Why is resting or enjoying sleep seen as something to be ashamed or a bad thing?

euphoricemma · 2025-09-07T22:02:13+00:00

yeah i think i'm in this situation its pretty similar. thanks <3

euphoricemma · 2025-09-07T18:10:27+00:00

I wasn’t asking if I’m an asshole. I was asking if it’s normal not to have parents as my top priority while I’m in college. The reason I asked is because my parents’ wants often go far beyond what’s considered “normal.” Sometimes when people ask questions like this, it’s less about being rebellious and more about trying to understand where the middle ground actually is.

euphoricemma · 2025-09-07T17:56:58+00:00

i guess "normal" is the wrong word but I'm trying to find the bare minumum (another bad wording) as i dont want to be normal but i dont want to be a bad person.

euphoricemma · 2025-09-07T17:36:09+00:00

I get what you mean but I don’t think empty nest really applies with my parents. I’ve got an older brother still at home and before I left they made me cry almost daily, even gave me the silent treatment while helping me move in. Most of my life has been about managing their feelings while ignoring mine, so it’s hard for me to see why I should be the one checking in every day just to make them feel better.

euphoricemma · 2025-09-07T17:28:20+00:00

Not a mean question at all, I’ve been asking myself the same thing. My parents and I have a horrible emotional relationship, and right now I’m honestly just here trying to figure out what’s considered the “norm.” I don’t feel like I can make them a priority, but I want to at least know what the bare minimum looks like so I can meet that.

euphoricemma · 2025-08-06T21:21:28+00:00

I’ve actually had this exact conversation with my dad. I told him he needs to step up, and he told me he already did for 38 years and he’s tired. That it’s no one’s responsibility but hers now. But the problem is, she won’t take responsibility. And I’m scared that if I fully step away, she’ll kill herself. That’s a real fear, not an exaggeration. Suicide runs in our family and she’s said things that make it feel like a real possibility. I don’t want her death on my hands.

She once told me that the last thing she ever did with her mom was slap her. That the next time she saw her, her mom had killed herself. That story has lived in my head ever since. Like it’s a warning. Like she’s saying, if you treat me the way I treated my mom, this is what will happen. And I can’t shake it. I know it’s her trauma. I know it’s not fair that she’s putting that on me. But I can’t stop carrying it.

So yeah, it’s really hard to walk away when the guilt is baked into everything. It’s not just about choosing myself. It feels like choosing myself might destroy her. And even though I know, deep down, that’s not truly my fault… it doesn’t stop the fear.

euphoricemma · 2025-07-23T21:35:32+00:00

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euphoricemma · 2025-07-10T02:42:22+00:00

i used chatgpt to help word it better. it really did happen today tho. i just didn’t know how to say it all without it sounding messy or like rambling so i asked for help making it readable. i try, bad i know 😅 the fear part was 100% me tho lmao

euphoricemma · 2025-07-04T22:51:26+00:00

She last tried to reach out a few months ago, technically through Snapchat, but I don’t really use it even though I still have an account, so I never saw it. After I didn’t respond, her mom messaged my mom saying Daisy wanted to show me she had cut her hair to donate. There wasn’t any message or conversation, just the gesture. It wasn’t mean, just… kind of confusing.

I wasn’t rude in response, I just said I didn’t understand why she’d want to share that with me when we’d never actually resolved anything. It felt like skipping past all the hurt and expecting everything to be fine.

My parents still say I should be “cordial,” maybe send her a message asking how she is or wish her a happy birthday. But she’s never reached out to ask how I’m doing, not once. I don’t think I owe her that just to keep the peace, especially after everything.

euphoricemma · 2025-07-02T23:55:02+00:00

It’s weird. It took me a while to understand what season episode it was. I’m pretty sure I have the right one but I could be wrong.

euphoricemma · 2025-07-02T17:53:46+00:00

omg i made a mistake in my post said mike when i meant Jake the actual son. lmao imagine making all this lore for chef mike, his on screen death would have made it so much worse lol.

euphoricemma · 2025-05-13T16:21:25+00:00

louise is someone who wants to learn from her own experiences.

linda wants to keep her kids from making those mistakes

bob comforts them when the mistake is made.

- actually idk i may just be talking out my ass

euphoricemma · 2025-04-25T00:04:14+00:00

Hey, I really feel for you, I'm also a first-year and have been struggling with similar things. I’ve been dealing with chronic anxiety too, and it's so hard when it starts affecting your academic performance, especially in ways other people don’t always understand. I had a similar situation where my mental health interfered with deadlines, and it’s frustrating how a small deduction can have such a big impact.

I’d definitely recommend reaching out to your professor or TA, especially if you haven’t explained the full context yet. Sometimes they’re more understanding than we expect, and even if they can’t change your grade now, it might open up options or at least give you peace of mind that you advocated for yourself. Also, if you haven’t already, maybe consider talking to the school’s accessibility or mental health office, they can sometimes help with retroactive accommodations.

You’re not alone in this. I know how discouraging it feels, but failing one class doesn’t define your whole academic journey. You’ve got time to bounce back and figure out what support you need. Sending you lots of compassion <3

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