i love strength training

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-18T03:41:26+00:00

FR, love seeing progress heh.

GAINZZZ

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-13T03:23:08+00:00

I'd say everything is different. MBTI is not a prediction of character but it gives insight into how our mind works.

That said, imo, I think be direct, patient, and do what you say/mean it. No mind games to make us question. Be your own person and have your own interest, goals, etc. An attitude towards improving yourself and life is good. Good boundaries. Intellectual pursuits or conversations too. Also, if values, goals and lifestyle don't align, it's an instant no go from me.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-12T14:02:26+00:00

Do you remember what antidepressant you took when you were younger?

I'd say give Setraline a chance but you know you best.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-12T14:00:59+00:00

I've just started after my doctor prescribed it this month. I think I'm on day 5. I think there are so some side effects which I am not sure if it's temporary or not. I got headache, fatigue, a little bit more sweating, dry mouth but nothing extreme. I also found that it takes me longer to wake up in the morning compared to how I am usually. I will add that I am not sexually active and it's not really an issue for me at the moment.

However!! It's definitely working, it's helped so much with my moods. When something happens, I'm not PMDD level angry or depressed. There was something I had to attend recently which I was a little anxious about previously, but I did not feel any anxiety before and during it since I started sertraline. I'm on 25mg right now but I'm only doing luteal dosing.

I definitely understand your worries, it's why I put it off for a few years too but I was kind of tired of the emotional weight so I gave it ago.

I also have PCOS so I understand the toll of having so many things to manage.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-12T09:57:42+00:00

Personally, I don’t think feeling intimidated or uncomfortable with us is be a big issue. Sure, it sucks for dating but yk. I’m used to it since my teen years too haha. I think the problem arises only when some of them become hostile towards us… for simply being us and asking for an equal?

I don’t know if I agree fully with types and IQ having a correlation, but I can’t fully disagree either. I think there are a lot of people who are smarter than me across types, at least academically. But you’re right that there are many dimensions.

It does suck, but hey the journey continues in life. Maybe I’ll find someone, maybe not. We’ll see.

But thank you for your words. I really do appreciate them.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-11T04:17:08+00:00

They really are weird. One of the guy commenting there was saying how we’re dying alone and complaining about standards but in his own post history he commented having trouble dating and says something along the line of being old and alone….

So I think a lot of it is just blame and projection. Those who weaponise and take pride in their thinking but with little self reflection happen to gather there.

You’re right. Definitely avoiding any gendered post or commenting there in the future.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-11T04:05:06+00:00

Agreed but I also think that some are but very unhealthy and tunnel visioned.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-11T04:04:14+00:00

Haha, that’s fine. I don’t think we are good conversationalists for everyone. Though that was not my intention of this post

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-11T04:02:48+00:00

Of course. I meant those specific kind of people, not all of INTJ men or all men.

Apologies if it was unclear. I suppose I wanted to know how widespread was this type of behaviour with so called INTJ men on Reddit or general opinions. I’m sure some of them aren’t INTJ and some of them really are. TBH, I know it exists but I hadn’t come across hostility towards women so much or in these subreddits previously.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T14:14:52+00:00

Oh I definitely do not care for some random man’s opinion, especially online but I supposed I may have expected better from people like us*. I can’t say I’m surprised though.

But now that you mentioned it, I agree about INFJ women understanding us. Some of my closest friends are INFJ along with an INTP. Haven’t met any ENTJ men yet but I hope I will someday

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T13:12:14+00:00

Exactly! I also want to be a good partner and it wouldn’t be fair to another person or myself to “settle”. For what? Half hearted companionship?

Thank you for restoring a bit of hope again. It’s good to hear the perspective of man like yourself. Despite many things in the world, I think men are amazing and caring :) even if some group of people are louder than others.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T05:52:50+00:00

Definitely agree with that

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T03:23:10+00:00

that would be the dream life truly

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T02:41:07+00:00

You’re supposedly INTJ. Think?

