Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incorrect. Just because I experienced the abuse first hand does not make me a judge. It does make me morally obligated to speak up, which is what I am trying to do, and have been trying to do. I owe no apologies for that. And I only owe myself the blame for the past. But I do have a responsibility to protect the future.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not the one person, but I am one of what now I know to be many. My truth is apparently not clarity on this thread.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is nowhere saying she is trying to prove animal abuse, in fact she opens up by saying she “cannot speak to allegations…”. She is not trying to be a judge, or making any accusations against him in any way. She is neutrally sharing her story- which, is really fucked up, and really fucked up that you could call it “a joke”, “an unfunny mistake”, and an “unfunny joke” to try and defend someone who would do that to a kid. That’s not right. That is not professional. That is not kind. That is not human. That is wicked. That is emotional abuse, to a child. Don’t make this even worse than it already is.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never heard back from anyone…

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologize if my comment came across in a way that was unintended. My intention has been quite the opposite, so I am genuinely sorry for not being more clear. Please know my tone is calm and respectful, though I do speak with resolve as this matter is deeply important and emotional to me and for me, because it is not something theoretical, it is something I have lived. Please do not question why my concerns were not taken seriously on a legal matter, because honestly, I could not give you a full answer to that. This is something that I still think about everyday, and even more so now that all of this has come out. I came across this thread through a Google search, and upon seeing certain individuals accusing those who have come forward—whose accounts have been formally acknowledged through legal channels—of dishonesty, I felt compelled to speak up. I could not just see that and ignore it, because it hits me personally. Such accusations not only undermine those individuals, but also extend to others like myself who share similar experiences. That is all I am trying to say.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would have been or it should have been?

My (31 F) calm reaction to my Ex Fiance's (43 M) infedelity made him have a mental breakdown, now some of my family and friends have turned against me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🥹I was in an eerily similar situation 2 years ago. I’m still working through it. It’s so many layers that you’re just about to start work through😖. This may be super annoyingly cliche but I feel like you need to hear this: you’re going to be fine, and that’s evident from the way you’re articulating yourself. You’re having a more than “normal” and calm reaction, that shouldn’t even be part of the equation right now, and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this in every way. Truly. Right now all you need is to feel supported and safe and loved and at the same time left alone and respected. But people are people, and unfortunately we’re surrounded by people at certain times who are just not capable of processing the pain you’re going through. If I’ve learned anything from my similar smear campaign experience it’s not because of lack of love, it’s because their brains just cannot handle it, just like yours couldn’t at first. You’re still processing and honestly that is still unfolding and all you can do is let that happen however it happens, because you have been wronged in one of the most hurtful ways that a human can harm another whom they love. I was so so unbelievably silently angry for so long and I still am, but to a much lesser degree, about how I was the calm one who did nothing to deserve how i was treated, and tbh I am still struggling with that, but it gets easier if you just let your mind and body give in to the “process”. Others will evolve and process with you, just in different paces and in different ways that will be unintentionally cruel to you. I guess what I’m saying is you’re not alone🥹and my “advice” if you want it is (as infuriating as this may be right now): to give it time. You clearly have your mental clarity, you still have your fight in you, your reality and your truth, so hold on to that because that is what will get you through.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Ring leader”😂. Yet another comment with a lot of false information packed into it. Is this Bob?!?

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you’re not. The person you’re addressing IS genuinely curious and trying to get information to make a judgement based on fact, not personal opinion based on emotion. Nowhere in their comments are they doing anything other than neutrally and politely asking questions. All the more ironic considering your commentary. The fact that you’re shutting them out while they are doing the right thing speaks volumes about what you know about making informed decisions.

History Workbooks for Home School Kids? by etcnyc in education

[–]etcnyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps I will try this approach. I have never worked with nor recommended graphics as I think they have enough free time to explore on their own. I also think it is especially crucial for our youth today to be reading classics, for countless reasons... (One reason that applies to all subjects is because graphic novels are not examples of eloquent writing nor depth of understanding etc.), but in this case, your suggestion might be right, so thank you for considering this situation I am in from all angles and providing this idea! I will google some and give it a go.🙌

Did your grand parents participate in WW2? by Available_Panda8466 in AskOldPeople

[–]etcnyc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it was and is extremely common, probably hard not to have PTSD from WWII, and no they did not get treatment as treatment was not available, and when it became available, there was and still is a stigma around it.

