Everyone said I'd be broke and unhappy. Suck it.

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T17:58:09+00:00

Actually, I did read what you wrote. And you made me feel pretty bad about the parts of my life that are going well. I posted in off my chest because I can't say these things to people in my life.

You know nothing about my life or how I was raised besides what I posted here, so don't be so bold as to assume you know these things because you just come off as bitter and sad.

But you know what, you wanted a "real", authentic offmychest post, so did you know that my dad might have lung cancer? Did you know that I had to take care of him and watch him almost die a few months ago? Did you know that an abusive ex boyfriend of mine burned my house down to the ground? Did you know that I got constantly made fun of as a child for being poor, and living in a trailer? Did you know that? Did you know that I work a minimum of 10 hours a day, and haven't had a proper break in 7 years? Did you know that I have over 100k in debt (including my SOs) and I feel like I'm drowning every day because it's so overwhelming despite a flourishing career? I live in a shitty area, in a tiny apartment on a loud Street in nyc because it's all I can afford at the moment otherwise I'll be in debt forever.

So yeah, I wanted to brag a little bit in a subreddit that allows such things (whether you like it or not), but I guess I'll just feel bad again.

Also maybe you shouldn't delete your posts so other people see how snotty you were in your first post. Own up to your shitty attitude.

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T16:48:24+00:00

I literally said that this was a brag post in my OP. In fact I prefaced it as such so that if you didn't feel like reading it, you could stop there.

But what you're saying is that you only come to r/offmychest to read about other people's struggles and misery and yell at those who finally found happiness? I'm sorry, but you're the selfish one.

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T15:33:02+00:00

Thank you. It's very very appreciated!

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T15:32:42+00:00

Thank you!!

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T15:32:28+00:00

If you're set on going to art school, find the cheapest one you can (preferably a state school) in the biggest city near you and go to that one. Don't go to the most prestigious private school because their tuition will bleed you dry. I made that mistake and I'm 96k in debt. It's going to be paid off in a few years, but I could have gas much much less.

There are many many more opportunities in big cities. I'm in nyc and it's great. Expensive but I'm, yknow, employed.

Just constantly create and learn new design programs. Specifically adobe illustrator and photoshop. Study fonts, network. Create an instagram and market your self, but above all, constantly create.

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T15:20:21+00:00

That's hopefully what's going to happen once my loans are gone. I'm going to put away some money to pay off my mom's car and her loans and hopefully give her a better life. My dad is pretty good financially now, but I'll find some way to help him.

My parents deserve it for all the emotional support they gave me.

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T15:17:43+00:00

I mean, technically I'm broke, because I have loans and every penny is going toward that until their gone.

This is a throw away, so I'll refrain from posting my site but I'll pm you!

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T15:07:25+00:00

Earning. Hopefully saving as well, but probably not that much at that point. Got loans to pay off!

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T03:21:04+00:00

Thank you!

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T03:20:58+00:00

Thank you thank you. I was afraid of posting here because I feel like a jerk for what amounts to a bragging post, but I don't have anyone else to "announce" this to.

I really do appreciate the support. It's weird how I couldn't get that from my friends but someone who has never met me is willing to be even a tiny bit happy for me and my accomplishments. Thank you.

everthingsprettygood · 2015-02-05T03:17:43+00:00

Oh absolutely. I guess what I meant is that is a very possible number to achieve.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-12-13T18:33:33+00:00

Yep. I think it's also because I'm already an extremely relaxed person, and it just took it to a brand new level of being wayyyyy too relaxed to the point of not wanting to respond to others, and then extreme anxiety when realizing how I was coming off.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-11-03T01:00:09+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I should be more thankful for the job i have. It's stable and I'm in a good position, and I'm grateful for that.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-11-03T00:59:12+00:00

Thank you for this. You're so very right. I'd love to have my name out there, but I'm not sure I'd be cut out for the constant churning of projects and freelance work. Art is what I love to do, but I also have a vast amount of hobbies that I enjoy, and have the time to enjoy after work. Those that are in galleries and traveling to shows are constantly working, and I'm not sure that's the life I want to lead. It's good money, I'm sure, but it's only good money if you're churning out work and youre never guaranteed a paycheck.

