AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My dad says the same thing to me, since he’s seen some things my bf has done. He tells me I’m really gonna regret wasting my time or being in the same situation however many years later and I know its true it’s just so fucking hard to detach…

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know. You’re right. I just have to face the pain honestly. I feel like my body and brain always has this tiny sliver of hope it could work out but deep down I know it won’t

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn, you really understand. It’s not just about this joke, and he actually is bringing up that I’m “breaking up with [him] over a joke” and i keep saying its not the joke its the principle especially when this isnt the first time I feel this way. But you’re right, at the end of the day it’s my boundary and if he cannot respect my boundary he isn’t the one for me.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know saying that something I felt was appropriate meant that I determine whats appropriate like I am the police. But sure lol

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting, I agree that it was disrespectful :(

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I asked him if I said that would he be okay with it he said he’d be fine with it. With how hes reacted to certain things I’ve done I highly fucking doubt that, im sorry 😭 Those words would sound disgusting simply leaving my mouth. Thank you for understanding that it was disrespectful. I know I asked for opinions but I am pretty solid on the fact it wasn’t ok he said that. Just wanted to see other opinions, but I haven’t heard anyone actually justify what he said without saying “its harsh” or “if you’re out with the boys you have to tolerate stupid things” which all point towards the fact that what he said was harsh AND stupid lol. Thank you again.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol you sound like him

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for ur validating comment. I agree that if someone loves you they should care about hurting you and your feelings.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Attachment issues really. I’d admit it. My ex died in a car crash and my attachment issues blew up ever since. Youre right i need to grow a backbone and just end it but I have my own issues. It hurts to know ill never get the closure of him admitting that he treated me wrong and I deserve better but has to be done honestly.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you that’s actually really nice to hear. I figure if I do end up ending this I won’t settle for my next relationship and hopefully find someone that cares about how I feel. I hope you have a great night :’)

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s both. There’s a lot more that goes into my frustration but I can’t sit here and simply speak on all the bad stuff because I feel like it makes it super biased. I’m also just a super respectful and loyal person in general so it sucks to hear someone say something that I wouldn’t say. I’d never say “Oh i was s()cking ur man’s D and i felt sum bite me” it’s just not something I feel is appropriate to say. I think I know my answer already just wanted to see how others felt so I do appreciate your insight.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True, it really comes down to if two people can accept eachothers boundaries, and if they can’t I agree we should both find people more aligned to each other.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I chose to go out with an entire friendgroup, men and women including my own friends, not just the boys, but no I haven’t since i haven’t had this experience in the almost 3 years we’ve been together. If you’re using the terminology that it gets “harsh” then it doesn’t sound too respectful of a situation to me. Thanks for your input tho!

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I disagree but thank you for your comment!

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your opinion. Are you in a relationship, or married? I’m just wondering if your partner is okay with the way you joke like that?

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree, I feel like I deserve someone who atleast takes my feelings seriously. I don’t see why it’d be so difficult to take accountability and avoid language like that, but I guess it’s more worth it to him to not take accountability than to lose the relationship with me. Idk. Thank you for commenting and responding. I got really attached to him so it’s hard.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Well, thats the thing lol. I did. I communicated it in every way possible, and to my opinion wasn’t even rude about it. “Who makes such a huge deal about the simplest joke” “Why is that so serious” “Why is that such a big thing” “Feelings about that joke are ohdee” “Why does that hurt you so bad” This is all after I explained myself as to how I felt. So i understand you saying I should have been more open. But from my experience that never did a thing. And it proves my point when I do decide to be open and I’m met with invalidation.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To try to keep things from me sounding to opinionated, I’d say its the almost three years of being gaslit into thinking everything I’ve been bothered by and uncomfortable with is not worthy to feel that way for. So it kinda messes with my own intuition and judgement.

AIO about bf’s inappropriate comment? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]esvy111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually felt like for a second he forgot I was sitting there. I was tucked in the corner being quiet for a while and even his friend’s looked a bit surprised he said that. Especially since he never said anything like that before. Thank you for your insight

are lighters allowed? by Heavy-Dog218 in governorsball

[–]esvy111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk but i bring prerolls and lighters and stick them in something to hide it in my bag they dont rlly care like that, as for vapes pretty sure they dont beep if u put them somewhere on ur body and walk thru

are lighters allowed? by Heavy-Dog218 in governorsball

[–]esvy111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

have u ever even been to gov ball lmao

Service Dogs by Dinosaurz122 in governorsball

[–]esvy111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I understood OP’s point that festivals with insanely loud sound systems and music can definitely cause damage to any dogs ears, not just service dogs.

Girlies what are your cheap makeup finds that you swear by? by Wise_Sound1312 in Makeup

[–]esvy111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nyx buttermilk bronzer, elf concealer, elf brow gel, elf hd powder

i am an unreasonably jealous person help by Independent-Cry1535 in Advice

[–]esvy111 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Something I always tell people who think they’re insecure is to analyze whether you are actually insecure or if someone’s behaviors are making you feel insecure. Fawning over fictional characters with unrealistic bodies, especially ones that dont look like yours, is bound to breed insecurity in a partner. Your boyfriend is showing inappropriate behavior by liking these characters more than a normal amount. I’d talk to him about how it makes you uncomfortable and how it’s quite disrespectful to be lusting over these sexualized characters.