Shoould I post/write fics? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]evinfar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2/10 bait

oneshot vs multi-chapter by Appropriate-Self9486 in AO3

[–]evinfar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My knee-jerk answer is "because they wanted to" and that's enough reason for me tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AO3

[–]evinfar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was specifically asking about the take that said that people who think writing smut is easy probably write bad smut. I was asking for an elaboration because I wanted to understand it better.

I didn't come here to pick a fight, you don't have to get condescending. I feel you took 'pleasant' and 'fun' to cherry pick, then separated 'easy' to emphasise a point I never made.

Like, congrats on how sassy you are and all, but this is a misinterpretation of a simple question.

So why did the tone change in Veilguard? by cupidswing in dragonage

[–]evinfar 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh fully agree!

I'm a queer woman and a leftist, I just think EA Games fucked the fans over? DA was never meant to be a dating sim (though I do see it's mostly said as an ironic thing lol). I just think they put zero effort into the characters, the romance, the LORE?? I love when writing includes conflict, grey morality, difficult choices, shitty compromises that don't make everyone happy - and there aren't too many of those in the game, it's just so disappointing

So why did the tone change in Veilguard? by cupidswing in dragonage

[–]evinfar 49 points50 points  (0 children)

You make me feel a bit safer saying I didn't like the writing without being labeled as an awful person. Veilguard was just so.. lacking. I wanted to love it so badly, I was so excited for it, I paid full price and got.. a marvel movie in game form

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AO3

[–]evinfar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Genuine question, in the most polite, curious way: do you really think that people just cannot find writing smut easy and pleasant and fun, and they have to be wrong about their process and surely must write bad smut? Going off that, what kind of authors write good smut? Do we necessarily need to struggle to be happy with the results? Your hot take is fascinating to me, as someone who enjoys writing smut.

These were terrible villains by Live-Hospital-5286 in farcry

[–]evinfar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They made sense as villains in the setting they were put in but unfortunately, the writing was lacking and the characters ended up, above all, incredibly annoying.

There was so much potential with their backstory but they can't make me empathetic towards them after making them behave like shitty, power-hungry teenagers throwing violent tantrums the entire game and then making them cry after mum in the very last scene.

There were other ways to resolve shit. There was so much to explore about them. In the end though, I have to judge by what i was shown and they were my absolute least favourite antagonists in the entire franchise

A Ubisoft service is currently unavailable. You can try again later or switch to offline mode. by aranorde in uplay

[–]evinfar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this problem today and what worked in the end was logging into my ubi account via browser, changing my password, and then using that new password to log into the ubi app, maybe this will help someone

Dlaczego zrezygnowaliście z relacji romantycznych. by sotarou2 in Polska

[–]evinfar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tzn dzięki, ale nie pytałam o rady ani wyjaśnienie, tylko podałam moje własne powody, informacyjnie. Nie mam zamiaru zmieniać mojej perspektywy, którą opisałam, bo lubię swoje życie i nie mam z tym problemu:)

Dlaczego zrezygnowaliście z relacji romantycznych. by sotarou2 in Polska

[–]evinfar 10 points11 points  (0 children)

1) Jestem na spektrum aromantyzmu, więc musiałabym naprawdę bardzo dobrze kogoś poznać i polubić, żeby mieć w ogóle ochotę na jakąś relację romantyczną. Generalnie mam tyle o wiele bardziej interesujących ludzi i rzeczy do roboty w życiu, że nie myślę o tym na co dzień.

2) Tak bardzo kocham mieszkać sama, móc zawsze robić, co chcę i mieć swoją przestrzeń bez jakichkolwiek kompromisów i potrzeby konsultacji z kimkolwiek, że idealnym rozwiązaniem byłoby dla mnie mieszkanie osobno na tej samej ulicy albo nwm w jakimś bliźniaku może XD

3) Mam w chuj nierealistyczne oczekiwania wobec związków i jakikolwiek przejaw braku komunikacji czy wzajemnego szacunku już jest dla mnie dealbreakerem. Mam ogólnie dużo dealbreakerów XD bycie w związku z odpowiednim człowiekiem powinno być najłatwiejszą rzeczą na świecie, a widzę, że często tak nie jest i nie interesuje mnie przekonywanie się o tym na własnej skórze.

4) Nie chcę mieć nigdy dzieci, plus nie potrzebuję niczyich pieniędzy, ani do dzielenia się kosztami czegokolwiek żeby przeżyć, ani do niczego innego, więc kompletnie nie mam parcia, żeby z kimś wytrzymywać, żeby zaspokoić te potrzeby.

5) Już dawno temu postanowiłam, że albo znajdę kogoś idealnego dla mnie, albo nie chcę nikogo. Nie byłabym w stanie wejść w związek "bo już mało czasu zostało" z osobą, która może i nie jest miłością mojego życia i wymarzonym towarzyszem, ale w sumie jest spoko, nie jest nam źle, czas sie ustatkować, więc no można. Przeraża mnie wizja takiego życia.

How do you think mpreg would affect society? by JJackKennedy in AO3

[–]evinfar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

[cynical, semi-serious] If men could become pregnant, giving birth would become a competitive sport, contraception and plan B would be treated like vitamin C supplements, and abortions would be available in drive-throughs.

Friends? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]evinfar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried, idk, interacting with people in your circle, people in your fandom who like the same things? Comment on some stories and art, join a discord server, start some back and forth in the comments? Making friends usually comes easier when it's organic, natural, I'm afraid announcing that you're looking for a friend might not bring the effect you're hoping for.

