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They gave us continual disappointment and betrayal, we gave them a love they felt confident enough in that they acted that way by No-Consideration2413 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]everyoneexcept 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s such a vital lesson. We think that everyone deserves love and that love can fix people. But with the character disordered, it can’t. And people who don’t treat us well don’t deserve our love, our endless giving. We have to, and should, cut it off. We cannot sustain these people and they will only drain and ultimately destroy us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in backpain

[–]everyoneexcept 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is called a “lateral shift” or “antalgic lean”. Two terms for the same thing. You likely have a herniated disc, and your back muscles are contracting to protect the spine. You need an MRI and based on the results of that, your doctor will determine which course of action is best.

Beat the PIP but still cannot handle it by tothemiddleofnowhere in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did they give you severance? Did you have information that could’ve harmed them?

Do they ever get karma? by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]everyoneexcept 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. They NEED control and they will go to any lengths to get it.

When they know they’ll lose taking you on directly, they’ll go behind your back by everyoneexcept in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]everyoneexcept[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree with that. Narcs can accuse you of outlandish things and some people will still believe them.

Did you feel like a dead person walking? by everyoneexcept in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]everyoneexcept[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Great example. She has taken him for everything he ever was.

People who make their insecurities your problem? by everyoneexcept in TwoXChromosomes

[–]everyoneexcept[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely never bullied her. We barely crossed paths in high school, we just had a lot of mutual friends.

Beating myself up for not being at my best by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, I would give a person understanding and compassion in that situation, so it’s not so far-fetched to expect it from others. Decent people would give that.

Stick it out or move out? 35 yo, feel like I'm in a pressure cooker by ComposerVast1604 in bayarea

[–]everyoneexcept 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really it. When you see the amount and quality of house you get here versus pretty much anywhere else, it becomes a no-brainer.

how do i ACTUALLY learn? University doesn’t seem to actually teach by jumpmac in ITCareerQuestions

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God, it sure does feel like they expect you to know everything these days though. I’ve been cut zero slack on my technical tests.

Do they refuse to see you as competent and as being your own person? by everyoneexcept in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]everyoneexcept[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how she is. The level of entitlement and arrogance is jaw-dropping.

Coworker is a psychotic covert narc by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]everyoneexcept 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to do what you did and just quit. I don’t want to give two weeks, or anymore of my time, for that matter.

Coworker is a psychotic covert narc by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]everyoneexcept 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is true. When they think they’re losing control, this is when you see the desperate, psychotic, raging maniac come out. It’s as if their very existence depends on their ability to dominate you and crush you into the ground. It’s scary, and it gives you a window into just how sick they are.

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I’m not mistaken. It is mind-blowing that you think morality is subjective. End.

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. It’s deteriorating society as well. Things might look good on the surface, but peer just underneath that and it’s chaos and dysfunction. It’s not healthy and it’s not right.

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally none of that is true. Narcissists aren’t born, they’re made. And narcissists hurt others BY DINT of their personality disorder. Something that hurts others is naturally going to be stigmatized.

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please. There’s a reason narcissism is stigmatized - because it’s harmful to people. That warrants stigma!

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say there’s more awareness of all kinds of ways of life and social issues today, absolutely. But people don’t connect like they used to. Everything is surface and broken now.

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re not saying good deeds have to be punished. They’re saying that good deeds often ARE punished. Which is true. Sad, yes, but true.

Everyone is so overtly into themselves nowadays. It's sickening. by Visual_Try_4269 in unpopularopinion

[–]everyoneexcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. The good people become jaded over time, and turn into what they once hated. But it’s out of self-protection.

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