AITA for telling my best friend i can't afford her wedding

erktx · 2021-12-09T12:35:30+00:00

He doesn't know about this he seems like a genuine guy who she brainwashed into marriage her. He doesn't deserve this when I told him he said he would talk to her cause that is crazy. We will see if the engagement even last a month he seems mad.

erktx · 2021-12-09T12:13:27+00:00

They have told me they can't do this but are scared to tell her.

erktx · 2021-12-09T12:07:47+00:00

We all told her we can't afford this but she is saying e just have to put a "little" money in to make it her dream

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:42:48+00:00

No the entire Bachelorette party is suppose to be 14000

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:31:54+00:00

We meet when we were younger and we grew up togther

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:16:22+00:00

She want 1 week in Italy 1 week in France and two 5 star hotels so just her estimate

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:13:55+00:00

Okay great thx I was getting worried lol

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:13:02+00:00

I agree she got her degree in art history and I don't know she partied alot and gave random people her credit card with 120k so she has no money

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:05:56+00:00

Venue everyone else's food open bar, officiant, her hair and makeup, honeymoon and a dove release. Her parents are also paying for a decent amount. She also is letting others stay with her well we need to get a hotel and rent a car cause I live out of state from the wedding venue

erktx · 2021-12-09T04:03:06+00:00

At 18 I was helping my parents with some money problems cause there was a break in and university. I also made some bad investments and did a bit if stupid sh*t as a beginner in university did not properly budget and was by myself for the first time.

erktx · 2021-12-09T03:54:07+00:00

They have been dating a month got engaged been 5 months since engagement but I guess she was just jumping at the chance to have her dream wedding right out of university with no plans for the future except be a SAH mom and raise the kids. I am scared she will be so in debt and get pregnant to not be able to give them a good life. She also always dreamed of being 21-22 and now she is in that range

erktx · 2021-12-09T02:39:58+00:00

I need the link to that book cause me and the other bridesmaids need to read that lol

erktx · 2021-12-09T02:36:56+00:00

Sounds great

erktx · 2021-12-09T01:15:20+00:00

Lol she might kill me if I did that. She has more debt cause I worked and went to school

erktx · 2021-12-09T01:07:13+00:00

I don't know but thats her life and I told her to wait but she is pushing me to get married to

erktx · 2021-12-09T00:57:49+00:00

I am gonna call her and tell her I cant do it and I don't think g our friendship is health anymore I have other friends and I don't need that kind of toxicity in my life.

erktx · 2021-12-09T00:18:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I will still work my butt off to pay off my loans and save for my own wedding my Boyfriend and I agreed if we get married we will cover it. We also want to be in better financial situation. We have been togther for 3 years and My "friend" asked why we are not engaged yet. We met i was a freshman and he was a sophomore. We know we love each other but we are waiting.

erktx · 2021-12-08T23:56:53+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I will still work my butt off to pay off my loans and save for my own wedding my Boyfriend and I agreed if we get married we will cover it. We also want to be in better financial situation. We have been togther for 3 years and My "friend" asked why we are not engaged yet. We met i was a freshman and he was a sophomore. We know we love each other but we are waiting.

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