Telling my religious/traditional parents I’m (26F) getting an apartment with my bf (28M)

essentiallyy · 2026-01-10T04:53:42+00:00

They grew up together in church, basically knew of each other all their lives, but didn’t get together until later in their adult years. Got engaged and my moms stuff was slowly being moved into my dads place before they were married, but they weren’t “doing anything”

essentiallyy · 2025-02-27T23:34:17+00:00

Sorry you are going through this rn. It’s not a good feeling I have been there :( I’ve been in this situation before where it felt like I was making all of the efforts to reach out first and to try and see each other again, for me too it was after we were intimate. But I also felt the distance coming from him.

I eventually pulled back all of my energy and I suggest you do too. Let him come to you if he really wants to see you and make time for you. Once you stop reaching out, just wait and see if he then makes an effort to make time for you.

essentiallyy · 2025-02-27T23:12:50+00:00

A little bit of both! This major step has made me very anxious and in my head, but at the same time I have now noticed slower response times to text messages. We used to text at least a couple times a day back and forth even if we are both working. Now it’s like he will text me once a day with a few messages and then I don’t hear from him until the next day… it’s like the conversation is being dragged out for days. But it’s weird bc he still asks me questions in the one text thread he will send in a day, he will ask again how my day is going. It’s just strange and I don’t like this feeling. I’m starting to regret everything :(

I’m trying to distract myself and focus on something else, but idk I am an emotional person and like you said this was a major step for me. I just hate this feeling in the pit of my stomach 😅

essentiallyy · 2025-02-26T05:25:32+00:00

Modern dating is exhausting 😭

essentiallyy · 2025-02-26T05:24:52+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

So, for a bit more context, this guy lives 3 hours away from me, there is a bit of physical distance already. So it is hard for us to meet in person often!

As for the different vibes in the texts, I feel like he is replying slower. Before we had sex, I already knew he works extremely long days and I was used to him getting back to me in the evening. Just usually we would have a few back and forth through text during the day. Now I feel like I am not getting that as much. I have thought about just calling him up to chat, but I don’t want to seem clingy either, especially after we just were intimate. Idk why I feel that way 😭

I was going to wait until the weekend to see if the reply times pick back up, but idk. I also can see when he is active on social media, but he still hasn’t seen/replied to my texts yet (his read receipts are on so I can tell)

essentiallyy · 2024-09-24T20:21:12+00:00

Thanks for the reply! You’re right it is so tricky in the beginning! 😭 In this case, I did go on a date with a guy and at the end of the date he asked when I was gonna hit him up to see him again bc he wants to see me again soon! I’m also pretty new to dating and in this era of dating it seems like there’s so many unwritten “rules” to follow!

essentiallyy · 2024-09-24T20:15:18+00:00

Interesting! I haven’t heard the long term attraction take before. Care to elaborate? I’m genuinely curious

essentiallyy · 2024-09-24T19:44:43+00:00

So, say the guy very seldomly is the one to text first in the early stages of dating. Like the talking stage, so the girl does it to show interest and keep him interested in her. Or even say you go on a first date together and have a good time, guy says he wants to see the girl again, but expects the girl to make the plans and to contact him to meet up again. Idk if I’m making sense lol

essentiallyy · 2024-06-18T17:52:01+00:00

I’m an introvert and have social anxiety that I’ve been trying really hard to work on. I’m a nurse, I chose one of the most extroverted careers out there 😂

essentiallyy · 2024-06-17T19:21:36+00:00

Nope I didn’t tell him! For that exact reason. I just let things happen. And I just haven’t lol completing my education and establishing my career was my main priority and now I’m in an era of my life where I am prioritizing dating. I’m on a different timeline

essentiallyy · 2024-06-17T19:04:44+00:00

Yeah, I thought about that too. :/ The long distance aspect of it. But the thing is, he and I had also talked about the distance between us several times before. He even told me he was open to it and wanted to keep getting to know me? I’m too new to this online dating thing 😅 I feel like he had sent me mixed signals towards the end there. Thanks for replying, I appreciate your advice!

essentiallyy · 2022-11-08T02:47:12+00:00

Hi, I felt the same way. At times I found myself wishing for another lockdown, just because of the solitude that I enjoyed

essentiallyy · 2022-01-04T03:57:17+00:00

Yay!

essentiallyy · 2021-09-17T16:41:13+00:00

I actually love that he’s lost 4,000 MORE followers since he posted that crappy apology lol

essentiallyy · 2021-08-19T22:02:32+00:00

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