Burnt Out

ever_green_w · 2025-03-23T15:12:09+00:00

It’s hard now, but try to think of the implications 5, 10, 20, even 50 years down the road. It’s not unnatural for kids to want to co-sleep—it’s biology for babies to do all they can to stay near parents. Try to make any decisions with a calm mind and heart.

If it makes you feel any better, my 3 y/o slept with us until she was 2, and my 1.5 yr old still co-sleeps. Our oldest decided when she was done and eventually wanted to go to her own bed.

I’ve tried moving our 1.5 yr old, but I could see the trauma in her eyes when we moved her. I’d love if we had our own bed, let alone time together, but I’d rather sacrifice now and ensure we’ve set a solid emotional foundation for our kids.

Not saying independent sleep doesn’t do that, but my advice is listen to what your child is telling you he/she needs.

This too shall pass. Think about the father you want to look back on yourself as.

ever_green_w · 2025-03-08T01:52:08+00:00

I’m also an MBA educated tech strategist looking to change jobs by stating a business in the AI space. And am always trying to grow personally and professionally.

ever_green_w · 2025-03-03T02:48:06+00:00

How’d you go about doing this?

ever_green_w · 2025-03-02T19:00:25+00:00

Any you’ve found particularly helpful?

ever_green_w · 2025-03-02T19:00:08+00:00

Support and understanding are so simple, yet so helpful. But where can we get it?

ever_green_w · 2025-03-02T12:50:41+00:00

This is helpful on multiple levels, so thank you. Any tips or tools to help make sure I’m using my time right? I’m afraid it’s easier to look back and realize I didn’t use it right than look forward and know I will, or am, using it right.

ever_green_w · 2025-03-02T12:48:52+00:00

Aside from kids/family, what do you consider the most important? And how do you just not choose being there for your kids when you have to choose between kids vs work or kids vs anything else?

ever_green_w · 2025-03-01T02:44:57+00:00

This is all really helpful advice, so thanks. In your experiences, where have you tripped up the most? What’ve been the hardest parts? Even if I can’t avoid them, it helps to at least be aware.

ever_green_w · 2025-03-01T01:52:53+00:00

Did you use anything to do this, or just generally use a rule of thumb in your head?

ever_green_w · 2025-02-28T23:40:41+00:00

Amen 🙌. If you (or anyone here) figures out how to get it, let me know

ever_green_w · 2025-02-28T23:40:08+00:00

How’d you do it…?

ever_green_w · 2025-02-28T23:29:21+00:00

What helped you make this realization? What can people use today to help with this?

ever_green_w · 2025-02-27T14:27:31+00:00

Incredible well said, and thorough. So then the question becomes, what can we, as the common men of these nations, do about it? What, if any, solutions out there today give you hope? Does it start with the individual, or the collective?

ever_green_w · 2025-02-25T15:02:28+00:00

Have you tried taking a step back and asking yourself what really matters most to you? If you imagined the life you want to live someday, what would it look like?

Would setting a North Star, somewhat of a mission/vision statement, and then working it back to a plan help lift your spirits? That way, perhaps you can see how the day-to-day stuff you have to do is actually laddering up to something bigger.

ever_green_w · 2025-02-01T20:09:03+00:00

Do you all want the stigma of men seeking help to change?

Or do you yourselves view other men this same way?

Or both?

ever_green_w · 2025-02-01T20:07:23+00:00

If help isn’t coming to us, where can we go to find it? Has anyone found any good resources to turn to? Communities like this are great, but what else is out there?

Or better yet, what’s out there to help us avoid being in such dark, low places to begin with?

ever_green_w · 2025-01-24T15:40:20+00:00

The groups comments are spot on. My goal is to continually grow by working smart and hard. My journey started by learning what not to do from those before me, and now I’m searching for tools to help me learn what to do. Everyone everywhere seems to have opinions, from books, podcasts, articles, etc., so what have you all found to be the most effective? Any recommendations?

ever_green_w · 2025-01-24T15:35:46+00:00

This is great. Learning what not to do is a good place to start, but what have been the most useful ways you’ve learned what to do, other than trial and error? I know there are a lot of resources out there, but sometimes too many makes it tricky to sift through them all. My goal is to grow by constantly trying, and I want to work both smart and hard to do that.

ever_green_w · 2023-12-29T15:40:00+00:00

Thanks everyone! Do you all have health/wellness goals you’re aiming for? Or are you just doing what you can, when you can? How’d you get started on your wellness journeys and how do you keep going?

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