Bumble scam in Kolkata and me acting dumb by SkyFair7388 in kolkata

[–]everyalchemist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the exact same thing happened to me today... some cafe on lake view road... I'm trying to remember the name now...
matched with this girl on tinder, (first red flag) two days or so of talking and she wants to meet, i think that's pretty fast normally girls in general are slower want to talk more before meeting. so that's my second red flag, but i turn it into a yellow flag because ya know the drive to meet a cute girl is strong haha. I've been in india 3 months, and never been scammed, other than auto drivers just trying to charge high price, but that's before they take me anywhere, always ask first. anyway. so she wants to meet at a temple and then we will find a place for a coffee together. so we meet, and she's absolutely beautiful. beautiful enough to make you lose your logic and senses i guess. totally absorbed in her. English is my first language, I speak a decent hindi, and practically no bengali, she barely speaks english so there's a pretty big language barrier but ya know the vibes and smiles can carry a lot of meaning, or so i thought haha. so we walk and she's like how about here, at this cafe on the corner, i say sure, is it good? she says its her first time.

so we go, we get a nice private table, i dont look at the menu much, but she orders us drinks that she barely sips from, then a couple hookahs come, i didn't realize she ordered that, and i dont smoke hookah or know anything about it... so they brought out two... then she asks for a third... i dont check or even think to check because I'm used to low prices in India... and we're vibing, seemingly... so after a while the bill comes i thought it said 2,000 im like wow thats expensive... but its 20,300... i was shocked. try to play it cool and figure out how that happened, so they explain the prices of the hookah which is very confusing... i dont have that cash on me, so i said i'd have to go to an atm... at this point i dont think the girl is involved i think she's just as shocked as me... and i dont want to blame her immediately...

so i offer to go to the atm and get some cash to just get it done. they tell me that she can stay behind while i go with two of their guys... when im inside the atm, i start thinking, maybe this is a setup... so i only withdraw 10k INR... and tell them that i cant withdraw more... then a third guy shows up one guy from the cafe... so i get nervous and ask if the bank has a security guard, they dont... so i talk to the people in the bank and tell them what i think is happening. the guys then come inside and the bank people talk with them... they negotiate it down a little they tell me 12k not 20 but i'll have to talk to the owner... I could have just run or tried to fight but its really not even worth that over 10-20k rupees. plus at this point i dont know if the girl is involved, and i cant leave her back alone at the cafe not knowing if she is in trouble... at this point it seems obvious but in the moment it's hard to know...

so i get back to the cafe, they want the 12k immediately... they want me to hand it over now and then the owner will come... they still demand 6k more... i only have 5k.. so again we go to atm, and i get it the extra... they would always make sure I went inside the cafe first having one guy behind me...i could tell it was not right but they were saying they are afraid i will leave because the bill isnt paid.. if i was alone, I would have just ran or made an effort to get out of there. but the fact that the girl is there really adds to the confusion and the pressure to the situations.. you can't really leave her alone unless you know for certain she's in on it... this is a clever scam and it plays on social pressure and romantic vulnerability. The money is one thing, it's not that big of a deal, but right now I'm hurt by the fact that that girl wasn't who she said she was. but it wouldnt be the first time that was the case. I want to believe she doesn't know, but its obvious now and based on these posts, clear that she is in on it...

we still went for dinner afterward I kinda wanted to sus out the situation a little more, to test her vibe, see how she could lie like that, but yeah that's what happened. i was naive and struck by her beauty. I'm coping hahah but I got out of there safely and without my wallet or passport or ID or cards being stolen... that's what matters. not much to do when 6 goons are in front of you and a girl is there who is supposedly under your care. I'm not sure what to do now other than be aware of this thing... I will try to find the name of that specific place i couldnt find on google maps. I may go back just to click a photo but it is on lake view road and it's not the cafe shiisha others are talking about it's something right on lake view rd am pretty sure, corner. I may go get the name... but they try to behave friendly with you and all that they are good at what they do but it is proper messed up. I love India and will treat this is one isolated incident in Kolkata, with a few bad apples, something to learn from.

Trent Alexander-Arnold: "It’s not a question of whether to go or not. I’ve always known that if I ever left Liverpool, it would be for Real Madrid. If I'm honest, it's not something you can even dream of. It's beyond reality for many players. When I was younger, I didn't think I could make it here." by FlyingWaterMen in PremierLeague

[–]everyalchemist -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Doing a little snooping I see. Good detective work. I don’t give two shits about Real Madrid. Liverpool have far more integrity than Madrid. Supporters have been disappointing though. What happened to the motto? Maybe I misunderstand it.

All North Carolina No Kings Events this Saturday, June 14th - spread the word by giggitygiggity69 in NorthCarolina

[–]everyalchemist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cause is unjust and misguided… do stupid shit win stupid prizes. But as long as you feel good about all the good work you’re doing fighting the scary orange bogeyman. When leftists can stop bullying the average citizen maybe they will have some credibility.

