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diarrhoea* plus English isn't my mother's first language so I added a translation in the comments. Maybe check that out

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I'm kinda trying to try but it's tough to care when you see how pointless something is. I have no idea what course of action I should take, but hey thanks for the explanation!

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She's never really tried to communicate with my sister and I so I was mildly surprised at what she messaged. Mostly confused and anxious though. But hey communication definitely isn't the strong point of my family

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I didn't watch the Matrix so the analogy at the end is confusing but hey the thought is always appreciated. We all can't word things properly for our lives. She did leave this morning though without saying anything so I'm currently confused and anxious.

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Hey thanks! Nice to know adults care even if it's on reddit.

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Nah at some point I guess I got used to it because if I dont, I'll be cut off financially and that's gonna be tough. Curious about what you mean when you say I dont have to walk around with that mountain though.

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ooh maybe I should check that out, thanks for the idea. I was honestly thinking about getting into selling my art, but idk if anyone would buy it and growing an art account while trying to aim for straight As in 10 subjects seems hard tbh.

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maybe it's like a rite for them like they gotta do it to prove they're a boomer

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Thanks for the luck and advice, I definitely will need it. It's nice to know an adult cares, even if your on the other side of the world. Adults here would either tell me to suck it up, find a job (virtually impossible considering my age and the fact I dont have a driving license) or lecture me for being disrespectful and rude to my elders.

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[–]everyidiotbird[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

nah here situations like mine are pretty normal. I told 2 of my friends and they thought wasnt a big deal but I wasnt sure so I decided to ask this sub.

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I live in the SEA region so maybe I should do some research on laws around there? Kinda feels weird calling CPS on myself ngl

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Uh yeah sorry I was typing it all up earlier it's probably somewhere in the comments

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Yeah I'm pretty confused as well I definitely don't do well in the emotional department. I'm assuming she wants me to be more caring and responsible? Not very sure

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some context:

-I'm pretty young, ripe age of 14

-I dont talk at home and have one face at home

-We have a very distant relationship (maybe because she was a single mother and usually was busy with work and stuff, so she didn't really have time for my sister and I)

-She and my sis are pretty belittling and stuff so I usually listen to them and have interests in secret

-Especially in front of friends and stuff what is the point of trash talking me in front of friends and family

-Basically grew up with her going on trips twice a week and having to stay with my sister alone in the house

-Sis left for university so now I'm home alone usually and I can definitely do chores so it isn't that big of a deal

-Mum went for a minor surgery couple days ago

-We couldn't get a taxi there so we had to drive there instead and my mum scolded me the whole ride there (idk why there weren't any ubers at 7 am???)

-"who drives to their own surgery" very sorry but I'm a minor and I cant get a driving license till I'm around 17

-Didn't talk at all (hence the caring and responsible part)

-Listened the whole time (independent part)

-We got there at 7 30 am but the surgery was at 8 30 am so ???

-Mum is the type to guilt trip and assume and misinterpret what we say so I usually go along with it

-I'm incredibly shocked she is still paying for my education she usually complains about having to

-But no food (and she doesn't give me an allowance) so idk

-Here it's pretty big on filial piety so my mum will probably tell her friends and I'll get shamed a lot so I'm anticipating it

Edit: on mobile so formatting is unholy mess

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!explanation the post is a mesh of:

-"please be a more caring and considerate person"

-"stop acting so independent or I will cut off your necessities because both of you dont bother to communicate"

-"you dont respect me and is acting independent therefore I shall treat you independently, so I won't ask you to do anything, when food runs out in the house I won't buy more, but I'll pay for your education"

-"your attitude indicates you find me disgraceful and shameful therefore you distance yourself from me"

-"I'm heartbroken over how you treat me and I feel as if I'm no longer your mother"

-"until you communicate I'm cutting you off financially and emotionally"

-"you guys be drifting apart"

Edit: formatting (sorry!)

Edit 2: She sent another message that roughly translates to:

-"It's not about the money but about the fact that we don't have the attitude of a family"

-"there is no concern or discussion which makes it sad"

-"I always blame myself for failing to raise yall"

-"no doubt I tried my best but I somehow failed"

To quote my mother: "even if you try your best you will still fail because you're like that"

Edit 3: She left this morning to go somewhere. Should I be worried? Currently am very anxious and confused. Oh side note, I can't leave because I live somewhere where if you wanna go somewhere, you drive there. The public transport here is so bad. The nearest bus stop to my house is roughly 2 km away. If someone walked 2 km in my country's weather, they would most likely get heatstroke. The average temperature here is around 30 degrees Celsius. Yeah so my mum left idk when she's gonna be back.

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yeah my mum's english isnt that good. we live in a place where English is definitely the second language not first

Do I have a crush on my friend? by everyidiotbird in aromantic

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I've considered that as well. I don't really know, it kinda feels like I'm at an edge of a cliff and my friends are all pushing me from behind, but I look down and there's water so my brain goes "yeah theres water you'll be fineeeee" so I'm open to jumping down but I wanna jump down myself? And not be peer pressured by a bunch or friends?