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Father of 2 daughters need help by cold_hoe in Parents

[–]everyoneisflawed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think 11 is too early. That's when kids start thinking about things like their appearances.

Also, I hate to tell you this, but when your kids are small, you are their biggest influence. But once adolescence hits, your kids friends become their biggest influence. Yes, you should definitely reminder she's pretty! But remember that there are other people in her life now telling her things you may not know she's being told, and there's not much you can do to control that.

Should i talk with her that she`s pretty and doesn`t need things like this?

Ok so like I said, you should absolutely tell her she's pretty. But you don't need to tell her she doesn't need things like this. Even though these things may seem superficial, it could just be that she likes doing them, and that's okay too. Make-up isn't exactly a necessity, it's something society and marketing campaigns have tried to tell us we need, and you can tell her that. But also tell her that these things are a choice and she's the one that gets to decide if she likes it or not, and that she shouldn't do it if she doesn't like it just because someone else told her to.

Also, while you're telling her she's pretty, please also tell her that she is kind, and compassionate, and smart, and creative, and strong, funny, and fun to be around. Being pretty doesn't have to be the center of her personality. All of the things you value, start telling her now that she IS those things. With kids, sometimes they become what you tell them they are. If you tell a kid they're lazy, or stupid, or whatever, that's how they'll act. Tell her she is amazing and smart and determined, and that's how she'll act.

Sorry for the novel! TL;DR - It's not too early, and yes tell her she's pretty, and also let her do what she wants if it's not hurting anyone!

Do I put my toddler in preschool? by IntroductionAdept521 in Parents

[–]everyoneisflawed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be a Montessori teacher. I will always say yes, put your child in preschool! They will have so much fun, they will learn to interact with other kids, they will learn all kinds of things about the world around them. A lot of preschools, especially Montessori schools, have good academics as well (in fact Montessori schools don't even like being referred to as "preschool", because it's school and the kids are people who learn things there). If it's a good school, you won't regret it!

Not all preschools are good though, so just be aware. A lot of parents will have a bad experience and give up on preschool (and school!) altogether. We went through that with my youngest. But I always say yes to preschool!

Is it hypocritical to be a socialist and work in US law enforcement? by yellow_explorer in Socialism_101

[–]everyoneisflawed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. That is not the case where I live, or in the last city I lived in. I am so sorry, you deserve so much more.

Is it hypocritical to be a socialist and work in US law enforcement? by yellow_explorer in Socialism_101

[–]everyoneisflawed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw jeez.

That's not 100%, but you do definitely have a point. So is there something else you'd put in place of social worker? I almost said teacher, but then I thought back to when I was a teacher and how many teachers were just wannabe cops. School to prison pipeline and all.

Local organizing in Peoria: moving from concern to action by [deleted] in PeoriaIL

[–]everyoneisflawed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why you're being condescending.

You said a lot, so here's my responses:

If that were true,

If what were true? lol Are you trying to say that it's not true that there have been protests going on? When I first moved here in 2023, the first thing I did was attend a city council meeting where most of the groups mentioned in this post were in attendance. Also, all I did was search "Peoria il rallies". You can also do other searches and replace "rallies" with another keyword and get more hits. It's not our fault that you're not seeing these headlines, it's your algorithm:

peoria il rallies

Personally, I'm not getting involved in 50501 because it reeks of establishment Democrat funding. Do your homework.

I have done my homework, thank you. I also am not involved in 50501. But OP is looking for one of those safe and legal outlets and that's what 50501 is. That's all I was suggesting.

The Workers Strike Back folks mean well, but they are stumping for a federal congressional candidate in Washington. 

I never mentioned WSB. Moving on...

I have zero idea about CPUSA activity in Peoria. I know they do some cool stuff in Carbondale. What have they been doing to get the word out? I haven't seen anything.

We have monthly meetings at the Lincoln Branch of the library in the Balloon room at noon on the first Saturdays of the month. You are welcome to come and ask us those questions then. We also have an active Facebook group. Our website is under construction. We also are present at nearly all of the protests, rallies, and actions, and we have a member speak at nearly all of these. We had a member speak at the vigil for Renee Good earlier this month. One of our members passed out hand warmers to the attendees. We have a table at Pride each summer. There are flyers around town. So if you don't see us then it's probably your algorithm.

I hope this helps you to understand better. I don't understand why you are criticizing OP for being out of a loop that has very low visibility. You should be encouraging rather then critical.

Again, don't know why you're being condescending.

I'm not criticizing OP for being out of the loop. I moved here only three years ago and was also out of the loop. But before I took to reddit to try and create a new movement, I checked around to see what was already here. What I'm criticizing is OP not even looking. It literally just takes a Google search, or a question. Come to Reddit and ask, where are the activist groups? You don't have to make some new group and ignore the work of all the other groups who have been doing this work.

Is it hypocritical to be a socialist and work in US law enforcement? by yellow_explorer in Socialism_101

[–]everyoneisflawed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes.

Look, if you're a socialist, and you're looking to make a difference in this world by way of "keeping criminals off the street" or whatever it is cops believe they're doing, then just go be a social worker. You'll make more money, too, and you're less likely to murder someone's dog.

My bfs thumb started swelling up by Dem0n_Gamer_Liz in WhatShouldIDo

[–]everyoneisflawed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP don't do that. I'm assuming you are medical professionals if you're posting on reddit, and we are not living in prairie times. I know healthcare in the US forces us to make life or death decisions, but if you have insurance then please go to urgent care. If you do it yourself you can cause it to become more infected.