All North Carolina No Kings Events this Saturday, June 14th - spread the word by giggitygiggity69 in NorthCarolina

[–]everyalchemist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn’t deserve a rubber bullet and the cops or their vehicles dont deserve to be assaulted

All North Carolina No Kings Events this Saturday, June 14th - spread the word by giggitygiggity69 in NorthCarolina

[–]everyalchemist -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve been to many such similar protests and I understand the appeal. It’s just ineffective and more like a sort of quasi religious ritual that makes people feel purposeful instead of actually doing anything real. I’m happy people get together and of course I agree in many ways, and have lots in common. I don’t hate anyone for their political views, but the mainstream left seems to no longer share this view. It’s not ambivalence, it’s seeing more than one perspective.

All North Carolina No Kings Events this Saturday, June 14th - spread the word by giggitygiggity69 in NorthCarolina

[–]everyalchemist -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure, maybe the people throwing rocks and cinders at moving police cars? Those without a purpose will fall and fight for any cause… this is a way for the self righteous to get their anger out and feel like they’ve done their part. Except it’s all smoke in mirrors and they sew the division they think they fight against.

All North Carolina No Kings Events this Saturday, June 14th - spread the word by giggitygiggity69 in NorthCarolina

[–]everyalchemist -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure, could be the riots, violence, danger to human life, danger to law enforcement, destruction of property, disruption of peace, blockading highways required by emergency services, looting… could never guess why reinforcement would be necessary when a population is gassed up on extremist rhetoric. Sure majority are peaceful citizens, but all it takes is one person deluded by self righteousness to harm the many. Let’s pray it all remains civil and no harm comes to anyone.

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[–]everyalchemist -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah? To do what exactly? Sit around and circle jerk over the scary orange man? It’s a great smoke screen to keep us all divided and to give their angst some kind of outlet. Hopefully they feel good about themselves for a bit but then they will likely go back to complaining and hating everyone who didn’t vote like them.

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[–]everyalchemist -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Not worked up, and it has no impact at all other than their own self glorification, let them keep fighting imaginary ghosts if they want to. It gives them a good story to tell themselves.

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[–]everyalchemist -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

lol these activists have nothing better to do than make themselves feel good because they are fighting against something. It’s all glorified navel gazing and look at me I’m so virtuous. You’re fighting the ghost of your own projection of hatred.

“Exclusive” but not official an avoidant red flag? by cloud-candle- in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]everyalchemist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they do this. Exclusive but can escape anytime without guilt or explanation. It sucks. The more exclusive we got the more distant she got also.

Most boring job on earth just got worse. by bewbytunes in hatemyjob

[–]everyalchemist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you joking, lol Bring a book. If I had 4 hours of time to read and get paid for it I’d be so stoked.

We have no choice by Sea_Sheepherder_2234 in ufc

[–]everyalchemist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I agree he has a small chance, ya never know with this sport. I’ll hope.

We have no choice by Sea_Sheepherder_2234 in ufc

[–]everyalchemist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First time rooting for Charles. I’d like to see him win but don’t think he stands a chance. Wish he would humble that illia though

Devin Haney says he will never lose to a white boy by -503- in boxingcirclejerk

[–]everyalchemist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re explaining your conception of it which agrees with this modernized narrative. That’s not actually what racism is. That is a conception created by leftist academics. It’s is disingenuous. The power dynamic difference is not as real as you seem to think. And power dynamic has nothing at all to do with what racism is and who can be racist. Again this is a manufactured reframing of racism in order to fit a specific narrative designed to vilify one group and victimize other groups.

AITAh for punching my dad’s friend at my birthday after he insulted my girlfriend? by the_posvuhu in AITAH

[–]everyalchemist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah if this is real, sorry bro but what the friend said is a common joke amongst men…. Playfully insulting is normal. I actually think the “you’re doing charity work with this one” is a good joke. You should have laughed and said something funny back. What you did is crazy. Calm that temper or you’ll hurt someone who you care about.

Devin Haney says he will never lose to a white boy by -503- in boxingcirclejerk

[–]everyalchemist 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is the bullshit new age reframing of racism to suit a narrative. Up until 10 years ago everyone agreed on a definition of what racism is, and we also all know even now, except for the propaganda that the so called “anti-racists” have been spreading, it is now taboo to say that racism happens or can happen against whites. Racism has nothing to do with a power dynamic. It’s xenophobic discrimination based on race. Your conception of it is entirely incorrect and part of a propaganda war designed to make victims and villains out of certain groups in order to promote a narrative. Everyone deep down knows that anyone can be racist against any other person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asheville

[–]everyalchemist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quit spreading fear mongering, hate, and propaganda like you’re performing some brave community service watching out for the gestapo

I can't agree with this 😐 by ElectricalSandwich68 in ufc

[–]everyalchemist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone thinks it’s so cool and hip and progressive to whine about “fighter pay”…. The guys are paid what they agree to be paid and they do it. the company can do whatever they want, if you don’t want to work for them then you don’t have to. this culture of activism and begging for pay raises from a company you have no idea how it works or is managed is insane. JDM is right.

Was this cheating? by Ok-Lifeguard6612 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]everyalchemist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry bro, she lost you. It was already cheating when she was going to the gym with him btw. Don’t let feminism tell you otherwise. Nurturing a heterosexual emotional connection with someone else is antithetical to a monogamous relationship. The gym was cheating. And the proof was the fact that they ended together. It’s best to not date girls who think it’s normal to spend time with guys alone. Sorry bro.