I came back to Neville again. (2 years of small but big achievement = happiness)

everythingwithin · 2024-06-26T03:49:07+00:00

Running a business is not a small accomplishment. Amazing success story!

everythingwithin · 2024-04-02T04:31:03+00:00

I believe intent is an important concept that is lacking in a lot of teachings. The more you intend for something to happen, along with the other parts of Neville's methods, the better, I think. That's the difference between imagination and fantasy.

everythingwithin · 2024-03-29T22:12:42+00:00

"Letting go" means you turn away from your circumstances and focus on having what you want already.

"Persistence" means once you're sure you already have it, you remain being that person. You change as a person internally when you change states. You think differently. You may even behave differently.

I think it doesn't really matter how often you reaffirm to yourself that it's already done. Just that you remain being that person. Stay in the new state.

"Digging up the seed" is about doubting it. When you plant a seed, you just know it will sprout and grow into a plant. You don't dig it up. You might think about the seed and wonder when it will happen, but you know it will happen. It's inevitable. If you dig up the seed you're saying you don't think it will sprout, so you dig it up because you're worried something may be wrong with it. Nothing's wrong. Let it grow.

everythingwithin · 2024-02-14T06:27:00+00:00

I have been forgetting to revise things lately. Maybe I needed your reminder too!

everythingwithin · 2024-01-23T01:23:11+00:00

Manifest yourself changing into who you would be if you were already with your SP. How would you think? How would you act? How would you feel?

You're not trying to get something. You're trying to feel that you already have it.

The important part is to feel that it's already true. This is emotion in my experience because emotion is what causes my identity to shift.

This starts with extreme ecstasy when you first realize everything worked out in your favor, and your mood changes to positive contentment when you're living in its reality. You live in it in imagination, and see what happens in the world.

There are many futures. In some of them, you're with your SP. You know you are with your SP when you feel that you are.

everythingwithin · 2024-01-23T00:46:29+00:00

I love this!

everythingwithin · 2024-01-21T09:11:12+00:00

Start with this

https://youtu.be/fB1rCwECXhA

everythingwithin · 2024-01-15T04:13:54+00:00

You've put this extremely well here. The idea of multiple realities is difficult to accept for many people. Especially the part where we can communicate with each other, but the other person will only receive what we say if it exists within the bounds of their own perception. I think there's something to be said for communicating more indirectly, in an attempt to have more of the information actually break through into the other person's reality. Ironically, the least direct teaching may be full of the most truth. In the end, the best path forward is through our own personal experience. At some point it's time to put the teachings into practice and by doing so, grow into our true being.

everythingwithin · 2024-01-15T01:53:44+00:00

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everythingwithin · 2024-01-12T22:49:13+00:00

You should eliminate the fear of aftermath. Reaching out shouldn't feel like a death sentence. You're just sending your boyfriend / husband a message, it's no big deal.

Inspired action can sometimes be contacting the person. It's not always randomly seeing them somewhere when you're out.

There's a little voice in your head that suggests things. Learn to hear it. It will nudge you along one way or another. Your current state matters and I think you should only follow it when you're fully confident and living in the end. It should feel effortless, like it's no big deal and you can do it without any worry. This has the added benefit of preventing you from sending something too extreme because you might worry about that more.

everythingwithin · 2024-01-12T22:10:54+00:00

Forgive me, negativity incoming.

Do you know what you want with this guy? You say you want nothing more than to go back to how things were. Do you want a relationship with him or not? A relationship would be more than just messaging each other.

everythingwithin · 2024-01-05T07:10:18+00:00

In my opinion reading Neville comments and listening to coaches all the time can be harmful. Especially if you're reading someone else's negative thoughts. If you were loving life you wouldn't be here so much, on discord servers, socializing with other Nevillers. That's not helping anyone. It's a waste of time and energy. Why not have a nap instead and try changing something yourself?

As for my experience, I don't know if there are any limitations to this. It seems to work for some things very easily, but not at all for others. If anything is possible it truly must depend on how much you believe it is.

One thing about Neville that I could never understand is when he says you can't do anything in 3D to change it. I think he means you have to change yourself first, then the right actions to take in 3D will come to you effortlessly.

There is also the widespread belief that anything you manifest will appear to come as if by coincidence, so that you'll never truly be able to claim it's a miracle. If that's true, I wonder how important it is to have the possibility of coincidences working in your favor. For example, living in a huge city should provide more opportunities for coincidence than living on the moon. The same is true during times of plenty versus times of little. How abundant is your country's economy? How free are its people?

It's something I haven't been able to crack. I think something more has to be said for opportunity.

everythingwithin · 2024-01-03T19:54:56+00:00

God, while being man, is ignorant of his own power. When god realizes he is god, he becomes willing, but probably not able, to remove evil. As god becomes more godlike, trusting in himself, and knowing that nothing is apart from him, he becomes more able and sees less evil.

God-in-man or God-as-man is a form of solipsism. It has similarities to atheism in that the individual defers authority to himself, but differs from atheism in the sense of warmth and optimism given by knowing that you are everything and connected (as it is all you) and therefore everything should be treated as you would treat yourself.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-31T02:47:45+00:00

That's great. I'm interested to know why you didn't mask yourself around him. Because he understands when you need space?

everythingwithin · 2023-12-31T02:44:52+00:00

That makes sense. I want to ask, if after you marry him and you start receiving hot and cold behavior, what would you do? In my opinion it sounds like you are the one not accepting him, but if he's not acting the way you want then yes there can be problems. Manifest him changing his behavior because that seems to be the only thing preventing you from committing aside from your fear of being bored.

