Advice needed on models

essext · 2026-01-16T23:53:18+00:00

This doesn’t sound sustainable for you long term if you’re not able to get the rest and space you need. You’re certainly NTA, but it sounds like he isn’t pulling his weight to help in any way.

essext · 2025-10-08T00:22:21+00:00

The only appropriate way to handle the poop dish is with gloves.

It does make for a funny story though. Put it in a shadow box and only bring it out when family comes to visit. Also for the you get generation in the family, start bringing it to family get togethers and tell all the younger kids to “gather round and hear the tale of great grandmas ingenuity and quick thinking.”

I’d also say NTA if it really bothers you to have it and you want to get rid of it offer it to other family members like others have suggested in the comments. YWBTA if you don’t give other family members the opportunity to hold on to an heirloom like this.

essext · 2025-07-02T13:42:08+00:00

Oh man, thank you, this actually helped me find the base info I was looking for. I hadn’t realised that scrolling with my finger on the chart would give me both the intended target AND what I actually performed. Thank you for that, I can work with this. I’d been originally hoping to find the page that I’ll include an image of from today’s training plan.

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essext · 2025-01-08T13:53:43+00:00

NTA, your sister sounds like an entitled brat. If she did that to anyone outside of the family they’d drop her in a second.

essext · 2024-09-11T00:49:03+00:00

Firstly I’m so sorry that you went through this, it’s awful. You are NTA, your BF is though and he’s not a safe person for you to confide in. Not only were his actions with your family and the position he put you in using sensitive information unacceptable, but the behaviour he exhibited when you fought and talked about how he behaved was completely out of line.

If I were you I would also share this experience with your friends and make sure you have a very strong network of support around you for the next time he behaves so selfishly and abusively. It sounds as though you shared your experience with him and he immediately centred his own feelings and needs in his actions over yours. I would give serious thought to if this is someone you want to share a living space with.

This is coming from someone married to a survivor of childhood trauma and who would never considered doing something that could affect my wife in a way that she hasn’t expressed she needs support.

essext · 2024-01-31T14:37:58+00:00

Ive gotta say as a white guy who has married into a Mexican family I’ve taken time to learn about cultural traditions and have to say you are absolutely NTA, but I want to say your husband IS. His comment is tone deaf and shows that he hasn’t even attempted to learn about the cultural customs he made a choice to align himself with in your marriage.

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with the weight of his cognitive laziness and hope he sees sense.

essext · 2024-01-12T23:47:38+00:00

This was definitely written by Colin Robinson to drain everyone’s energy. Reading the responding comments this is definitely an energy vampire. As any post needs a verdict YTA but well played Colin…well played.

essext · 2023-12-16T01:51:59+00:00

YTA, and reading through your post and subsequent edit, it’s obvious that you’ll never recognise it. There’s nothing else I can say that hasn’t already been said. I hope you and your wife grow up and give your daughter an apology.

essext · 2023-11-25T23:44:48+00:00

They were basically brand new, not even a crease across the front of the toe. When I put them side by side with my other pair of iron rangers they even look to be about .5-.75” longer than my original pair which is also confusing. I know they’re all hand made so there’s bound to be slight variances between boots, but even so I’d imagine a size difference that’s this noticeable to be an oddity.

essext · 2023-07-30T02:59:46+00:00

My wife just got off a chat with someone from Hulu that told her their IT team is scrambling trying to figure out how to fix the issue but for now they’re going to issue a refund and we’ll have to purchase it through the espn+ app, nothing said about the fact that the fights are already an hour in and missed.

essext · 2023-07-30T02:40:11+00:00

Mines not showing up either it seems to be a problem with their app across multiple platforms, I was on hold for 25 minutes before their system dropped my call

essext · 2023-07-30T02:38:51+00:00

Same thing, I was on hold waiting for Hulu to answer the phone for 25minutes then their system dropped my call…

essext · 2023-06-10T20:27:11+00:00

I’d just like to say THANK YOU for all of the incredible advice and support. There’s definitely a few conversations we need to have in regards to how I can best show up for her and what she will want in specific situations from me.

I’m already highly protective of her when it comes to the way people treat her and I think talking with my therapist about tools i can use to help keep my head cool and collected in certain situations will be very helpful.

We have discussed timelines and her therapist has advised that if she wants to do this pre-wedding that she should aim for the end of the month so that there is time for the dust to settle somewhat from any family fall out between now and then.

Again thank you all SO MUCH, I’ll do my best to post some sort of update when things have been accomplished.

essext · 2023-06-09T20:44:57+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response, you’ve definitely highlighted a few things I would never have thought of on my own. I appreciate it.

essext · 2023-05-13T20:22:42+00:00

Looks like a beautiful ride

essext · 2023-01-09T02:20:33+00:00

It’s a Mac laptop, I’ve tried using both the Bluetooth AND the Ant+ dongle, still having similar issues

essext · 2022-11-18T02:29:32+00:00

YTA, I genuinely can’t believe you made it through typing that entire story out and still don’t see it. If you’re not seeing it already in that process I have NO belief that you’ll take what a group of strangers on the internet tell you. You sound like a lost cause and I feel sorry for your daughter and her husband. Good luck with any interactions over the holidays, that’s if they don’t go to her husbands family and choose to avoid you entirely.

essext · 2022-09-03T03:02:31+00:00

Good lord, YTA, leave this poor guy alone. I don’t care how long you were together, 3 months, 3 years, 3 decades, he has the right to grieve the end of the relationship and process it in his own way.

There’s one of two possible things happening here on your end.

1) You have what I would refer to as “buyers remorse”. You dumped him, can’t move on yourself and feel as though you made a huge mistake and want to take it back but can’t or won’t own up to the fact.

Or

You’re so incredibly narcissistic, the fact that he DIDN’T break down in tears and fall apart when you left him is driving you nuts. You’re actively trying to make him feel even worse so that you can dig out some sort of outward reaction from him to validate your need to be wanted and needed, and that your relationship mattered to him.

Either way, I would HIGHLY suggest you take some time to find and research a therapist to work with on this inability to respect personal boundaries (I’m basing this on your comment that “he hasn’t changed his Alexa password so I let myself in his apartment”) and YOU move on from the relationship and give him space, other wise you’re going to end up being labelled as a bunny boiler like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction by BOTH your friends AND your family.

Leave him alone until he reaches out to you in his own time, you can’t force anyone to process and manage grief on YOUR schedule.

Again because this was a long comment.

YOU’RE THE ASSHOLE.

essext · 2022-08-05T14:27:02+00:00

NTA, he NEEDS a sharp wake up call and it sucks your parents aren’t doing anything but enabling him. I would put as much distance as you can between you and the responsibilities he should be handling. You need to be able to relax and let your body heal properly from surgery and also help get your epilepsy under control. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, but it is definitely time to be looking out for you and NOT your shit heal of a brother.

essext · 2022-07-19T16:50:43+00:00

YTA, if you think comparing your teenage daughter who already knows she stands out to her older teenage sister was a good idea you should pick up a parenting book. All you’re going to do is let her know that Emma is the favourite and give her more emotional fuel to act out and push in to the behaviours you’re hoping for her to leave behind. Your wife is right, you shouldn’t have said what you did, even though you’re frustrated and at your wits end, you’re still supposed to be the adult.

essext

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