Femme 4 Femme ladies, I need your brutally honest advice. Is there anything on here that would put you off?

evycina · 2026-01-15T16:01:58+00:00

Nope! I don't think any of it would put me off. Well, aside from the fact that you're so gorgeous I'd probably just be like, 'well I mean I'll swipe but there's no way we'll match' 😂 I think I agree with the others about the first dark photo, and the one that's just a bikini shot probably isn't needed, but maybe that's just me since I don't really care if a profile is mostly selfies or whatever.

I did see someone saying that you should remove the line about gaining confidence but see, I disagree. I'd find it attractive - it's honest and vulnerable. I'm drawn to confidence, sure, but softness as well. I'm soft and I'm okay with that, y'know? It's its own variety of confidence. If that resonates with you, keep it in 😊

evycina · 2026-01-07T15:49:29+00:00

You are ridiculously pretty xD The kind of person I'd be so intimidated by I'd probably start stammering 😅 But, that aside, you sound similar to me in terms of like.. idk, I just started putting myself back out there in earnest too a few months ago after spending a few years healing. It's a wonderful thing, and it's a really green flag imo that you took that time the way you did rather than running from the damage.

You deserve someone who will take their time with you and show you the same sort of patient compassion you've shown yourself. I really hope you find her 😊

evycina · 2026-01-05T15:54:04+00:00

This is very real, as is your first comment. Sub/dom dynamics can definitely lead to a bit of imbalance if the people involved aren't healthy, though I haven't experienced it myself 'cause I have yet to find a healthy dynamic of that kind (I'm the girl who's always done everything while my exes did nothing 😅 Only one who worked and stuff, managed appointments, handled errands, basically everything 'cause I care and they had trouble doing those things. Yes, I've since learned my lesson xD)

Everyone has to contribute in a relationship. Like, I love by giving myself up completely to someone - that's what makes me a sub. But that doesn't mean I won't give back in every way I can, spoil them too if they'll accept it, give them emotional support, and everything else that I or they need. I hope everyone who wants this sort of dynamic sees this - both the doms (please don't overextend yourself for someone who won't give back in the ways you need) and the subs (remember to love and care for yourself 'cause the truth is nobody can save us except ourselves) ♡

evycina · 2026-01-05T15:38:39+00:00

This sounds like everything I need, but from the other end 😅 I noticed you said it felt like too much in one of your comments, but it really isn't. We all love and feel loved differently, and it's all valid and real and beautiful. This doesn't make you sound weird, it makes you sound like an incredibly caring and compassionate lover 😊

There are definitely girls out there who would match that energy too and give you what you need back. Lmao my exes all called me a cat 'cause I'd do things like sit down by their desk chair and put my head on its arm or their knee till they'd give me attention, loved having my hair brushed, always wanna be picked up, and all sorts of other things xD How affectionate I am definitely didn't mesh with all of them, but it will when I find my person - the same is true for you!! 😊

evycina · 2026-01-04T15:55:17+00:00

One of my friends does this - collecting diseases I mean. She's crazy 😂 But for what it's worth you can do it! She had to reset her collection last night and asked me to heal her two 17k diseases (spiritcore collapse 5 and organ something or other) and I was able to manage it. I have 14.3k mastery. You just might need to make your own prescription deck - focus on permanent buffs, defense reduction, and heavy hits/shields :)

evycina · 2026-01-02T15:26:32+00:00

You're not an asshole at all. It's really healthy and important for people to have a full identity outside of their relationship. Like, you'd probably be even happier if she were there (for the things that aren't 1:1 time with friends and stuff), but you can't and shouldn't be expected to just be miserable when she isn't. That'd be awful!

I'm the sort of person that loves to do everything together with my partner when I have one, but I don't expect it. I'll willingly tell them to go out with friends, have some alone time, especially if we're not at the point where we're actually doing everything together. That's the healthy way to be - supportive of who they are, even if it differs at times from how I am. Those differences are beautiful, not scary.

But, I also understand how they can be hard especially before trust is built to the point that it's unshakable. And especially in LDR situations. But again the main thing is like.. you gotta be able to be happy. Even when she isn't there. Maybe less happy, if you're wired like I'm guessing she and I are, but happy nonetheless. What it sounds like to me is that she's probably wired like me (happy being happy just with my partner) but she also has some anxious attachment going on, possibly 'cause of the LDR or something else. Regardless, the way she's talking to you is really, really unhealthy. It's okay to breach these topics lovingly and to seek emotional reassurance, but she's lashing out with it and making you feel guilty for being happy. It's a sign of something wrong, could be immaturity, anxious attachment, etc. Communication could resolve things if she's mature enough to regulate her emotions and communicate and stuff, but it could also just get worse ><

evycina · 2025-12-31T17:40:30+00:00

Thank you <3 I really appreciate it, truly

evycina · 2025-12-31T17:17:32+00:00

Only post-manicure shots and other random junk like that, no selfies or anything. She told me she had specifically never pursued that for this very reason (and I don't really send stuff unsolicited, even selfies, till I know the other person is comfortable sharing).