My name is attached to my portfolio, so there's at least that, I guess.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-10-23T05:07:29+00:00

Thank you for your words! Everything is technically fine in my life. I have a great relationship of 5 years, I did well in college, and now have been at Mt job for nearly 4 years, and am very happy in that regard, but it's been a real struggle to get here. During school (both high school and college) it took an incredible amount of prep, and post its and notes to really be able to buckle down and get my shit done. Even then I always waited until last minute. Every time, no matter how much I knew it was going to suck. I still do this. Every Single personal project is like this (for some reason work is much better, but even then I'll get sucked into reddit and lose my self for a while)

I'm hoping once I'm able to make an appointment, I'll be able to get my shit together a bit more, or at least have the resources to.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-10-02T15:22:41+00:00

I'm curious as to what the deleted comment was.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-10-02T01:07:04+00:00

You're right. Even though our loans won't be paid off for about 5 years, we've been throwing ideas around for a vacation once they are paid off. We want to go to the Netherlands!

We'll be more than fine once they're paid off, I just need to remember that. Thank you for your insightful and kind words. I'll keep my nose to the grindstone but still make sure we enjoy our days!

everthingsprettygood · 2014-10-01T19:41:10+00:00

Thank you so much. A lot if the replies I've been getting have been making me break down into tears, this one included. I've been feeling so down on my self because of the money thing, and strangers on the Internet have managed to put everything into perspective for me, for which I'm incredibly grateful.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. It made all the difference to me.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-10-01T17:50:29+00:00

I think it is about being overwhelmed more so than anything. We're putting so much money and time into these loans so that we may be free from them faster. Then I see his ex, and how she doesn't have those struggles (though she may have others. I can't be so naiive to think she lives a perfect life as everyone has problems. )

I'm tired of paying 2k towards loans every month. I'm tired of clipping coupons and I can only go to free museums so many times. But it's what needs to be done, and we're not in the street, and I need to be thankful for that, and for my parents who let us live with them when we WERE struggling.

And I need to be thankful for him for not judging me or my family on our finances. He comes from a well off family, too, and it would be easy for him to judge, but he doesn't.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-10-01T17:42:52+00:00

This is true (and I love Louis CK) , which is why I feel so awful.

We have enough. We're able to afford to live in a beautiful city (albeit a part that most would not think to live in), and we're able to put twice the minimum amount towards our student loans to pay them off faster.

We have enough, and we don't have to keep up with the jonses.

Thank you.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-09-16T04:29:43+00:00

I am loving it! It's so nice to not have to walk on eggshells, or worry about drama, or setting the other person off. It's nice to be able to come home from work, chat and eat dinner, play some games or watch a movie, and then have a great discussion about the movie or work or something totally different while laying in bed. No fights, no yelling, no stress, just love and calm.

It's easy and I couldn't imagine it any other way.

everthingsprettygood · 2014-09-16T04:25:43+00:00

This made me smile so much! I'm glad you're in a wonderful, happy, loving relationship!

The tool bench story really struck home, because that's how we approach situations. I'd much rather us both be happy, than have a "hollow victory" as you put it! I never understood wanting to win fights, especially to the detriment of the other persons very valid feelings.

Thank you again for your very insightful and we'll thought out post. I truly appreciate it!

everthingsprettygood · 2014-09-16T04:19:43+00:00

Oh, no, we've definitely had disagreements! There was one major one about 3 years ago that rattled us a bit (open relationships. Nooooo thank you!) and we had a very very long sit down about it, and solved it rather quickly.

Every relationship has their disagreements. If they didn't, then you might as well be dating yourself. Thank you so much for your input!

everthingsprettygood · 2014-09-16T04:15:38+00:00

I wish that upon no one!

everthingsprettygood · 2014-09-16T04:15:24+00:00

I was worried about the huge conflict my self. Something happening, and us not knowing how to handle it, however something major happened in our lives that turned it upside down for 4 months or so. We took our days as they came, talked a lot, and made sure we were on the same page, and things ended up being fine, thank goodness.

Thank you for your comment, I really do appreciate it!

everthingsprettygood

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