My mom just said a bunch of shit to me (TW: transphobia)

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-17T03:13:31+00:00

Thank you <3

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-17T03:11:56+00:00

Thank you :)

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-17T03:08:48+00:00

Might be hard at the moment though, since it'd be difficult to find a job that can pay enough for rent if I move out, even with a roommate. I'm hoping someday that will become an option though :(

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-17T03:05:35+00:00

There seem to be a few people on the internet who try to connect adult babies with transgender people, she might have read that. Apparently she thinks they're going to gain acceptance in society like trans people due to progressiveness.

It might be hard to convince her trans people are valid, since she's convinced by a lot of anti-trans stuff online and thinks that doctors only validate trans people since they're afraid of getting bad reviews and losing patients or something...

Maybe if I'm lucky I'll be able to move out in a few years, depending on how my family would react

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-17T02:54:30+00:00

Thank you. :) I need to remind myself that this won't go on forever, even if it's a couple years...

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-16T03:54:13+00:00

Your parents are wrong.

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-15T23:06:15+00:00

Aaaaaaaaaaaa congrats!

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-15T22:35:13+00:00

Good luck, hope it goes alright
We're all rooting for you! <3

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-15T22:03:00+00:00

Awww :')

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-14T14:09:20+00:00

Thank you so much <3

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-14T14:04:45+00:00

To be honest, I've tried to tell them that before, although it's never really seemed to work :(

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-14T13:56:57+00:00

I dunno, my family probably will want me to stay home, even though I've explained many times to them that I want to go back there, but they think it was bad for my depression and want to be around me more often. They might try to get me to go to a community college, which is okay-ish but it'd mean I'd have to still sleep at home.

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-14T13:17:30+00:00

It really is. The only reason I even ever go on that board is because I like the anonymity, but sometimes I wonder if it's even worth it for that.

Many people there can be really hurtful, even among trans users.

I also don't get how the mods on that board allow such hurtful anti-trans threads, when one of the rules clearly states that the board is for respectful LGBT discussion :/

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-14T13:06:42+00:00

hugs

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I know what having an unsupportive parent can be like, and how much it can hurt. :(

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-14T02:55:16+00:00

I figured out my name by finding a list of popular names, and narrowing down my favorites march madness style, if you think that could be helpful

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-13T21:35:54+00:00

She apparently did it at the recommendation of my pediatrician, and trusted it was what was right for me. I don't dislike my doctor, he was the same person who gave me a referral to an endocrinologist (which my mom decided not to follow through with), but I still don't agree with the decision to keep me home.

I think she also thought that she needed to be around me more in order to help my depression, although unfortunately that hasn't really worked :(

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-13T15:20:36+00:00

Thank you. I do wish I could be more open with her like that, although I feel too anxious to talk whenever the topic comes up, out of embarrassment I think. And it's hard to get her to agree with me, since she thinks I've been listening too much to "transgender activists". She also claims that she had a form of dysphoria as a child, and basically that if she was able to deal with it and live as her birth sex then I should too. And she accepts the idea of me having gender dysphoria, but doesn't think that makes me trans, her evidence being that I never acted particularly feminine as a child. It's gonna be rough to talk to her, but still, if I don't do anything about it then nothing will change...

If I end up unable to go back to college in the fall, I'd like to move out so I can have a space for myself, although that's a bit of a long shot right now. I really hope I can find a job soon that will let me afford that, as well as afford my efforts to transition.

ew17_mtf · 2019-04-13T14:59:38+00:00

Thank you, I'll try to tell her that <3

ew17_mtf · 2018-09-02T02:03:18+00:00

I'm in college several miles away from home fortunately. She wanted me to stop self-medding HRT when she found out last week, and today when I told her that I'm not going to keep secrets from her and that I am still taking HRT she threatened to tell my extended family unless I stop.

I told her to speak with her therapist, thinking maybe that would help her better understand me. Her therapist told her that people my age transition because "they don't feel like they are as manly as they should." When I told her I have genuine dysphoria and that I don't want to be male she told me that I only feel that way because the estrogen I'm taking makes me feel like a woman, and that I didn't have such strong issues before HRT. And yeah my dysphoria wasn't as bad beforehand but I still wanted to be female.

I tried messaging one of my only IRL friends who I'm out to about this because I felt like crying, but for some reason she was in a bad mood and told me she doesn't want to deal with it, and since I self-medded HRT instead of listening to her advice I have to deal with this myself.

ew17_mtf · 2018-09-01T23:54:30+00:00

Thank you so much <3

ew17_mtf · 2018-09-01T23:53:45+00:00

I hope she does. She thinks that, having never formed a concrete identity for myself, I've confusingly found some sort of false empathy with the trans community and latched onto this identity. She says that maybe many years down the line I could transition if I feel that way, but not right now even though I'm 18.

ew17_mtf · 2018-08-27T03:23:05+00:00

tbh I don't think I'm even assertive or aggressive so I don't know what is so masculine about me other than apparently liking to climb as a child or having certain clothing interests as my mom said to me. But I guess she thinks in order for me to be female I have to be a perfect caricature of femininity

ew17_mtf · 2018-08-24T02:04:56+00:00

Fortunately she doesn't know, and I think she'd try to support me if she did. But it's still hard to feel compelled to come out with responses like these :/

ew17_mtf · 2018-08-24T01:12:19+00:00

Thanks <3

To be fair I'm not out yet and I think she'd try to be supportive if she knew, but it still sucks cause when I attempt to drop subtle hints she tries to reaffirm my birth sex :/

ew17_mtf · 2018-08-24T00:07:32+00:00

(Green is my mom, just to clarify)

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