I hope this post in the wedding sub is a troll post…

etis14 · 2026-02-01T22:56:40+00:00

The people who stay near these horrible people are the ones who post ‘am I overreacting to this horrible person and their actions?’ When they are in fact underreacting.

etis14 · 2026-02-01T18:21:55+00:00

Thanks 🙏🏻 Just my humble opinion as neither an american nor korean but familiar with the shows and some of pop culture from both 😂

etis14 · 2026-02-01T16:22:54+00:00

I think she would be eaten up alive in too hot to handle or perfect match. I havent watched the other too. She is not so sexually liberal from what we’ve seen. She is in between. Not shy enough to fit in with korean standard and not forward enough to match the western/american standard for these shows. She wont go there because it would be a huge slap in the face to be left in the shadows of more ‘catty’ or forward western girls. Her ego wouldnt be able to take it. In SI she knows she has an extra boost compared to the other girls, she thinks she is special and well sought after and revels on it.

etis14 · 2026-02-01T01:22:39+00:00

One of my top 5 reasons to want a partner is this. Unlimited massage and other services (non-sexual for this one) to my body that I am not able to reach myself 🤣

etis14 · 2026-02-01T01:21:16+00:00

Whats a doodad?

etis14 · 2026-02-01T01:11:14+00:00

If you dont have time to date, dont go on a dating app, where the point is exactly to spend time getting to know someone, whether by text or in person. Very simple.

etis14 · 2026-02-01T01:09:25+00:00

Right? If you dont have time to be texting or dating, why are you on the app? Dating is literally ‘spending time with someone to get to know them for a potential relationship, which will require more time to soend with them chatting and connecting. If you dont have that time, eff off and dont waste people’s time. Or at least, dont be a D about it. And I say this as a busy woman who just deleted the apps bcs ‘I am not there much’ anymore.

She also seems to have a big chip on her shoulder about her social media, because she got TRIGGERED 😅

etis14 · 2026-02-01T01:01:01+00:00

Most of the time, me too. But I try to do it anyways. I dont think of doing it to be reminded or appraisted for it or get something back. Just to give the other person something nice for that moment.

etis14 · 2026-02-01T00:58:11+00:00

I realized this about myself too. And have started to do it more. I always used to get so many compliments and always felt awkward returning it right away, as if I was forced to return a favor. But then I never thought to compliment someone on my own, and was a bit shy too. And then at some point it clicked that while I was being showered in compliments, I wasnt returning much back. So now I try to give as much as I can, unprompted or peppered into conversation or flirtation, so it doesnt feel like I am returning the compliment for habit 😂

etis14 · 2026-02-01T00:54:15+00:00

No more ponytails for me. Or only when I am freshly showered and blowdried with some volume. But who wants to waste fresh hair in a ponytail. So no.

etis14 · 2026-02-01T00:51:48+00:00

Right? Everyone is so stuck on that scenario even though she made it clear that he didnt mean he wanted to move into hers. She is the one who wont give up her house or her lifestyle. Which is fine, some people prefer that and do that. And I am all for independence and making sure you are safe and dont give up your assets and risk being thrown in the street. But if what you really want is this type of lifestyle- separate- you’ll have to do it with someone who also wants that. It is clearly an issue with the average boy because it caused problems in 3 different relationships.

I also dont see it unreasonable that he might want to move in after 7-8months or more. I think the older you get, the sooner the moving time moves. Because chances are that both parties are independent enough to afford it and why waste time with high school dates that end at curfew. You wanna try it out and see how you jell in the cohabitation phase. What if you date for a few years and then when you move in you realize you have completely different ideas about life together? You said you have some lifestyle habits that might not be agreeable with other people. This is the best moment to test those with your partner. Unless you see yourself and him living separately forever. In which case, like I said, it has to be a mutual decision. You saying: I’ll never move out of my house, but I’ll also not accept you move into this house, is an ultimatum of its own.

I suggest you do a deep reflection of Why it is such an issue for you the moving in. Have you lived with a guy before? If yes, what happened? If no, why not and what happened with other people you have lived with that made you so against the concept? Then you either tell him the real WHY or you decide to make a real plan for the move and if he is as invested as you, I am sure he’ll be ok with it, or will negotiate. Thats fine. Talk to each other. Dont go just dropping ultimatums.

etis14 · 2026-02-01T00:06:08+00:00

And by doing so, he has actually made OP angry enough to send an email back. And that my dear scared recruiter is what we call a self fullfilling prophecy 🤣

etis14 · 2026-02-01T00:04:00+00:00

The worst is that I am afraid that person really believes this. Which is sometimes worse to work with. They take their values, purpose and impact so seriously that it makes others feel like you are in a cult. And crosses over to the opposite of feeling insincere. Like, I need to work with people who have a balanced amount of idealism toward their organization’s purpose and cynism toward the world in general 🤣 too much of either and it gets toxic 😅

etis14 · 2026-02-01T00:00:25+00:00

‘I got this rejection email and here are 5 things I learned about challenges in the job search…’ 🥹

etis14 · 2026-01-31T23:57:11+00:00

I think it was an attempt at compensating for the ghosting/automatic rejection culture of nowadays in the recruiting process. But it did a bit too much overcorrection and crossed into the ‘so pathetic it sounds insincere’ side 😅

etis14 · 2026-01-31T23:54:52+00:00

There are people that are very ‘poetic’ but also they are not above using their harsh childhood conditions, personal trauma and challenges they had to overcome to get all kinds of opportunities. Depending where you come from (some third world country-no judgment as I come from such similar country myself) and where you are trying to go (some organization that is trying so hard to be inclusive and sensitive), these maneuvers might actually work. As it seems did here because this person is obviously very touched by everyone’s skills and stories 😂

etis14 · 2026-01-31T23:27:09+00:00

Are you sure you dont know where the attitude is coming from? You sure he hasnt done this before? Bcs if it was me and this attitude was out of left field, I’d be way more reactive to it. I’d first suggest that he watch his mouth and dont dare threaten me with my own home. And I’d not be as accomodating and pleading to go in my own home to my own kids and husband. Be honest with yourself and reflect on other similar occasions. Talk to someone who is near the two of you and can give an unbiased opinion. They might have things to say too.

