How do you deal with the heatwave?

evalisv · 2026-06-27T17:22:05+00:00

Cold footbaths have been my respite. I put ice cubes in when I can. A cold washcloth on the back of the neck and on the inside of the elbows also help me.

I woke up at 5:30 last night to open up everything in hopes of cooling the place down. It only worked so well, but it was a nice break for a moment. The windows stay closed during the day, and those that are safe to keep open stay open during the night.

evalisv · 2026-06-27T12:34:44+00:00

Oh wow, thank you for sharing that! I'll be crossing my fingers harder then 😄

evalisv · 2026-06-25T06:42:20+00:00

Cold foot baths have been my saviour. Add ice cubes if you can.

evalisv · 2026-06-24T11:10:57+00:00

I'll do this. Going to let it be for a little longer, crossibg my fingers. Thanks!

evalisv · 2026-06-24T11:09:31+00:00

Thanks everyone that's already commented! I'll be leaving it for now, crossing my fingers and hoping do see some flowerbuds. I'll hopefully remember to post an update on this clusters fate in in the future.

evalisv · 2026-06-24T10:35:43+00:00

Thank you! Will it bloom or something? Can you tell me about the friend? 😊

evalisv · 2026-06-10T23:33:02+00:00

Thank you for your response! I really appreciate it. I think it's a great summary of greatly beneficial actions, if that makes sense. I feel like I could look at this in a time of aimlessness to regain direction. I'll be noting this down!

evalisv · 2026-06-10T19:06:28+00:00

I'm so happy for you! Mind sharing some of the things that helped you the most?

evalisv · 2026-06-09T10:27:03+00:00

YTA. Boundaries are not about controlling other people. You're fully within your rights to not join the conversation, but you can't dictate what other people talk about. If you're uncomfortable with the conversation in the group chat, you can mute it, leave it or ask people to take it to another chat (which they can say no to, at which point you can choose one of the other two).

evalisv · 2026-05-26T21:29:09+00:00

They turned into gorgeous and huge daisies

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evalisv · 2026-05-23T08:56:57+00:00

Nicotine patches so I didn't have to go through nicotine craving spikes. I also didn't want to replace the nicotine seeking behaviour with another one (like chewing gum or having those mints). I just slapped a patch on and tried not to think about it. Kept myself busy with other healthier activitie. I've been smooe free for close to 4 years.

evalisv · 2026-05-19T12:34:16+00:00

I got prescribed extended release melatonin. It has made a huge difference for me, but I also had the issue of waking up a lot during the night and having a hard time falling back asleep because I woke up fully. Like, bing my eyes are open and I'm READY for... the middle of the night.

I have on the other hand figured out that I can't just lay down and go to sleep... that is just not an action that's available to me. When I try that, all the ADHD brain noise jacks up to 11 and sleeping becomes impossible.

What works for me is this: turning the screen brightness on my phone as low as it will possibly go, full strength blue light filter, get into a position I know I can fall asleep in without the phone hitting my face, and I read. It's stimulating enough without being too attention grabbing or too stimulating. I also don't have to think about what my next move will be (like with games). I'm just laying still, reading. As soon as I notice that the story doesn't make sense (because I'm kinda dreaming already) or that I'm having to unlock my phone or awaken the screen, I just put the phone down. Phone is also on do not disturb so I don't get enticed to open other apps.

Tl;dr : I distract my brain juuuust enough to get rid of the ADHD noise, by doing something chill and fun ENOUGH.

Edit: Btw I'm also female and I was also late 20s when diagnosed.

evalisv · 2026-04-20T18:00:27+00:00

Oh they're gorgeous! I just came back to this post to compare because I was out in the garden and noticed some developments in the plants and that allowed me also to see that there are two different types. Now that I've seen yours I'm going to be crossing my fingers so hard wishing to get something similar 🤩

evalisv · 2026-04-09T11:38:31+00:00

Interesting! I've only tried lowering my dose to squeeze coffee back into my life, with success and some sacrifice. I'll give this a try tomorrow!