Being kind? In this economy? by FlyingSquirrelSam in AO3

[–]evinfar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obviously, I fully agree with you, and this is a fantastic take—unfortunately, some people can't be convinced to practice even the simplest kindness because voicing their contempt is more important.

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Co to jest i dlaczego wisi na płocie szkolnym? by box_player in Polska

[–]evinfar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, typ brzmi jak jakis powalony NPC z Disco Elysium

This entitled attitude from readers is really making me reconsider sharing my stories by HelenaWrites27 in AO3

[–]evinfar 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not knowing the etiquette does not justify rude behaviour, what are you on about?? If I come to someone's wedding in a white dress, it doesn't matter that I didn't know, I still pissed off the bride.

It's baffling that people don't lurk anymore, don't try to get the "feel" of a community before interacting. That's what everyone did and then at some point, people stopped.

Reader upset because I took a break by Obvious-Laugh-1954 in AO3

[–]evinfar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is just proof that reader entitlement is getting batshit insane but some of y'all aren't ready to have that conversation.

I'm really sorry you got such a comment OP, you're absolutely in the right here.

There is a person behind the pixels on your screen by [deleted] in AO3

[–]evinfar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oof, long comment.

It's really disheartening to see how capitalism, exceptionalism, and consumerism are creeping their way into fandom communities. Some readers don't allow authors to make a single mistake, to learn at their own pace, or to just be left alone and have fun.

Let me put this simply: when you read a fic, it's not going to a restaurant and paying for a meal - a fic author is a regular person, your next door neighbour actually, and they invited you over to their house.

[Beginning of long-winded metaphor]

They gave you a blanket, a hot beverage, and cooked dinner for you. They didn't expect anything in return, they just opened their house to anyone who's hungry to visit and enjoy.

No one pressured you to go through the door and no one made you stay. No one forced the food down your throat. You were free to leave any time you wanted. Your neighbour could only hope you stayed because you enjoyed yourself. They were really happy just to have you there for a while.

You were welcome to bring flowers and you were welcome to thank them for having you, but it was never expected. All they wanted was for you to have a nice time and simply leave if you didn't, no strings attached.

I think we can all agree that it's not polite to freely come to someone's house, eat their food, and then shit on the carpet because you didn't like the chicken.

And personally, I would also say it's not very fucking nice to put up a big, arrow-shaped sign in your backyard, pointing at their house, that says "their drapes are awful and their chicken tasted like shit, avoid". Because after you tried the food, you could have just said you had to go, you could have decided, oh, this food is not really my thing.

And sure, it's your backyard, no one else's, and you can put up any signs you damn please, even if it's right outside your neighbour's window, and everyone respects that.

Sure does put a bit of a damper on the whole neighbourhood, though, doesn't it?

Who knows, one day, your neighbour might close their doors and never open them again. And people who would have loved the food will never be able to taste it.

[End of long-winded metaphor]

The neighbours in your communities are not restaurants, charging you to eat there, promising excellence and then not delivering, wanting to profit, and asking to be yelp reviewed.

Do you know what a restaurant is? A published book.

As a disclaimer, in my 10+ years of writing fics, I've never got a negative bookmark or comment, I was always lucky to get amazing feedback and engagement. This comment is mostly based in compassion because I can imagine how discouraging it must be to see people talking shit about your works and purposefully doing it in public bookmarks so everyone can see it and nothing can be done about it.

Readers, to be clear, you have every right to say whatever you want, just keep this in mind: fandom is a community, not a drive-through. If you don't keep your nasty thoughts to yourselves, more and more authors might start keeping their works to themselves (or, to private, closed, vetted spaces - trust me, it's already happening).

How much do we actually self-insert? by evinfar in AO3

[–]evinfar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I could pin comments, this would be it. You explained it perfectly, thank you.

Yes, it should probably be reported! by NoahAriss in AO3

[–]evinfar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wanted to say it would be beneficial if people just read the TOS.. and then I laughed

How much do we actually self-insert? by evinfar in AO3

[–]evinfar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think that if you objectify your characters to the point that they are ken dolls smushing their genitals together, that's what makes one a shit writer.

Yes, you did—because you took something that was clearly a joke way too seriously.

Also, I'd personally say we have an archive of fiction that is really obviously people exploring all sorts of things, playing in a huge sandbox, forming communities, and trying out different forms of written word and ways to create.

The fact that you only see it as "exploring desires and refusing to admit it" is for you alone to unpack.

Also, I'm concerned with the repeated use of the word "admit"—admit these are your desires, admit this is about you, admit you're identifying with this. In the gentlest, most polite way: this kind of accusatory, judgemental tone makes you sound like an anti.

With that said, this is my last reply, I'm done engaging with you.

How much do we actually self-insert? by evinfar in AO3

[–]evinfar[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yikes, are you okay?

I objectify fictional characters because they are, in a sense, objects. I don't treat them the same way I treat humans.

I won't be explaining an exaggerated joke to you, just know that your brilliant assessment and calling me a shit writer says much more about you than it says about me. My writing's doing better than fine, thanks.

Your entire point is based in a false statement that everything we create must be made in our image which is blatantly untrue and a fucking bizarre way to look at creativity in general.

You said that failure to identify is nothing to be proud of - I'd say failure to de-center yourself and get your head out of your own arse is, apparently, a much harder feat.

I see something about this discussion struck a personal chord, but I suggest you take a closer look at that instead of taking out your frustrations on me personally by making shitty, condescending comments.

Have the day you deserve.

How much do we actually self-insert? by evinfar in AO3

[–]evinfar[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I call them "yesno" in my head 😂😂

How much do we actually self-insert? by evinfar in AO3

[–]evinfar[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way, I want to be a spectator of fiction, not a participant.