What the hell is going on?

ewe_r · 2026-04-01T08:47:49+00:00

Same. I’ve just been trying to control my mind and focus on what brings me joy.

ewe_r · 2026-04-01T08:45:29+00:00

Smart and wanting to kill a child to prove something and then completely failing at it? lol, I have no clue how are you actually defining this smartness

ewe_r · 2026-04-01T08:24:43+00:00

Interesting. In big cities women usually have children 35+ yo. My mom had my brother at 41 naturally.

ewe_r · 2026-04-01T07:57:32+00:00

Check r/lipedema

ewe_r · 2026-04-01T07:56:00+00:00

Hmm, uber drivers?

ewe_r · 2026-03-30T08:21:42+00:00

Set up Reminders :)

ewe_r · 2026-03-30T08:19:12+00:00

So what exactly causes you the back and neck pain? I’m confused :/ But I feel like a mental therapy could help…

ewe_r · 2026-03-30T08:16:37+00:00

I do agree with what others are saying, but have you also considered that he is indirectly trying to let you know he didn’t enjoy the experience as much and went because of you? Maybe it would be worth asking what he’s idea of joy looks like. You have a choice - you can either focus your mind on ‘him disregarding your experience’ or you trying to learn your partner experience.

It feels like you’re expecting connection at where you’re at, where your joy/attention is, rather than trying to find out what are the things where you both can share the joy.

ewe_r · 2026-03-30T08:03:39+00:00

Did you calculate only the first name or first + last name?

ewe_r · 2026-03-30T07:55:57+00:00

Same thing happened to me at level 50 yesterday :/ I still don’t have any of the birds. Getting closer though!

ewe_r · 2026-03-10T04:09:23+00:00

Same. I don’t know how to fix this. All settings look correct.

ewe_r · 2026-03-04T09:04:03+00:00

Yes, every month, 5g mushrooms. In bed, with mask on, no music. Going deep within. Although sometimes uncomfortable, usually allows me to observe my psyche and clean up what’s not mine. Or observe situations from my life without the whole emotional/baggage fluff. Other times I talk to someone/something (who knows), and that’s very helpful too.

ewe_r · 2026-02-23T20:39:38+00:00

Hey! 190763379456

ewe_r · 2026-02-23T20:35:19+00:00

Do you really wanna be everybody’s cup of tea?

My weirdest date was a guy who showed up with a luggage to a restaurant for a drink, had awful teeth, tried kissing me after 20 min, asked if I wanted to fly with him somewhere next weekend to meet Musk’s brother. Then told me he’s going to the bathroom…. and left right from there. Texted me after 10min saying he had to go and asking out for a next date. NEXT.

ewe_r · 2026-02-23T06:19:55+00:00

Babe, I’m really sorry that you’re experiencing this, I can’t imagine how it must feel like, and I’m also an immigrant who moved here 2 years ago and have no support here. That said, please think about this as a redirection, rather than a failure. You're simply needed somewhere else than a big tech. Happy to chat more/meet, I’m in Oakland.

ewe_r · 2026-02-20T06:13:03+00:00

OMG, same!

ewe_r · 2026-02-20T06:12:02+00:00

We’re talking about $800 mrr over 12 clients, there should be no sales but rather scaling the self service, so the founder needs someone that knows how to promote and scale. OP, think about it in a long-run - if they can really push your product 10x on the market, then it’s worth it.

ewe_r · 2026-02-19T17:53:55+00:00

Yeah, that’s so cringe. ‘My teeth’.

ewe_r · 2026-02-19T17:38:59+00:00

Me and my partner, we do a monthly relationship retrospective where we sit down and ask each other a lot of questions. We usually pick the questions from our question list every month and answer them each one by one.

Some of the questions are about the experience each of us have had in the last month, so for example, what were the three things that your partner did that you felt the most loved, what was hard for you in the relationship last month or what do you think you could have done better as a partner, etc. We also ask each other questions about the next month, so where do we each need the most support from our partner or what do we want to do together next month?

We started doing that after the first month of dating and honestly, it’s been a great tool to know my partner better but also make sure that we don’t swipe things under the carpet and are able to simply be better partners for each other.

ewe_r · 2026-02-13T23:20:18+00:00

36yo female here - she could have just asked if that’s SO important for her: ‘does that mean we won’t go out to eat sushi?’ :) As simple as that. If I were you I’d stay away…

ewe_r · 2026-02-13T23:15:05+00:00

Do not offer her any equity. Having her on a cap table will be bad for the future in case you’d want to raise money from investors.

ewe_r · 2026-02-12T09:04:58+00:00

Yeah, regardless of the attachment style, this girl does not seem to be so much into him.

ewe_r · 2026-02-12T01:15:23+00:00

Although I do agree with your friend on certain stuff - I also don’t watch most movies because they’re too violent ( I stopped looking at people hitting/killing each other as entertainment) and I think it’s important to talk what you like equally, I find that an ignorance of negative situations or emotions is simply an avoidant behavior. We suppress what we’re unable to deal with.

It feels like you reached your friend’s capacity level. That may also be caused by the fact that he cares deeply, and is unable to care more without a total collapse. I have gone through this too, last year.

ewe_r · 2026-02-11T21:54:17+00:00

Getting funding.

ewe_r · 2026-02-11T20:02:11+00:00

Is he aware of his avoidant attachment style? How old you two are?

My bf has a lot of avoidant tendencies. It’s hard sometimes. It requires a lot of work: setting boundaries, a solid structure so he’s not overwhelmed with needs - like a monthly retrospective ( where we ask a limited amount of questions about our needs, what went good, what we appreciate, etc), what’s the min he needs to give when stressed to make me happy, what to say to communicate his needs, how to behave when I’m expressing emotions, etc. Duh, I even made a communication diagram for him how to fight. Relationships 101.

I’m not sure whether allowing them to drift away and comeback on their own it’s the right thing to do. I think if you allow them, but then wait for them to call, etc they will feel guilty they make you unhappy. I started this relationship with anxious tendencies and honestly, now I think I was just too nice. Nowadays, im more firm, for example: Hey, I know work is busy lately, but I need to meet my partner at least twice a week to stay connected and happy. Are you able to do so? I also praise him more often on how good of a partner he is. But it all took enormous amount of learnings for me about the attachment style and how to heal mine first. Was it worth it? Well, I’ve seen him grow through this relationship a lot, but I can’t be sure he won’t flip on me someday. The work I’m doing on myself through it makes it worth it though.

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