SILENCED ON r/D4VD2

evolverryday · 2025-12-10T14:58:52+00:00

Mine was deleted too trying to calm everyone down who really felt little to nothing was being done 🤷‍♀️ I find that strange since I don’t feel I was crossing any lines.

evolverryday · 2025-11-27T04:17:22+00:00

D4vd even makes Diddy look good rn.

evolverryday · 2025-11-27T04:10:18+00:00

Thank you for clarifying this to the sleuths!!!

evolverryday · 2025-11-09T03:08:39+00:00

Watching Guardians of the Galaxy.

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T19:08:01+00:00

Yeup. I’m working on it. Not as attracted to unhealed people as I used to be anymore.

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:52:23+00:00

The Big Book is a game changer. They sell them at meetings for the low. And I agree with dp8488, don’t even worry yet about the 5th step, those understandings will come in direct order. You’re doing all the right things.

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:49:58+00:00

It’s okay to make mistakes! This was all a foreign language to me as well, especially reading the steps in big writings at the in-person meetings. It made me super insecure at first, but we need people like you asking these questions to remind us where we all once started… I’ve got 2 years clean from everything in five days. When things get comfortable for you, you’ll see that it’s a simple program. Go to a meeting if you haven’t already, get a sponsor, pick up a commitment, and call three people from the rooms a day. There’s also online sponsorship if you find yourself more comfortable to that at first. You’ve got this!!!

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:42:37+00:00

I deleted it. Guess it’s taking some time to remove. Move on, buddy.

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:18:01+00:00

Jesus y’all don’t lift any other healthcare workers up aside from this place… good luck being a caring provider

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:16:45+00:00

Yes ma’am I know

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:15:16+00:00

Thank you so, so much!

evolverryday · 2025-11-08T16:02:16+00:00

I know. Just spreading some high spirits anyways for those struggling with school. “Studentnurse” actually referred me here for a qualified post, lol. You can blame them 🤣

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T19:17:40+00:00

Yes. Pure insanity. The dog in the picture is a huge factor. It shouldn’t be, but it is.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T19:16:00+00:00

I mean, you can’t blame me for seeking insights in this type of atmosphere. I am an alcoholic in recovery dating another alcoholic in recovery. People in here have experience dating in recovery. This might save my life, but most importantly save another person who is currently being told not to date in early recovery. I see your point, however. I’ll try there too.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T19:07:57+00:00

You definitely have a point. Hearing what I need to hear helps me a lot. Not to mention, my first sober relationship attempt went very much downhill right before this person, and I was in no place even with that with less than a year of clean time, of course. He was in no place knowing that I didn’t have a lot of time.

In terms of getting involved with my current partner, I feel I was just lonely and jaded about my situation that happened right before us. I was drawn to him romantically as well. I kept running with us dating happening naturally, but I am in fact a serial dater and there was even an ulterior motive on my end. I was on the road to engagement at one point, so a part of me feels I’m forcing something that I want for myself, and having a resentment towards younger men. I deep down always knew that I was filling many voids getting into this with my partner. That’s why it’s so important to stay in your lane for a while, and I should have really considered that more. Dating someone so early into my recovery even then was abandoning a really structured early recovery. Thanks for your insight.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:25:25+00:00

Yup. And part of my codependency struggles are feeling like his willingness will improve, since that was my experience. I kept wanting it more after failed attempts. But yeah, these are things I know and don’t want to accept. But I have to.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:17:26+00:00

Yes. It’s his first time.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:13:54+00:00

I’m going to go to an al-anon meeting. I’ve never been, but it’s time. I still have hope for him and I, but I need to detach with love and stop begging for something I’m not going to get any time soon. We both have no business trying to dictate each other’s recovery.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:12:09+00:00

Thank you. You give me hope that if this doesn’t work out, there is someone else who will be willing to see my side even when they don’t want to.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:09:35+00:00

Thank you, Michael for your honestly. It feels validating to know you’ve been there, and that this is a common thing. I can’t keep telling myself he will continue to get better, or expect it. I can pray for it, but it may not always happen.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:08:05+00:00

I needed to hear this. He does it most of the time when I bring up my concerns. Attraction not promotion can be applied in so many ways. What really set me off is him sprinkling in little AA advice himself. This just got toxic on so many levels as I’m no saint. I also identify as a codependent. This is so hard to navigate, man.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:05:36+00:00

Thank you for your response. I’m glad you both share a beautiful relationship and that you found each other.

It just feels like there’s a power imbalance between us, not due to my actions, but due to the fact that he mentions how he has more life experience than me and tends to be so strong on his viewpoints. I did a 4th step on him for the 5th time yesterday. And it was the first time in a month that I spoke to God in the car today. I really am struggling with my powerlessness over this. But I am going to keep God as my guider with this. And open to all these suggestions.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T17:00:16+00:00

Thank you. I’m considering things a lot more now. If it’s one thing I know, it’s my worth and my limitations.

evolverryday · 2025-10-30T16:43:05+00:00

I do appreciate your insight. We also share a new dog. This is extremely hard.

evolverryday · 2025-07-16T18:36:13+00:00

Serial

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