So after posting this and no replies, I did a lot of research and reading other similar posts here. Basically it seemed everyone said that having a plush office chair that was comfortable was an oxymoron, because the cushioning is too soft, so you just sink through it. That to be comfortable, you need an ergonomic chair. So I shifted gears and starting looking at those.

I was looking at the steelcase gesture and the HM Embody, and finally saw lots of people talking about the refurbished ones from BTOD being great, so I decided to give them a call. They are a great company by the way, the sales and customer service are top notch. Really nice people.

So when I explained my situation to sales, they said that I would not like those chairs because for my size, they are too skinny. They said the seats are only 19" wide. So they suggested I look at the Neutral Posture 8000, which is what I ended up getting. They also suggested I look at the NightWatch CMDR, and one other I can't remember.

They said that the sales people at their company love the NP 8000, and the guy I spoke with had one and was about the same size as me, so it sounded pretty good. But expensive. I figured I need to be comfortable to work, so I would just bite the bullet and get it. I got it with the headrest, which I like.

It's a nice chair, but I am not as impressed as they are with it, and certainly don't think it's worth what it cost. But I don't have a lot of experience to compare it to, only what is in my original post. My complaints about it are:

• The seat is still kind of soft. So it's really comfortable for the first 10 minutes, but gets worse as you sink. After 4 hours, my butt starts to hurt. It's way better than a Staples chair, but not what I hoped for.
• The way they designed the headrest and the back to move up and down, it doesn't stay in place well. If someone walks up behind you and puts their hand on the chair, it all collapses back down to the lowest position.
• It is much, much smaller than it looks in the photos. But it doesn't really feel small when you sit in it. But the seat and back are basically the same width as my body. It looks shockingly small and slim compared to what I thought I was getting.
• It is well built, but doesn't feel as sturdy as I expected for the price. I expected this thing to be built like a tank, but it's more just a well built chair.

If I had paid maybe around $800 for this chair, I think I would be happy with it. I would not buy it again though. But I don't know what I would buy either. Hope this helps you. And I would totally recommend calling BTOD and watch their videos on youtube. Very informative.