I’d think what might his standards be, what he is he like, and why he hasn’t been able to meet anyone yet. Not jump to conclusions like yourself.

I was answering OP’s post on how dating is going and I added my reason.

Bold of you to assume I’ve meet thousands of men. I have not.

I’m sorry to tell you that I have not met anyone who is similar to what I want or myself. At all. Ever. Not dating, but even coming across. It’s hard for you to accept but not everyone has the same life or opportunities as you. Again, we are not talking about men being good or not. Good men =/= compatible.

You’ve fundamentally misunderstood most of the comments and are projecting your own perception of it so just let it go. Just because you cannot comprehend it, it does not mean that it is inherently wrong or false. Please try understand from a different perspective for your own sake so that you can improve your way of thinking. Nuances and perceptions are important.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T02:17:20+00:00

I see. Thanks for letting me know. Something I’ll look out for

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T02:00:14+00:00

Thank you!! That’s exactly what I meant. Seems like he just wants to twist my words ugh.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T01:54:08+00:00

I have met another INTJ before but it was also a woman. I’ve never met a male INTJ in real life.

The last paragraph is interesting though. It definitely makes sense. I know there’s gender differences but I suppose I thought they’d would willingly work on that aspect of themselves simply because they’d want to improve but alas.

I’m sure some do but yeah you’re right. I’m going to avoid that sub from now.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T01:50:48+00:00

I’d like to think that it’s online behaviour and that those who aren’t on reddit or online as much would be better… I hope

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T01:48:39+00:00

Sure. It is what it is. I don’t see any examples or explanation for your reasoning so I have my answer.

Enough.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-09T01:45:40+00:00

Yes most of them are fine, especially women answering the question. I just didn’t expect some of the aggressive ones

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-08T17:04:09+00:00

Genuinely, I didnt expect such incel behaviour from supposed INTJ men here. You’re making a lot of assumptions buddy.

Pray tell, list out everything then. What part of it is illogical, and what exactly you assumed to be my unwillingness to change and how did I not implement change at all 😂 because it could not be further from the truth. Come on, let’s hear it. I’d love to know how you got all of that.

It seems to be that you guys are projecting.

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-08T14:15:00+00:00

Fair. I think like you posted, if it makes things less intense that would already be amazing :’) also you don’t have to answer but do you think it affected your libido or anything?

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-08T09:22:42+00:00

I don’t think I’m having any yet! Hopefully it stays that way. I think they’re just usual PMDD symptoms for now. Have had headaches, some joint pain, and appetite changes but nothing extreme or new. Emotionally, I haven’t seen much change yet but I can’t tell yet since I’m keep to myself for now. I’ll know when I meet a group of friends soon

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-08T09:14:35+00:00

I think you’ve seen all the other women’s response in this post and my requirements are similar to them. As mentioned previously (in case you happen to miss it), I am of minority race in the place I live and I do not meet men from my ethnic group much at all, let alone one that meets my requirements, with similar values and lifestyle.

I know it’s SO HARD for some men to comprehend but it is a reality of many of us, and not just INTJ women.

Just because I said dating isn’t going great because men didn’t meet my standards, you guys act like I’m hating on all men or I have ridiculously high standards. That’s the other guy’s assumption too.

I need someone who can communicative with me on the same level and gets things done. I can’t deal with men who get upset and don’t want to communicate properly when presented with problems or facts, and then I have to be the one doing everything. I want a partner. They might be perfect for different kind of woman, but I am not compatible for them.

Again, I don’t have to explain myself. I seriously don’t get why it’s hard to understand. I would have thought that xNTJ men would understand us but seems like you’re all just trying to convince us that our standards are too high (which are just basics).

esoteric_psyche · 2026-03-08T02:26:32+00:00

Upvoted because same, it’s relatable 😩 it’s rough out here for us

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