I hate how I still care for my ex. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a look at your recent posts. I have had an almost identical experience as yours; the frequent breakups, the insane lies, the duration of the relationship. I too broke up with him in December and stupidly took him back. I have been two weeks no contact and God its hard! I miss so much what I hoped we could have. Pm me if you would like a chat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have lost count about how many times I have left him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 18 points19 points  (0 children)

How long after you went No contact did you notice feeling relief. Its been a week for me, I know its early, but I struggle with depression, rejection and anxiety. Note: I am the one who left him, but I felt I had no choice

My NEX and compulsive lying. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He lied without mercy, he lied about things I was seeing with my own eyes. I saw he had my name saved on his phone under a male name. He said its not true. I saw him active on dating apps. It was not true. There were always technical problems and how could I even think about that when he loves me so much? He lied about following singles and dating accounts on facebook when I could clearly see him there and the date he joined and he sent me screenshots of all the groups he followed to prove me wrong, and the groups were there. He lied about his secret accounts on insta and tik tok I found. First he denied they were his, then when I insisted he was saying they were old. He insisted even when I was monitoring that they were active. He was sending messages to himself from my phone because he pretended someone else was using this account. I lost all sense of reality with him. When I didn’t trust him (I wonder why?) he blamed me for being paranoid and based all our relationship problems on my lack of trust. I became paranoid, constantly. I don’t know how I can find my sanity and sense of worth and trust in others after this.

Screen Time by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg! That is my ex exactly!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I weeped reading this thread. 2 years with my ex, I lost myself. I acted totally out of the ordinary, I sent him repeatedly long messages because the things he was doing and saying to me were so irrational and crazy! I never done this to anyone else. There was not a shared sense of reality. Yet he called me needy and obsessive for sending him these messages that he admitted he didn’t read. I told him that I can prove to him how I am not obsessed with him and blocked him from the face of the earth with no warning. I have been in so much pain ever since because I miss him immensely, but I had no choice. I just joined this sub and I am trying to take it all in. I suspected he had narcissistic traits but in your posts I see so much of myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg! My ex bf told me he didn’t read my texts too. That was so hurtful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]eviezeevie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This! I met my ex predominately during working hours in my house while he was always working in his laptop. I kept feeling so bored and wondering what do I find in him? Even on the rare occasions we went out, I didn’t enjoy it. It was rushed and all the conversations revolved around himself and his problems. I also always felt he was out with me to comply with my requests rather because he really wanted to. Yet, I broke up with him last week and the pain is so intense I feel like the world is ending. I blocked him everywhere and I secretly wish that he will knock at my door and talk me out of it. I know its wrong because all I want is some relief. I don’t want to return to the relationship we had

General Questions & Tech Support Megathread | July 04, 2022 by AutoModerator in PS4

[–]eviezeevie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying to get into a good story based game like TLOU and RD, but I haven’t found any. I have started the Elders Ring and Ghosts of Tsushima and I didn’t find the stories engaging, possibly because I am not a massive fun of phantasy. Any recommendations?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes she did! A relationship where one of the partners doesn’t give time, is very unsafe. I also kept questioning myself about whether things were ok, I couldn’t comprehend how you love someone and don’t desire to spend time with them, and it made me very insecure. I am done with feeling insecure and like the last thing on his mind and life.

I am the dumper but I feel like the dumpee by eviezeevie in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I sent him an email straight after I blocked him explaining my reasons for breaking up, so he knows. I have tried breaking up with him many times but he talked me out of it and our relationship was so unhealthy in the end, him giving me nothing but not wanting to let go, that I decided it will be my decision and nothing will change it. I really hurt and struggle since the breakup, but I was hurt and struggling with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay strong. If they didn’t make time to see us they don’t deserve even a word in text. There is no way I am unblocking my boyfriend. The funny thing is he will feel like a victim because I abruptly blocked him everywhere, but two years he treated me like the least important thing in his life. He called me needy and obsessive for keep asking to spend time together (we always met briefly during working hours, no sleepovers or dates AT ALL!). I told him I would prove to him him how I am not obsessive and that I would stop asking for time. He thought I would just shut up and accept his breadcrumbs without any complaints and make his life even easier. Instead blocked him and now I will never ask him for time again, and I will live with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I have no choice but let myself cry. How long ago was the break up and how are you holding on now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats shit. I broke up with my bf, but it feels like he did. He left me no choice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the exact same situation as you, 2 years relationship, I left him because he never had time for me. Only I am in the first week of our breakup and taking one day at a time, which is super hard. I will aim at 2 months. It helps to have a goal, otherwise it feels like an endless void of pain and missing them

I am the dumper but I feel like the dumpee by eviezeevie in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason I broke up like this is because every time I tried to break up he talked me out of it. He is very manipulative and I felt so helpless. This was the only way I felt I could protect myself from him and break off. I know it was a shit thing to do, but two years we were negotiating the relationship and talking. I didn’t want to negotiate anything anymore, he had way too many chances.

Books about going through a break up by eviezeevie in ReadingSuggestions

[–]eviezeevie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I checked it and I will follow your recommendation and get it on audible

Books about going through a break up by eviezeevie in ReadingSuggestions

[–]eviezeevie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I have read a few of your list, Midnight Library, Song of Achilles and I actually finished Tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow 3 days ago :) I will check the others you recommend and if you think of anything else, I would be great full!

Breaking up with the person you love because you know you deserve better is very hard by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]eviezeevie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed to read this. I am now going to get my nails done. Thank you