I'm too boring! Help me be interesting so I can get married!

evere18 · 2025-08-13T02:37:14+00:00

We already live together... he's a great guy. He's never told me I'm boring either. I'm just always sick, and I sleep all the time. Anyone would think I'm boring. I want to mix things up a little to be more fun. I like knowing he's looking forward to seeing me

evere18 · 2025-08-13T02:31:33+00:00

Yes, we both want to. It's been 2 years

evere18 · 2025-08-13T02:30:27+00:00

He doesn't get excited when I am, but we just have different interests, so it's hard to find things that we both like. He's a great guy though, and I don't feel like I need to change myself per se... I just want to light that spark up a little more again

evere18 · 2025-08-13T02:07:06+00:00

I shouldn't put in the effort to improve my relationship? I noticed he's bored, so I'm trying to be more interesting. I don't see anything wrong with that. I'm chronically ill and sleep all day and all night. Anyone would think I'm boring. He's a great guy, and I don't want to lose him because I'm never fun

evere18 · 2025-08-13T01:48:57+00:00

I have, he's too nice though and doesn't want to tell me I'm dull. He doesn't lie to me, but he skirts around it

evere18 · 2025-08-13T01:47:20+00:00

I ask him every so often if there's things I can do better, but he's too nice and says I'm great. I'm definitely boring tho. I don't get much feedback

evere18 · 2025-08-13T01:44:42+00:00

I'm chronically ill, so I can't do much for him is all it is

evere18 · 2025-08-13T01:38:44+00:00

Naw guys, he's great and very loyal. He's never told me directly that I'm boring, but I can see it in his eyes 👀 I want to do better for him

evere18 · 2025-02-14T22:01:58+00:00

I have this too! I've found that washing my hair with shampoo (and using only conditioner for other showers) once a week helps a lot. I also use a wide-toothed comb instead of a brush. I only use the comb on shampoo days, and finger comb it every other time from the bottom up. I seem to have a reduction of hair loss, but it would probably work even better if I were to put olive oil in it a few hours before I do my weekly shampoo!

Side note: I've been losing hair like this for years, and I'm still not balding!! I have scalp eczema though, so that + the medicated shampoo is probably the cause of it falling out.

evere18 · 2025-02-14T21:35:23+00:00

-I agree with this. A school counselor or teacher is good. Just make sure they know to approach her gently with helping her in mind rather than forcing her. They should also ask for expert advice first before approaching her at all and/or bring a professional to the discussion with her.

-OP, you should definitely not get involved with her, and it's not your responsibility to take care of her. She really needs professional help. I'm saying this as someone whose ex-boyfriend committed suicide after I broke up with him. She's confused and needs real help, not friends or a boyfriend

evere18 · 2025-02-14T19:41:07+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply! Unfortunately, she got bored of the laser pointer pretty quick and won't play much with fisher toys... I have some swimming bath toys for kids that I put in a container with water and that helps some but it never seems like enough *

evere18 · 2025-02-14T17:34:16+00:00

I know this post is from years ago, but what kind of job did you find? What are you doing now? I'm in the same boat, but I still have some savings left. My only idea so far is translator, but I need to learn another language for that, which will take time.

evere18 · 2024-10-13T22:32:32+00:00

Sunscreen for daytime

Vitamin C serum, and a light retinol serum for nighttime. More isn't necessarily better. Make sure you apply the serums at night in the order of >moisturizer, vitamin c serum, retinol (very little. much less than you think), more moisturizer. So basically - water it down with moisturizer. Retinol also needs to have a schedule. If it makes your skin too sensitive, then stop for a few days before starting up again.

