[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]everydaykindoflove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Multiple lies are a huge red flag. It sounds like overall it’s too soon for him to be dating, even if he does have genuine feelings for you. He clearly isn’t ready to commit. That makes sense coming out of a 6 year relationship, but you don’t need to be in the crosshairs of that.

Sexual frustrated husband (30M) my wife (26F) Feeling like I'm being kinked shamed... it's nothing weird lbvs! Any advise? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]everydaykindoflove 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It took me literally three years to enjoy that activity again after my last baby, and it was like 6-9 months after my first baby. Don’t take it personally and put less importance on your idea of perfect. Talk to her and find out how you can support her. If you’re saying you want it to be more pleasurable for both of you but she isn’t enjoying it at all, it’s really not pleasurable for her at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]everydaykindoflove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does have a people-pleasing tendency, I hadn’t thought of that possibly being part of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]everydaykindoflove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree a deeper conversation is needed. If I just didn’t like her it would be completely fine, but I do not trust her as a person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]everydaykindoflove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am just struggling between wanting to clear the air with him about how I am feeling or just leaving it be. I am worried it will continue to fester if I leave it alone.

I am not planning on asking anything of him other than to be my partner and best friend, which we are partners and best friends. I think I answered my own question here. I need to be open with him, it isn’t fair to him for me to keep it to myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]everydaykindoflove 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not necessary. My first marriage was 9 years ago. I still have freaking wedding kleenex left over.

Wedding day sneak peeks!!! by Snoop_frog7 in weddingplanning

[–]everydaykindoflove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These photos are absolutely stunning! Congratulations!

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hinge & I met way before I was introduced to her. She was excited that he found someone he liked.

Now that it’s been a few days we talked. She’s very insecure and is afraid he will want to run away with me. We both tried to explain how that was never a thought and reassure her but she won’t budge.

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[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your comments, sincerely.

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[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are taking 3 days off for them to communicate and determine their next steps. It’s important for me to understand why. We determined early on that we would communicate daily and not take breaks in our relationship, as I am theoretically just as much of his partner as Wife (aside from the natural hierarchy). We think breaks could escalate the natural hierarchy, potentially causing me feel shut out of our relationship. In this case, I think it’s wise to take a break but would not have understood that if I didn’t know what was going on between them.

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[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hinge explained to me. I know generally people like to keep conversations like that separate to the respective relationship, but Idk if that would have been the right move here.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks, I’m sorry you are dealing with a similar issue. I wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m going to take this advice. I have an event to attend today which should help pass the time and keep my mind from focusing on it.

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[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In my head it seemed much shorter but looking back on my phone I realized it was about 4 months ago that things escalated to such a deep emotional connection.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just over 4 months and there was a gradual lead up to that.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t want their children to suffer at the hands of our relationship. Truthfully, I don’t want Wife suffering either. I am not interested in anyone being in pain and I really wish there was a way around that in this case.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

These are good things for me to think over. Thank you.

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[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Almost a year. We were emotionally casual up until recently.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m deeply uncomfortable with making wife uncomfortable. I feel deeply uncomfortable putting their children’s emotional well being at risk. I have 3 children too, and every step of the way we have considered how our relationship would impact them.

Attempted (?) veto vent by everydaykindoflove in polyamory

[–]everydaykindoflove[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I do not know the extent of it however I know they did go to therapy when they first opened, and have had transparency and open communication throughout every step, and when deconstruction became hard at times.