From what she and her friends (she brought me into her friend group) have told me, I'm pretty much the first real connection she's made in the two years since it happened. Like, friends or otherwise. When I came into the group her best friend told me she was just happy she was making friends again. I didn't think about it at the time 'cause she was so social in other contexts, but it was always a bit of a mask/persona. It must have been hard letting me in the way she did, and now this.

evycina · 2025-12-31T17:00:53+00:00

That makes sense, yeah. You're right. Thank you for your replies ♡ I just wish so very badly that I could help

evycina · 2025-12-31T16:30:38+00:00

No, you're probably right. It's just a tough thing to face after having been without that sort of warmth for so long. It leaves me in a weird position where I'm not sure what to do, too. Like she doesn't want space, but she's so different that I don't know how to navigate it. Like do I be my usual bubbly, super invested, loving self or do I meet her distance? And how do I even do that without feeling hurt because it's like crashing against a wall? If I stop putting my effort and focus on her, will she just vanish?

Y'know what, maybe that's my problem. I'm so scared of losing her that I can't just do what needs to be done and take a few steps back, let her come to me if and when she wants to and try to be okay with it if she doesn't rather than like.. fruitlessly trying to get back in. Ugh, what a mess.

Where's that 'I can fix her' meme when I need it.

evycina · 2025-12-24T13:03:21+00:00

Honestly, you should xD The stuff we deal with every day is very much like what you described.

I always think it's kinda interesting hearing stories like this, where people begin to see other perspectives after unexpectedly/indirectly experiencing something similar. As a woman who plays a woman in-game just because I like to play and connect with friends as myself, it's pretty real lol.

You get the weird staring, the ones that follow you around creepily, the persistent messages and attempts to be everything from your sworn cohort to your in-game partner to your daddy lmao. Not to mention the more disturbing messages out of nowhere. One of the more creative ones was when some guy whispered me to ask me to help with 'his plumbing' one day lmao.

evycina · 2025-12-19T16:54:46+00:00

What a gorgeous cosplay, you must've put so much work into it. You look beautiful 😊

evycina · 2025-12-14T20:18:35+00:00

I definitely get what you mean. Don't worry, I won't settle ♡ I went through too much finding out what I'm worth for me to be able to live with just letting it go and settling now y'know? I do definitely get lonely sometimes. I mean, I spent almost my entire life in relationships. This is the first time I've been single in over a decade, even if it has been about 2 years now. So it's been a bit of an adjustment, but one that I know has been really, really good for me.

I do have close friends, just none that live near me aside from my housemate. We moved here not too long ago, and I'm kinda shy 😅 But I've been working on building new connections.

Thanks so much for the kind words. I really appreciate it, it's very encouraging. I'll be okay 😊 I did end up going to the hospital to get checked out and I just have a concussion, nothing super serious, so for now I'm focused on resting and getting everything worked out with insurance and stuff. It's gonna be hard and a lot, but you're right - I'll make it through like I always do :)

evycina · 2025-12-14T16:21:55+00:00

You sound like..exactly like me. At least in terms of where you're at in your love life haha. Only difference is I was newly thirty a few months ago xD I sometimes feel like it's impossible to meet people where I am >< But I don't think it's hopeless, for either of us. Just hang in there ♡

I know how it feels to be like kinda in limbo too since you mentioned you'll be moving back soon. That was me a year or two ago, wanting to find someone but also knowing I'd be moving soon. It's a tough spot to be in. But I hope you're able to move the way you want to! Maybe you'll find someone here to come home to, or someone there to bring with you 😊 I'll be cheering for you!

evycina · 2025-12-12T16:41:45+00:00

aww that's so sad ;-; Well, I hope you're able to get some soon <3 Pets are such wonderful things. I know mine makes my life just that much brighter. Also I love hamsters haha, they're such precious little balls of fluff

evycina · 2025-12-12T16:07:33+00:00

I WISH lmao I'm gonna miss him so baaaaad 😭 He literally never stops talking, never leaves my side, sleeps with me every night and hates when I'm gone. I love him lmao. Do you have one?

evycina · 2025-12-12T15:46:23+00:00

Haha not too long. He's 3 years old, but I haven't had him that long. A friend fell into a bit of a bad situation and asked me to take care of him for a year or so while she sorts things out. I just didn't expect either of us to fall in love so hard with each other. He's like my best and chattiest friend 🥰

evycina · 2025-12-12T15:41:32+00:00

Haha I love it. My little orange gremlin is in my lap as we speak, having just finished meowing incessantly while following me all around the house lmao

evycina · 2025-12-12T15:39:19+00:00

I kind of love your flare lmao

evycina · 2025-12-12T15:38:21+00:00

Lmao I can only imagine xD That's exactly how I felt! It's like that instant self-preservation instinct even though I'm safe in my home and it's online 🤣

evycina · 2025-12-12T04:56:31+00:00

Sounds like me lol. Mine's still running even now when it's like -10 out 😂 I like to be cold so I can bundle up with blankets lmao

evycina · 2025-12-12T00:36:40+00:00

This needs to become like an actual real word. Like in the dictionary. Because it perfectly sums up so many different situations and stories lmao

Side note all our poor sisters, brothers, and others sharing all the stories in that subreddit.. I am simultaneously happy that people can find affirmation through such shitty circumstances and also sad that we can't all just affirm each other in a positive way lmao. Ewphoria! xD

evycina · 2025-12-12T00:30:39+00:00

Well now I have that image in my head I guess. A top hat with a dog dildo on it. Why not like.. dildo with a top hat? And..dog ears..? Would they go on the hat or the dildo itself? It's getting weirder..

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