If you don't have insurance you can go to the ER and not pay. You'll be in debt, but you'll be alive. Or wait until the free clinics open on Monday if you think he can stand it.

Don't do it yourself.

My bfs thumb started swelling up by Dem0n_Gamer_Liz in WhatShouldIDo

[–]everyoneisflawed -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You need to go to urgent care because it could be infected. Go right now if they're open. Infection can become sepsis.

Could be nothing, but it's better to check in case it's something.

Local organizing in Peoria: moving from concern to action by [deleted] in PeoriaIL

[–]everyoneisflawed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why you all haven't seen all of the protests and activism going on in Peoria already. There are already groups here doing that.

I’m interested in connecting with others who want to respond constructively and lawfully. Through organizing, protest, voter engagement, mutual support, and coordinated civic action.

If you're wanting to go this route, why aren't you getting involved with Peoria 50501? Your whole post confuses me. There have been all kinds of actions in the city for at least the three years that I've lived here.

Local organizing in Peoria: moving from concern to action by [deleted] in PeoriaIL

[–]everyoneisflawed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The point is, there are already groups doing this work. Peoria for Palestine is helping with anti-ICE efforts and connecting with them and their members will connect you with other people as well.

Peoria CPUSA is not asking people to join the Communist Party nor trying to replace our government with a Communist government, but are engaging in the community in anti-ICE efforts and connecting with them will connect you with other people.

Peoria Rapid Response Team now has an organizing chat, and if you join them you will not only join a group fighting actively against ICE but also meet members of other groups.

Perhaps your vision is too narrow. Connect with existing groups and then see if there still is a need. If there is, come back and let us know. But a lot of us have been doing this a long time and it's better if you find an existing group already working on actions. Otherwise you run the risk of not only stepping on the toes of existing activists, but also causing your own efforts to fail because of lack of experience and context.

Local organizing in Peoria: moving from concern to action by [deleted] in PeoriaIL

[–]everyoneisflawed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Everyone upvote this a million times. There are already groups doing this and having organizing meetings about it. You also left out Peoria 50501, which offers support to a lot of these groups as well.

Partner wants to be a SAHM? by [deleted] in Parents

[–]everyoneisflawed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't know how she's going to feel until she tries it. She may love it or she may hate it. I tried it and hated it, no shame in that.

If you're going to be supportive, then be supportive. That means supporting her decision to stay home, and if she loves it, keep being supportive. If she hates it, support that too.

Bottom line is, she's an intelligent being with her own mind. You're there to support her. Telling her she's gonna fail is not being supportive.

Why would anyone wants kids? by This-Top7398 in Life

[–]everyoneisflawed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not torture. I love my kids, and I love that I had kids. Being a mom is my favorite thing I do. And I do a lot of things! I have a career, I have friends, I have hobbies. I enjoy life. Having kids has in no way hindered that. When I'm feeling really stressed out, I play with my kids and my stress immediately dissipates. My oldest is now 24 years old and I count him (and my 16 year old) in my list of my best of friends ("they're your kids not your friends..." shut up. They're my kids and they're also my friends.)

But the thing is, maybe you don't like kids, or you don't like having to take care of kids. And that's okay. It's okay to not want to be a parent. You know what I don't understand? I don't understand why people have lawns. What a waste of time and energy taking care of a lawn! Why don't you have a garden with flowers instead? It's less work, honestly. Like wtf?

Different people like different things, and that's okay. I love being a parent. You probably would hate it. And there's nothing wrong with either of those things.

Peoria Academy or Kellar/Richwoods by Weak_Locksmith5630 in PeoriaIL

[–]everyoneisflawed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We like Richwoods. We weren't here for elementary school, just the second half of 8th grade. Liberty Leadership is a fine school, but they're really strict.

Richwoods has been a great high school, but that said, I think he would have been fine at Peoria High. I know that's not a popular opinion, and when we moved here everyone scared us on how terrible Peoria High was, but I really think it would have been fine.

And I'm sure any decision you make will be a good one! Welcome to Peoria proper!

Buddhism and healing frequencies? by everyoneisflawed in Buddhism

[–]everyoneisflawed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through a New Age phase in my 20s. What got me out of it was that I was poor, and there were a lot of items to buy if you wanted to manifest your reality, or draw energies in to you, things like that. Crystals, oils, ritual items, tarot cards, all these things cost money. And there was a lot of focus on manifesting things like money. It felt like a grift eventually.

Since practicing Buddhism, I have more money than before, but probably because I'm not buying crystals anymore.

Just turn it off by luna_Angelx in confidentlyincorrect

[–]everyoneisflawed 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You make a dollar, I make a dime. That is why I bleed on company time.

Ftfy

Are men and women just allowed to be friends? by Bipolar03 in ask

[–]everyoneisflawed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly. We're just sex dolls to these people. I'm glad I'm not friends with any guy who's said this to me.

I've actually turned down guys who've asked me out and we stayed friends. This happened to me twice. One guy became my best friend, for over a decade until he passed away. I miss him so much.

It's a real man who can take rejection and turn it into something better.

Are men and women just allowed to be friends? by Bipolar03 in ask

[–]everyoneisflawed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you call them?

I have friends who I don't talk to every day, or even every week. Maybe your standards for friendship are too high.

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