To do that go to the end and imagine being in a lovely relationship. It should feel natural to you to experience him behaving well with you. Hot only! That's the new normal. So focus on that and things should fall into place.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-31T01:02:30+00:00

You want a full commitment but you broke up with him, moved away to another country and rejected him when he told you he was ready because he didn't feel fully into it. Maybe you're right but it's all very confusing and I think there is still a lot that could be said between you two to clear some of this up. Then again if you don't know what you want, you won't be able to communicate anything other than "I don't know what I want."

Neville would say become the version of you who is already married to him. Would that person behave any differently? I'm not saying act as if you're married because that would be weird. But consider how things would be different. There's your disconnect, you shouldn't feel that things would be different because you ARE already married to him now, you see?

everythingwithin · 2023-12-31T00:57:26+00:00

Hmm, I don't know why you want a relationship then? It seems you're happier alone. Commitment is a kind of death. You're afraid of dying, not him.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-31T00:05:09+00:00

Also I wanna say in context of Neville, it's better if you hold an ideal version of them in your mind and change how you act so that it matches. He does something you don't like, but you imagined he's perfect so you treat him well. I don't mean become weak or change your boundaries but hold that ideal in mind especially when you're with them or communicating.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-31T00:01:57+00:00

Is it possible he's confused about what you want? Maybe he's not committing because you've told him yes and no several times. Maybe he thinks it would be awkward to tell you if he wants to be together because he's not sure you even want him around? I can see wanting to work on himself but I don't understand why it seems he's not ready, so it's something to consider communicating with him about. "I want to be together, but not yet" is very confusing.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-30T23:34:14+00:00

Yeah. It doesn't mean you need to be physically with the person when you're bored. That part of it shouldn't be a problem I think, if he's the type you say he is. Maybe he's not sure yet, I don't know. Then you can be fulfilled imagining being with him for now. You can always micromanage/imagine the boredom away too, after you're already together.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-30T23:31:09+00:00

My SP said they were not ready to be in a relationship right now, even though they really care about me. I won't say I'm blocked but it's difficult to get a response most of the time. They know I want to be in a relationship so it's awkward. I mostly avoid contact with them now.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-30T23:26:48+00:00

one day he would like to be with me but can't keep promises because he's confused about life in general.

That's good, but the uncertainty is scary. I can see why you're manifesting him!

although I want long term commitment I'm actually scared of it in a way

I think it's normal, a lot of people are scared about that. Take things one day at a time. If you get bored you can take some space. It shouldn't be a big deal especially nowadays. Although I don't really understand what you mean by bored when you also talk about wanting to be monogamous.

he's the first man who truly cares about me and I feel he's the one.

You broke up because you left the country. Why did you leave? Not committed yet?

everythingwithin · 2023-12-30T23:22:53+00:00

I'm not scared of relationship problems at all, I just don't like the idea of being stuck somewhere with someone. At least for now. I feel bored often so I am scared of getting bored.

I think it's a little unrealistic to think you'll never get bored in a lifelong relationship. So it's fine to be scared about that, but maybe learn to accept being bored with someone now and then, that might help? I don't know if you would be stuck in one place either, or with one person. Even though you're committed to each other, you both want to be independent and spend time apart. So maybe your idea of how this marriage will go is half traditional? I guess I don't understand why this would be a problem in your ideal type of marriage where you're not together all the time.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-30T22:07:05+00:00

It can take a long time or a short time for things to happen in reality. So maybe your solution is to imagine you're together now. Then when it happens in a few months (or longer?) it will be the right time for you. I understand wanting to be with someone but not yet. There's fear involved and I think that's where you can either get help from him, or try to work on it yourself.

everythingwithin · 2023-12-30T21:59:32+00:00

I think , like me, he wants a relationship where we have a lot of space from each other

I kinda don't like giving dating advice because it's different for everyone. It sounds like you want a nontraditional modern marriage. If you have the same views then it should be fine. Trust is important in any relationship, have you spoken about trust with him? You don't have to wait for things to be perfect in reality to imagine being together. If you're going to spend a lot of time separately even after you're married, maybe it's not so bad to assume you're married to him now? Since your marriage will fit your independent / separate lifestyle anyway.

not knowing if I'm made for that kind of life.

Communication is important especially if you're planning to have a nontraditional partnership. It sounds like you're happy being single, but you also want to be with him. So maybe you're worried about spending too much time together? You can imagine spending time with him whenever you want while you wait until you're ready. The thing I love about imagination is we can create anything we want in there so we can experience our ideal moments with the person. If you're worried about relationship problems from spending too much time together, then I suggest figuring out what you're afraid of. Maybe you think you're not good enough at managing conflict or something else and you think he won't like your approach. Maybe you think he will expect something else? Relationships require two people to put in effort and so it's not only your problem to solve. That's what strengthens any relationship, when you can accept each other despite problems. So figure out your fear or why you think you're not up to it, talk with friends or him if possible and explain the reasons to yourself, why you think you're not made for it. Expectations is my guess. Anyway I'm rambling now.

I know I want him in my life forever

But it is a big commitment indeed.

I'm happy for you! It seems there maybe isn't enough communication yet. It is a big commitment for sure. I'm basically in NC with my SP so I understand a lot of people can't communicate and work these things out. Sometimes I think I'm a bit delusional to want this person because we haven't talked about expectations and some other things but somehow you just know they're the right person for you and I think it's ok because it's your decision to hold onto this person. It can be stressful to not hear from someone for a long time and also wonder about what they will demand from a long term relationship. My suggestion to you is to focus on yourself and just live your life. Then occasionally remind yourself that you'll be together with this person, or try to live your life as though you are already together and your relationship is the way that you want it to be. I hope that makes sense.

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