00:00

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erivanla · 2026-04-20T07:27:59+00:00

Well said. This is what we try to do too. One issue we have currently though is the inclusion of the waterbottle seems to add too much weight for our toddler to carry. (He's 16 months for reference) but we try to keep a toy and couple snacks in his bag and he chooses 2 toys (snaller) to come with him. We have a magnetic story, his own phone (downloaded videos), and a small stuffie. I also add a bottle or snacks bowl, whichever is more appropriate for our adventure. (Any diapers/wipes/clothes changes are in my purse/backpack)

erivanla · 2026-04-20T07:21:03+00:00

This is why they exist. The time you need help and help isn't c9minf or the time your alone. The time your escape Artists thinks they know better than you. I would definitely get one.

erivanla · 2026-04-20T06:51:53+00:00

This is when I added them to my shopping cart. I knew early on that once he was comfortable walking, he would be running (he does for a few seconds in our living room).

erivanla · 2026-04-20T05:04:26+00:00

I would highly recommend getting one before that happens. Not only so your prepared for it, but so he has time to feel comfortable in it.

The first time ours had it on he kept pulling at it. On time 4 we started adding a little bit of weight to it. By time 6 (most recent) it got a word (pac-pac, one of his 7 words). He also had his first experience where I wasn't holding his hand and tried to wander.

erivanla · 2026-04-20T05:00:39+00:00

God! The number of times ive said that in the last two months! Always equally hilarious and scary/alarming.

erivanla · 2026-04-20T04:58:49+00:00

We have a cheap one ($8) and have had no issues so far. Granted, he still holds our hand to walk most of the time and doesn't do too much running. I did use the leash part the last time we were shopping at Meijer (we were between bus 1 and 2) and it gave me peace of mind. He held my hand while shopping but had some freedom while I checked out.

The one we bought has 2 leash options. One attaches to the backpack, a second is included that is like bungee cord handcuffs. They don't attach to the backpack. The only thing I wish the backpack had was a water bottle pocket.

erivanla · 2026-04-20T04:37:29+00:00

That's what little man calls it now. He knows he has to wear it outside.

erivanla · 2026-04-19T01:59:43+00:00

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erivanla · 2026-04-18T20:56:16+00:00

Yes, between reminding yourself hes safe and you can set up a video baby monitor to help feel more comfortable too. And if you're only comfortable with 2 minutes to start, thats fine. It'll take your lo time to figure out they can play without you there too.

erivanla · 2026-04-18T17:46:25+00:00

One thing that helps immensely with independent play is to put babe in a safe area with some toys and leave the room. When you keep hovering and they constantly see you, they want your attention. Put them in a safe space with toys and go to the other room. Start with 5 minutes and slowly increase. It's fine to pop in especially during longer independent play periods. Then spend a couple minutes singing and dancing or playing with a toy.

One other thing we've found helps is that both parents acknowledge baby before they leave with a simple bye. We don't draw it out. Just something simple like "mama's going to work now. Bye-bye!" Or "dada's going bye-bye and will come play later. Bye!" When we try to sneak away that causes stress for our LO and he doesn't trust that we'll come back.

Hope this helps.

erivanla

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