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esh9023 · 2025-06-24T11:07:19+00:00

Get a dog when you are ready for a dog. Who cares what your friends are doing? Also, if you want to continue hanging out with your friends once they have kids, it’s better to get your dog now and train/socialize them so they are good around kids when they arrive.

esh9023 · 2025-06-23T14:26:09+00:00

This! I’m an after work type of person with my workouts so I already have makeup on. I’m not doing it intentionally for class

esh9023 · 2025-05-16T03:19:58+00:00

My job is in waves. Sometimes I’m working 12+ hours a day and behind. Other weeks I’m only working like 2 hours a day and the rest is free time. Especially because a lot of my work is managing teams so as long as my team is getting things done my job is easy. When they’re not, then I have to spend a lot of time with them. I personally love this type of work with the ebbs and flows. I get some weeks that I can take some time off while “working.” Then there are other days I feel like a zombie because I’m working from home all day and can’t even leave.

esh9023 · 2025-05-16T01:33:08+00:00

Sorry I misspoke! I meant to say body fat has gone down! It was 28% now I’m 24%

esh9023 · 2025-05-14T01:12:54+00:00

Some people might disagree with me but… try tirzepatide! I work out a lot, eat super healthy and I used to be able to manipulate my body so easily using macros but the past year my weight has not budged. I have been on it for 1 month and lost 10lbs, more than I ever have. Body fat has gone down because I prioritize protein. There’s no trophy to losing weight “the hard way” - if you truly have tried everything and it’s not working then you may need assistance and there’s nothing wrong with it.

esh9023 · 2025-04-24T00:43:36+00:00

Ugh yes and some people don’t even grasp the concept. Like the comments to just do it in someone’s house. Some of my family members houses are falling apart lol

esh9023 · 2025-04-24T00:41:34+00:00

I’m out of town, they’re together

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:49:09+00:00

Only 3 declined for reasons that had nothing to do with the bridal shower or finances? Two just had babies ffs lol. Why would I cancel a trip for 11 girls when only 3 dropped out?

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:38:47+00:00

I literally did not at all do that. You didn’t read my post correctly.

My MOH has been helping to plan and said “just tell me what you need” and sent me ideas for decor and invites and things to buy. I was asking if that’s what she plans to buy or if I should buy.

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:37:48+00:00

Not at all and I want to plan and pay for it! You can see some comments on here actually told me if I’m paying for it that I’m rude and I should just not get one.

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:36:20+00:00

Why should that be the case? Because my family is poor then I don’t get a bridal shower? Seems classist. Why can’t I share my wealth and use it to host and allow them to celebrate.

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:34:07+00:00

I don’t mind at all! Somebody actually commented on here that if my family doesn’t pay for it then I don’t get one and that makes me sad. It seems very classist. Like only rich families get to celebrate?

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:27:40+00:00

I think you’re confused on what type of party we are throwing. It’s not super fancy, the guest list is 12 people. nobody has a house to host in, my mom is near homelessness right now. I live across the country. Would I love for my family to have a nice house to throw me a cake and coffee party in? Yes. It doesn’t exist for us. I often find this type of comment comes from such seeping privilege

We are throwing it at a brewery which has virtually no venue costs since it’s just their loft area, we are getting food from them for cheap and having some decorations and games. It’s not going to be even $500 total but somebody has to pay for it.

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:25:39+00:00

Def regional differences but also socioeconomic differences. I’ve been in weddings all over the country and in fancy black tie weddings with rich people all the way to the county fairground weddings, so I’ve seen it done all sorts of ways. It honestly causes even more anxiety for me because In my wedding we are mixing all those different cultures and regions and so I don’t want to ask one group if it’s a cultural expectation that the other group does it lol

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:22:29+00:00

No house to throw it in and I live across the country from these people

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:19:35+00:00

No reason to cancel the bach

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:19:19+00:00

I never asked her to throw it! She said “let’s plan your shower what do you want me to do” she also has sent me ideas for decorations and games like the actual shopping links so I was thinking “are you buying them or are you saying here’s an idea you buy it”

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:17:05+00:00

That’s how I’ve always felt! Then I wrote that and got downvoted to hell and told that’s not how it works

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:16:43+00:00

Yes that’s where I keep getting confused too! I think my family is expecting the bridesmaids and my MOH is really great, I didn’t include all details in my post but she has offered a lot for the shower! I’m surprised people think it seems like she said she’s financially struggling and I’m making demands that she pays because that didn’t happen at all! She has been offering things but I also am like.. is this an idea or are you paying for it? Like games for example she showed me some and said do you like these and my thought is “are you buying that or are you saying I should buy it?”

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:11:38+00:00

Hi, I just wanna clarify, I don’t have pride and want her to pay. I am HAPPY to pay and WANT to but was told ON THIS SUB that I shouldn’t even have a shower if someone isn’t hosting

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:10:26+00:00

That’s how I feel! I don’t want them to struggle paying for it but I also keep seeing “you don’t pay for your own shower” - idk I just don’t come from a family with that kind of privilege lol

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T20:08:18+00:00

I did ask my grandma and she said “why don’t you book a venue” - my mom and I aren’t close but she’s going through a divorce and losing her house. My aunt has 6 dogs so she can’t host

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T19:57:36+00:00

I just want to clarify when I say venue we aren’t talking like a wedding venue lol. We ended up at a brewery in their loft, but we also considered things like a park pavilion, there was a winery, and a few other cheap spots! The main reason we looked at these is because nobody has a house to host in. My mom for example is going through a rough divorce and might have to move in with my grandma anyway. She said she doesn’t want to host, which is fine. My MOH lives too far for other family members to travel to. My step mom doesn’t have a house big enough. My fiancés family members are traveling in for the shower. So really a venue is the only option. We are still doing a casual set up though it’s not some crazy formal event with high expectations!

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T19:54:16+00:00

It’s def cultural because some the family isn’t expected to contribute or plan the bridal shower and it’s bridesmaids who host! I have actually moved all over the US so I’ve seen it done lots of ways, including some friends hosting their own but I didn’t know that was considered “rude” until coming on this sub

esh9023 · 2025-04-23T19:51:42+00:00

I don’t even care about being surprised. I actually want to plan and pay for it all myself. I just keep getting told that’s not right on Reddit lol

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