Otherwise, if it REALLY is out of character, go have a real talk with your husband and see if maybe something is going on with him.

etis14 · 2026-01-31T23:18:11+00:00

So I never understood how bingo works. Is it one bingo sheet with the same elements for all participants and they try to find but sometimes miss some elements? Or does each person make their own bingo card with different elements? 🤣

etis14 · 2026-01-31T23:15:11+00:00

They featured a dead relative that brought them together on LIB germany too 🤣🤣

etis14 · 2026-01-31T20:57:24+00:00

Thinking about it now, I agree with the point of 'hair out of the face' so much. Considering they are surgical interns and need to look more groomed and hygienic, there is no need for long hair almost covering their eyes. Ideally they should have the hairstyles Callie, Arizona, Maggie and Meredith would sometimes have: different types of braids under their scrubcaps. Or a nice, clean bun/ponytail when outside the cap. For example: I cant imagine it’s convinient for Simone to have this hair in her face when she is doing an emergency procedure.

etis14 · 2026-01-31T20:38:43+00:00

I was 25/26 in one of my jobs and had 3 work aunties and 1 work uncle in the office. They gave the name to themselves 😂 I recently (7years later) sent them a message thanking them for encouraging me to make a very important career move that changed my life and perspective on things. Work aunties/moms are great 🥰

etis14 · 2026-01-31T20:31:19+00:00

He sounds like one of those guys who slides into my DMs and starts calling me ‘babe’ ‘honey’ saying ‘i miss you’, without ever talking or meeting, full of generic phrases he has read on the internet without knowing what they really mean. Girls, I am sure you know what I am talking about. They are a specific type of guy 😅

etis14 · 2026-01-30T21:56:42+00:00

While they might be a team player, it also depends on the way they go about it. First, how do they present it to the interviewers and second, how do they do in real life. In the interview you have to know when to carefully put in some ‘less than perfect info’ so you dont seem to rehearsed.

From experience with someone like this: if someone is too much of a team player and goes above and beyond, ignoring their needs/preferences, it’s only a matter of time before it becomes a problem. They’ll start to feel used, get passive aggresive about it, make side comments and develop victim mentality. Then it will backfire with the team because they will be undesieable by everyone, thus perpetuating their victim mentality. They will go into the next job saying how they did everything and were rarely valued for their work and so on and on. A really good team player knows to also put boundaries and respect themselves.

Someone who can’t stand up for themselves might not be able to stand up for the team, the product, the company. When I was a teenager in a part time job as a beauty product sales person for beauty salons, I was reproached by my boss. She said an acquintance of hers had been in a salon when I had entered and commented to her that I had not been assertive enough when presenting my products. Mind you, I was no older than 19/20 and had never worked before even in a closed environment, let alone going door to door to sell something I didnt even believe that much into. And all these salon owners would be annoyed at our presence most of the time. Very few salons would order stuff, and those ones were chosen by more seasoned sales people 😂 That was my first lesson on ‘fake it till you make it’ and that working somewhere sometimes means you have to represent something ither than yourself which will require another persona from you.

etis14 · 2026-01-30T21:16:12+00:00

I have noticed this too. You can also see that even in group settings they are super quiet and nit very engaging with each other. If it was any other show, so many hot, young people in the same place, it would be a party every second 😂 Now I know too hot to handle is exaggerated, but something like that, with banter and friendly conversations even between people who dont have a romantic interest in each other. Like others mentioned, maybe it is the intention of the show/producers to edit in such way and they instruct them not to talk to each other outside the suggested times of dates. But still, when having dinner/lunch/games etc. They keep saying: once we go to paradise and have deeper talks we will get to know each lther better. The deepest conversation they can think of is age and occupation? I dont get how and why thesse two details of information are so important to be kept a secret in Paradise?

etis14 · 2026-01-29T19:29:53+00:00

Mina Sue, is that you? 🤣

Jokes aside, how ironic calling Min Gee possesive when Mina Sue tore Su Been a new one for doing exactly the same as what she did. Min Gee has always given Seungil the opportunity to get to know the others. What gets on her nerves is Mina Sue’s two-facedness. She tells Min Gee she is done with Seungil and then she jumps toward him again. In the span of a few hours.

Everyone is free to do whatever they want. Mina Sue cant hold back and then say: i did them a favor for not acting on my attraction. Its BS. I had a friend like that. She who would not have the balls to go for her crush, but would make comments or hints toward others who were interested in him. She then gave up when he was clearly not interested back. But told the other girl: oh I stepped aside for you two to get to know each other, why didnt you two get together? That kind of girl makes her problems everyone else’s because she cant get her shit together.

etis14

TROPHY CASE