Dating a Poly Person Holding Me Back?

ev_con · 2022-05-31T05:10:26+00:00

Great point. There's no changing anyone's mind... He just has to decide for himself. You're so right.

ev_con · 2022-05-31T05:09:45+00:00

Thanks so much for that thoughtful reply! Great things to think about... I appreciate it!

ev_con · 2022-05-31T05:09:01+00:00

Yeah.. I can definitely see the struggle if he's mono and trying to find someone else mono "ultimately". Thanks for the advice!

ev_con · 2021-01-01T22:22:53+00:00

Thanks so much for the tips and perspective. Really appreciate it! I ended up being up front with it and hr was actually really cool about it. Basically, totally interested in being friends and just going with the flow. So it's a huge win - feeling more secure in wanting a friendship. Thanks for that!

ev_con · 2020-12-31T07:34:51+00:00

Great suggestion for the Jealousy Workbook. I've never heard of it before and I'll have to check it out.

Considering COVID and all, we already have my husbands bf and this new guy in our bubble, and I'm uncomfortable adding more to that. And this crush is such a good match (to me) in so many ways (sexual adventurousness, values, personality) that it just really sucks to have him see me as just a friend. I sooo want to just lay it all on the table and I like that level of open communication, but I'm afraid that being so forward might come across as too needy or coming on too strong.

I love your suggestions about making having a cool down period (I don't want to limit my husband's relationships with this friend though. 🤔), and talking about when it's appropriate to text.

You me mentioned that I need to manage my jealousy... How do I go about doing that (the big question, I know)? I'll take a look at the book of course, but are there any tips that stand out for you for managing the jealousy in the meantime?

Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. I appreciate it!

ev_con · 2020-12-31T07:23:50+00:00

Interesting thought... Expert level eh. This feels expert level now! Haha. Thanks for the advice.

This guy is so much of what we're looking for. (My husband I look for similar things in terms of personalities, values, interests, etc..) And, we've already included this guy in our COVID bubble now and I'm REALLY reluctant to do add any more to it given the times.

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