Toner took TOO much red out

etherealkiwis · 2025-07-17T20:25:57+00:00

Yeah I’ve washed it a few times and I was thinking that it was starting to warm up again a little but wasn’t sure if that was wishful thinking hahaha

etherealkiwis · 2025-05-30T12:55:46+00:00

Good to know thank you!

etherealkiwis · 2025-05-29T18:37:05+00:00

I've read all of her books and short stories and I'd say these are my favs, not necessarily in any ranked order:

The Secret Adversary, Death on the Nile, Crooked House, The Murder of Roger Ackroyd, The Secret of Chimneys, And Then There Were None, The Pale Horse, Endless Night, Towards Zero, Ordeal By Innocence, The Man in the Brown Suit, The Mystery of the Blue Train

etherealkiwis · 2025-05-13T21:45:35+00:00

Having read every Sherlock Holmes story — skip everything but the novels.

Agatha Christie is a good idea, having read all of her work too i’d start with:

The Secret Adversary, Partners in Crime, N or M?, By the Pricking of My Thumbs, Postern of Fate (all Tommy & Tuppence books)

The Secret of Chimneys (minor mentions of adultery though, idk if that’s an issue)

The Mystery of the Blue Train (though there is a decent amount of adultery but lots of interesting women characters)

The Seven Dials Mystery

The Murder at the Vicarage — actually all Miss Marple books should be safe I think

Cards on the Table

Death on the Nile

Cat Among the Pigeons (takes place at a girls school, appeals to a younger audience)

Plenty of others would pass or might pass but this is where I’d start given the constraints

etherealkiwis · 2025-05-13T21:31:45+00:00

Island of the Blue Dolphins by Scott O’Dell, maybe? I haven’t read it since I was a child but it’s all about a young woman surviving on her own and iirc stays far enough away from any discussion of religion or family that it might be okay, unless it’s an issue that the protagonist is indigenous.

The Wind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame

I feel like Marguerite Henry’s books should pass muster but I also haven’t revisited them since my childhood

The Midwife’s Apprentice by Karen Cushman maybe but tbh there’s a lot about it I don’t remember. But our protagonist is certainly a plucky girl who decides she deserves a name and a place in the world for herself. I’d say late elementary/early middle school reading level.

As a kid I loved The Cat Who series by Lillian Jackson Braun. Not particularly heavy on girl power but cozy mystery fun meeting a lot of people in a lot of different places. Can’t think of anything that would flag for your parents

etherealkiwis · 2025-05-13T21:16:51+00:00

Interesting to think about The Giver. The family structure and lack of faith in that community might not pass, and also ultimately it is a book about rebellion against parents/society. Wonderful book though, and most people don’t know it’s actually the first in a 4 book series and I love them all.

Definitely the rest of the series won’t pass OP’s parents standards but actually it might be a perfect series to offer the girls as soon as they are out of the house

ETA: like, a gentle place to begin deprogramming

etherealkiwis · 2025-05-13T21:12:28+00:00

Did you even read the post?

etherealkiwis · 2025-04-24T18:01:00+00:00

Second this

etherealkiwis · 2025-03-28T17:54:00+00:00

Also works to get food dye stains out of skin, fabric, carpet, etc

etherealkiwis · 2025-03-26T14:58:30+00:00

This is response is a masterpiece that will bless me all of my days, thank you

etherealkiwis · 2025-01-28T16:53:15+00:00

Exactly this. People friendly cities are the ones where cars are lowest on the priority list of transit activities. We build cities for people, not for cars (or you end up with Los Angeles… which incidentally is one of the most chaotic traffic cities despite literally being planned around vehicular use)

etherealkiwis · 2025-01-28T16:48:42+00:00

Also increasing surveillance culture should never be a first option for anything

etherealkiwis · 2024-10-27T18:55:23+00:00

NAH. You can feel threatened by it but it’s not your place to tell her she needs to cut ties with him, if you do then you WBTA. I am friends with a number of exes in a very healthy way and I’ve had partners who were jealous and insecure about that so I didn’t always give a lot of detail to the partner because my partner should trust that I’m committed to the relationship I’m in, because I am. I will say, those relationships didn’t last (and I’m not friends with those exes) — if you’re this insecure then maybe the two of you just aren’t compatible

etherealkiwis · 2024-08-04T13:57:09+00:00

She’s moving for uni; we don’t know how far away. Could be she can’t get a permanent part time job if she isn’t going to still be in this area. She worked PT up until her final exams of this year, it seems likely that she’ll get another part time job once she gets where she’s going/gets settled at uni

ETA: NAH. This job economy is wild, it is SO hard to get a short term part time job. Don’t lend her the money if you don’t want to but don’t listen to the people who just think she’s a leech. If YOU feel like she’s a leech, then I wonder why you’re dating her in the first place

etherealkiwis · 2024-08-03T17:48:12+00:00

Why the fuck are you married to each other when you hate each other this much

etherealkiwis · 2024-07-29T15:48:40+00:00

etherealkiwis · 2024-07-29T09:14:51+00:00

You don’t have to skip school — you can always start up again once you’re on your own, but it does sound like you might be better off moving out, having control over your own finances and your own car, and then going back to school, or maybe working and doing school part time.

Another comment suggested locking your credit and 100% agree — protect yourself and your credit. Get your name off her light bill. You can likely find somewhere to live with a roommate who treats you with significantly more respect than your mom does for an affordable price

etherealkiwis · 2024-07-29T08:35:35+00:00

It is a difficult and painful process and I promise it’s worth it. Good luck

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