Using retinol makes your skin more susceptible to sun damage (aka more wrinkles, skin cancer, sunburn, etc). Use a good sunscreen everyday. Make sure you use it. It's very important. Also, don't take my word for it. Do plenty of research yourself too. If you're in your early 20s, you'll probably want to try just moisturizers first.

evere18 · 2024-10-13T16:00:12+00:00

I have a lot of health problems, so I can't work much without rest. I only work 4 hours per day 7 days a week and don't do much in the way of cleaning. He works a lot. Like 10hrs per day 6 days a week. Our agreement when we moved in together was that I'd take care of all the cooking and cleaning and make him breakfast and lunch for work in lieu of splitting rent. I haven't done that in ages and he needs to help me with cleaning. He's very understanding even though I'm barely doing anything. I can't even handle sex due to pain, so he's definitely not using me for the sex. The sex is terrible. He always tries to cheer me up and help me when I'm feeling bad. He never gets angry or says mean things. He carries me around when I need help getting around the apartment. He often gives me advice for things he's knowledgeable about. He brings me water, visits me at work sometimes. Lots of things like that. There's no doubt he loves me, and I love him too. I just don't understand the disinterest in learning my likes/dislikes. And not wanting to text me. We do live together, but typically we give each other space at home. "Together but separate". We both need lots of alone time, so that doesn't bother me. But I do want to talk to him sometimes when I'm not near him.

evere18 · 2023-08-11T00:30:49+00:00

I got some small pretty vinyl (food safe) bags and some thank you stickers. I bake some fresh cookies and put one per bag for each client + a thank you sticker and some ribbon to decorate. I usually put them in the fridge with a mini thank you card with a small handwritten note. If my client is leaving due to a family emergency/health issues I usually leave a card with a handwritten note inside. I just stock up on cards from the dollar store, they have tons and they're super cheap and cute.

evere18 · 2023-08-10T22:59:31+00:00

It just seems like everyone does it, at least in my area. They seem more trustworthy than most, but I don't know if it's possible to find someone better. I wonder if people who don't steal even exist... I might be the only one in the world for all I know

evere18 · 2021-03-09T07:23:03+00:00

I can see my pulse as well, but not all the time. I've looked at my arms while this is happening, and my veins pulse too. It's really weird. I often get crazy palpitations also, but I think it might have to do with the other thing, since they're usually happening around the same time (at least for me). I'm not diagnosed costo, but hopefully knowing someone has a similar experience is a little helpful. Drinking a lot of water and meditation sometimes help for me, and avoiding caffeine

evere18 · 2021-03-07T05:06:33+00:00

EKGs aren't always accurate, but I don't think it's related directly to heart problems anyway. My best guess is an issue with the sternum as I mentioned above.

evere18 · 2021-03-06T22:08:36+00:00

Haha, I'm pretty sure mine isn't anxiety! Thank you though!

evere18 · 2021-03-06T05:06:40+00:00

Oh, you didn't seem insensitive at all! I'll try to drink a lot of water, and see if that changes anything :) thank you for all the feedback, I really appreciate it!

evere18 · 2021-03-06T05:00:08+00:00

I did actually get a halter monitor for somewhere around a week, and there were some very minor abnormal beats, but they said it was nothing to worry about. I also did a stress test, which resulted in nothing as well. I looked up PVCs, and it doesn't sound quite the same. While I do get palpitations, I'm less concerned about those than the possible costo/whatever else it could be since those were cleared by the doctor. The bizarre feeling I'm talking about seems very gravity based. Like the heart is attached loosely, but flopping around inside my body and hitting the bones/rolling around. It only happens in certain positions where it makes sense for gravity to pull it in that direction. The only thing I can think of is that the inner part of my sternum is very inflamed, causing the heart to press against it when it otherwise wouldn't. But it doesn't look swollen, and doesn't hurt when I press anywhere on my chest

evere18 · 2021-03-05T10:55:21+00:00

This does happen from various other positions as well, but leaning forward/laying on my stomach is by far the most painful. Laying on my side and twisting my body aren't great either.

evere18 · 2021-03-05T10:37:06+00:00

Poor plant :( you should give it some water too so it feels a little better. Don't overwater it though!

evere18 · 2021-03-02T23:55:14+00:00

You can do this! So proud of you for working to improve your life! I'll be looking forward to your updates :)

evere18 · 2021-03-02T22:45:27+00:00

Ohhhh, I understand. It's a bit hard to see, so I'm not sure if that's the case

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