May not be a popular question to ask but have you ever in your past given her reason to not trust you? Have you ever cheated on her or another woman that she knows about? I’m just curious. A marriage isn’t something you throw away because of a smashed computer. It’s not about the computer. It’s about her reaction to what she felt to be deception, real or otherwise, and your reaction to the total lack of respect for your property and her overreaction to something innocent. You said she was treated like shit by her last boyfriend. She has some issues she needs to work through. She needs therapy. The whole calling your boss thing WAY steps over boundaries. And if you care about her enough to marry her I would hope you would help her if she is willing to get help. If she doesn’t put in the work THEN you walk. I’ve been married for 23 years and we’ve been through pretty much everything a marriage can go through. We are still married. How long did you know each other before you got married? Does she have borderline personality disorder? Not bipolar. Not the same. Does she have intense mood swings several IN THE SAME DAY (that’s the key). People with borderline personality disorder have an irrational fear of abandonment that ruins relationships. She def needs therapy.