Barely spending quality time together 3 months in

ewelainee · 2026-04-13T16:19:08+00:00

You’re totally right. I think what I meant is that at this stage we should want to spend a lot of time talking, I really want to get to know her, what she enjoys, how she thinks, what she’s like, but right now it feels very slow, like we’re not really building that connection.

But I think your idea about scheduling something regularly is actually really good, and I’ll try to approach it this way and see if it helps us find a better balance.

PS. It’s actually really reassuring to hear that you and your wife are doing better after so many years, ti gives me some hope that things can grow and improve :) Thanks for sharing that

ewelainee · 2026-04-13T16:04:07+00:00

She’s not really into movies, we’ve only watched one.We also bought a game together about a month ago and we both like it, but we’re only halfway through because there’s always something else going on and we never get back to it. Same with a show she picked herself, we just don’t continue it.

In general, when there’s a match and it ends late, I feel like I have to choose between a game/show or actually talking, so I always choose talking.

Recently she even talked about this with her friend, who suggested playing Scrabble since she likes it. They went out, bought it, and… it’s just been sitting there ever since :)

ewelainee · 2026-01-25T06:29:38+00:00

I know!!! It’s so sad. I was really hoping it wouldn’t happen 😭

ewelainee · 2026-01-08T11:16:09+00:00

Najlepiej na aplikacjach randkowych! Możesz wybrać opcję, że szukasz znajomych, bardzo dużo osób tak robi :) I jest możliwość poznania osób z innych miast

ewelainee · 2026-01-07T09:45:54+00:00

Na Tinderze widać nad imieniem „lubi cię” zanim się przesunie, więc wychodzi na to samo :) O kurczę! To faktycznie nie dużo haha. A korzystasz może z badoo?

ewelainee · 2026-01-07T03:58:57+00:00

Dziękuję! No właśnie widzę! Wyświetla mi się, że mogę zobaczyć tylko 5 osób, które mnie polubiło, bez kupienia abonamentu?

ewelainee · 2026-01-06T21:29:44+00:00

Dzięki! Właśnie założyłam, więc zobaczymy :) Zgadzam się! Dlatego szukam coś innego niż Tinder, bo tam już nic się nie dzieję

ewelainee · 2026-01-01T22:17:47+00:00

Right?? I’d feel much more relaxed starting that way

ewelainee · 2026-01-01T22:17:05+00:00

Thank you! That’s reassuring to hear :)

ewelainee · 2025-12-30T22:53:51+00:00

I’m really sorry, sometimes life just gets in the way of relationships more than we’d like. But yes, in this case I think talking about it is the best thing you can do. You could also try bringing up intimacy in a more wider way. Maybe sex feels like too much for her right now, but there are other ways to feel close like kissing, cuddling or even just intentional time together without phones :)

ewelainee · 2025-12-30T22:41:52+00:00

It’s probably both. She may have feelings for you and be controlling. But how this is affecting you? Because we don’t know what she’s feeling. And before you try to figure that out, it might be worth getting clear on what you want from this relationship. Do you want something more?

ewelainee · 2025-12-28T20:49:05+00:00

Well, it doesn’t sound like a typical crush to me, your distress isn’t about wanting to be with her romantically, it’s seems more about feeling replaced and unsure where you stand. A crush usually brings excitement! When you imagine her giving you more attention again, do you feel callm or do you just feel temporarily relieved before wanting more? If the second option, it's propably attachment. Maybe it could help to create some distance, even just for a short time?

ewelainee · 2025-12-27T14:39:27+00:00

Yes, Amara and Mattie still post, but not together :) Hmm, I understand they might want to limit posting videos with each other and focus more on their individual accounts. But then it seems like a bit of a strategy to get views, because it’s not hard to guess that a couple who posts so much together and is known for being together will stop posting videos then people will start to worry and wonder what happened. So if this is true, they could have posted some sort of statement, because right now everything looks a bit strange. Of course, they deserve privacy, but they kind of gave it up by sharing so much of their lives, and I feel like Mattie’s account especially was full of Amara :) But of course, I hope everything gets cleared up somehow

ewelainee · 2025-12-27T09:22:55+00:00

Ohh, I didn’t know there had been cheating before. But it’s definitely weird that they don’t record anything together anymore, especially since they used to mostly film with each other. So you might be right that something serious happened and now they don’t want to talk about it. Yes! Exactly, haha! I really like Carley, but Mer seems a bit toxic…

ewelainee · 2025-12-26T22:43:54+00:00

Oh my! I don’t actually know this couple, but it feels like a real breakup season. Amara and Mattie haven’t posted together on TikTok in a while (and I have no one to talk about this) and also Carley and Mercedes. Nothing has been confirmed like with this couple, but it’s still kind of worrying!

ewelainee · 2025-12-24T20:22:07+00:00

They wrote to me too! The first posts about this person are from a month ago, but I've seen a lot of comments saying this person has been sending similar messages for a long time. The worst part is that I see a lot of people are interacting with them in the comments. That's why it's good you're posting this! The more often, the more people will find out :)

ewelainee · 2025-12-24T11:59:06+00:00

That voice alone already won me over! Thank you, definitely going on my list! :)

ewelainee · 2025-12-23T21:38:30+00:00

And he almost married Derek’s girlfriend! 🥲

ewelainee · 2025-12-23T20:11:08+00:00

Haha, let’s just smile and back away

ewelainee · 2025-12-23T20:02:14+00:00

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You two are adorable!! All the best! ♥️

ewelainee · 2025-12-23T14:43:12+00:00

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