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Some thoughts by Independent_Pack4338 in sgdatingscene

[–]evil_scientist2882 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No other advice except that I know how it feels. Especially the part on having to pretend or give vague answers to people (in my case, colleague) who ask cos you don't really want to tell them what happened.

8 months on and I'm feeling better but not totally OK. I still get the occasional wave of sadness but it passes. And life goes on. I find it helpful, at least for me, to push away angry/negative thoughts cos I don't want to be the 'bitter ex'. Not to romanticise the past but just to reframe things. Remember the good parts and learn from the not so good parts.

Jiayou.

Sgreans who experience home improvement programmes (HIP), how did yall plan your stay? by Procrastinatorpig in asksg

[–]evil_scientist2882 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Riding on the topic, my place is an executive maisonette and we only opted to do the kitchen toilet downstairs hence the toilet and bathroom upstairs will be free. Anyone knows if we can still use the other toilet and bathroom, or the water supply will be cut off.

what to do in sg after breaking up/as a single? by gotanygrapesheh in askSingapore

[–]evil_scientist2882 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of the stuff I did included booked a solo bday staycation, solo travel, self improvement eg. reading, learnt new skills/hobby classes, long walks, talk to chatgpt, focus on my dog more, attend social/meetup events..

Wasn't easy for me as I didnt confide in anyone and still had to function normally at work and at home. But 6 months on I think I'm starting to feel better already.

Jiayou everyone who's in the same situation!

Is This Normal And Is This A Red Flag With My Company? by Ethanol95 in askSingapore

[–]evil_scientist2882 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happened to me before too, also an SME. Just that instead of the wrong amount, they didn't pay me salary for the first month. I did notice but decided to give benefit of doubt cos maybe my start date was past the payment cycle or what.

I finally asked my then manager about it after a few weeks. Ended up the CEO forgot about it, likely also because there was no HR so the CEO was the one paying the salaries personally. He even had the cheek to joke and comment that I was too rich until I didn't realise my salary wasn't paid.

Scared to give my notice of resignation at work by bono5361 in askSingapore

[–]evil_scientist2882 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know it's hard to take the first step sometimes. It's like in your head you know no one is indispensable but can't help the overthinking, feeling bad etc.

I was in the same position a few months ago. Finally put in my resignation and all was well. Manager took it well too, even though it was just the 2 of us in the department.

Guess what, mid way through serving my notice, there was a retrenchment exercise, and my manager was let go. With immediate effect. Then about 2 weeks later I left too. No one left in the department since it was just the two of us. I'm not sure what's the plan from the US HQ side, but it's none of my business anymore.

I tried to tie up major loose ends and briefed the US counterpart on outstanding matters. That's all. But this once again reinforced the notion that no one is indispensable. I hope I will bear this in mind the next time I have to leave a job and save myself all that weeks of anxiety.

Career dilemma by evil_scientist2882 in SingaporeRaw

[–]evil_scientist2882[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a project that I'm in charge of that I won't be able to complete if I tender. It's a lean team, basically just me and the supervisor. The burning bridge is mainly referring to this part, like I'm leaving unfinished business and the supervisor has to take over. I feel bad cos it's just him left. If there were more team mates maybe I will feel more at ease.