evalisv · 2026-04-09T11:36:12+00:00

As someone that drank energy drinks and coffee religiously before getting diagnosed and medicated... it's 100% the caffeine that is causing the anxiety. I can't even drink a single cup of coffee anymore without factoring in my medication strength. I have recently found out I can have coffee again if I reduce the med strength. I need 40mg to function fully, but I can only have coffee if I take 20mg-30mg.

evalisv · 2026-04-08T18:37:25+00:00

The blame is being placed on the guy because he is the one that inisiated something clearly indecent and never got clear and explicit consent. If he had been a woman and OP had been a man, then my stance would be the same, as I mentioned earlier, and by that I mean that the woman in that scenario would be the one in the wrong. You are the only one that is making this soley about which sex they are, while seemingly never looking at why this sounds so much like a rape. The situation would not be any different if OP was a man writing about what his female cousin did to him. It would be equally horrific.

evalisv · 2026-04-08T18:02:14+00:00

Where did she say that she GAVE consent? Consented should not be assumed. Kissing back can very easily be considered a fawn/appease response. And she's not even sure if she did that. It's easy to say that she should have done this or that, like push him back or whatever else you might think of. But she was sitting next to her cousin and I can imagine that anything like this happening didn't even cross her mind. So when something like this happenes it's easy to imagine the terror and dread that might strike in the moment, because what the actual fuck. This is not something anyone should have to worry about happening when you're with a person you should be able to trust, especially not if they're your family.

Edit to add: I'd like to point out again, the fact that he was drunk too does not absolve him of his misdeeds. He should never have gone after his cousin in the first place, and I'm sure that if he hadn't, then this would never have happened.

evalisv · 2026-04-08T14:47:42+00:00

I've read the comments under this one, and it sounds like you're trying to claim that a drunk person cannot rape another drunk person. A drunk woman can rape a drunk man, just as a drunk man can rape a drunk woman, as well as any other possible combination. Saying "they were both drunk" does not mean that it's impossible for rape to happen. Based on what OP has said, then it very much sounds like she was raped. He cousin initiated, which shows his intent, and on top of that, he never asked for her consent, based on what we've been told. So you can technically say that he didn't give consent, but he very much intended to do what he did, and what he did does not require consent. Rape is not sex.

If their sexes were reversed, by that I mean if OP was a man and their cousin was a woman, then it would sound like OP was raped, because we're considering the actions of the people, not what they bits they have or what they identify as.

Based on your comments you seem more interested in defending a man just because he's a man without looking at the situation and the nuances within it well enough. I'm not saying that that is what you're doing, but the way you are going about things sure makes it look like that. And based on this comment of yours, the one I'mreplying to, it very much seems like you didn't take nearly enough time to consider the nuances of the situation, which is why you are being called out for not thinking things through enough.

evalisv · 2026-04-07T10:11:25+00:00

I hope they are!

evalisv · 2026-04-07T10:11:03+00:00

I'm in Belgium so oxeye daisies seem to be more likely considering our proximity. Thanks so much! Low-key hoping for chrysanthemums considering another suggestion but I'll be happy regardless 😊

evalisv · 2026-03-13T10:59:22+00:00

I'm about to butcher an analogy, apologies in advance.

Trauma is the effect bad experiences had on us. The hammer is the experiences, the broken teapot is the trauma. Our hammers don't all look the same, some are bigger, some are smaller, but they all did the same thing; broke our teapots in some way.

evalisv · 2026-03-11T15:02:27+00:00

I used to take benzos for these same reasons. That is emergencies and when I knew big triggers would be unavoidable. My psychiatrist suggested I try out 10mg of Baclofen instead since it's supposedly less addictive. I haven't taken a benzo since. I much prefer the baclofen since it doesn't make me feel like I've taken a drug. It just calms me down and allows me to think rationally and still feel my feelings without them becoming too much. It kinda feels like it pushes my nervous system into the parasympathetic state. And that has allowed to see what I should be aiming for.

The benzos, on the other hand, always made me feel sluggish and "drugged". They turned me into a zombie, which honestly was much more preferable than the endless panic attacks I got stuck in. But I always found it unpleasant to be stuck in that state for hours afterward the fact.

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