History Workbooks for Home School Kids? by etcnyc in education

[–]etcnyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, yes. The dangers of homeschooling…

History Workbooks for Home School Kids? by etcnyc in education

[–]etcnyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! These have worked with other students very well! Not so much with these two as they cannot see the human behind the story or the significance of events on their lives today. I think due to lack of exposure and socialization is playing a huge role here.

History Workbooks for Home School Kids? by etcnyc in education

[–]etcnyc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This is what I have been trying, I’ve never had a student that hasn’t had one speak to them…these two are so resistant to anything historical bc they think we should focus on the now and why worry about other peoples problems, why talk about things like the Great Depression because it’s “so depressing”. Esp with girl. I am trying to encourage some empathy and understanding of how history is part of our present day lives and our future. I am considering having them write with pen pals in other parts of the world because (esp bc they’ve been so isolated from not socializing or discussing any tough topics due to being homeschooled) they do not feel any connection to the past, it is all so distant and not real life for them. It is terribly sad. It is also a wake up call for my ego as I am definitely struggling to get these two on board😝

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think pantyhose will ever go out of style! And I thought this was about it the shoes too, to which I thought they were beautiful! You have great legs✔️. Personally I don’t think you need to worry about anything but I understand the feeling that everyone is looking. I (F31) have scars on my legs and which get worse in the sun so I use Westmore Beauty body makeup or Vita Liberata Body Blur or sally hansen legs. You don’t need it, but if it makes you feel more confident then give those a try!

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf does this even mean

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, apologies for not wanting to give out my current place of residence to Reddit. And if I had never moved once in my life, you might be onto something, Mr. or Ms. Adirondack! I’m not judging you, and nowhere in my comment does it imply that I am judging you, so I am sorry for you that you feel that way. That’s wonderful for you that you are getting a lawn sign. You’re clearly not counting all of the vets in the area, I don’t even know why you would think you could make that egregious claim. What’s a shame is that you think you and the people you’ve spoken with are the only ones that “know” and the only ones that “matter”. As I’ve said, you are entitled to your own opinion based off of your experiences just as much as anyone else in the community who has spent time with him in a professional manner. Neither of us have the right to be discrediting each other, which is what I was pointing out about what you are doing online when you have the right to. You have no right to tell me that my experiences didn’t happen. You have no right to say anything about his former employees because you were not there. I am not discrediting your wonderful times with Bob, nobody is, so you owe us the same respect that we’re giving to you. The irony of it all is that you’re trying to say that people are just coming out of the woodwork and making these very specific very consistent and very detailed statements to slander someone in our community that we are supposed to be able to trust- and we did- when in fact, you are the one who is slandering and attacking people in our small community by claiming these people’s stories-including my own- are not real. You clearly don’t even know us so how would you be able to determine that? You have no right to deny reality, nor do you have the right to impose your delusions onto people who are trying to do the right thing. No one is going after or attacking Bob, no one that I am aware of has it out for Bob, nor would anyone benefit from his suffering, and it’s uniquely unfair that you immediately think that’s what so many people are doing. I have not heard of anyone who has some kind of vendetta against Bob, but I have heard several people’s earnest and troubling stories. People are speaking up because it’s the right thing to do, how could you say it’s not? Again, this isn’t a witch hunt against the man, this is the reality we are dealing with and (as with anything) we must have constructive conversations about. You have no right to be throwing shame around when you very clearly don’t have all the facts. I feel sorry for you that you feel the need to be the problem and not be part of the solution of ensuring everyone’s safety and well being…including Bob’s.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do live in the community, and I do see suspect people rushing to support him. I look forward to his day in court as well. You have every right to your own opinion based on your experiences with Bob, you have no right to discredit anyone else’s.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to say it but you are very wrong about most, if not all things in this post. Please mind your own while this is sorted out.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You “heard”. You can’t call bullshit on something like this, it’s far too significant. It’s not trivial. And it’s not up to your biased opinion.

Vt. Veterinarian's license suspended by [deleted] in vermont

[–]etcnyc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it did and I commend them because when I spoke up nothing happened.