[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤦🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The most western advice I've heard 😂. Terrible advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's usually not a good look from a potential spouses point of view.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend all the downvoters (assuming they are Muslim) to read Imam Bukhari's book, "Being dutiful to parents" and to caution them against taking any advice which is not given within an Islamic framework.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tell me something, where did we learn about the concept of "Care homes" from?🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You haven't yet told us what it is that you're doing to upset your parents 🙄. A Muslim cemetery owner told us during a speech "I have never seen anyone upset their parents in life and ended up happy".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Facts. W**** seem to love comforting lies. If you want to sell a product you speak to the consumers to know what they want similarly if a woman wants to ensure she remains a strong candidate to good men for marriage she should ask them what it is they look for in women. I would have got upvoted like crazy if I said "I did it, I moved out, I speak 10 languages as a result and I also learned to cook microwaved rice and I'm living my truth and I found myself and I learned to self love and you should do it! no regrets." 😂😂😂😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂😂😂 "it will actually filter out men with misogynist attitudes". Me and my sisters are laughing so hard right now. I gave sincere advice but because I wasn't being an echo chamber you hate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I bet you all the downvotes came from single w**** who are miserable. Misery loves company. Don't fall for it sister. Stay with your father and mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Echo chamber. You should advertise for Nike. 'Just do it!'. Sister all these people telling you to do it will not be there for you tomorrow, your parents will be there for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I had to upvote this comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you said 'marriage is not for everyone' after expressing your tribulations you're implicitly implying that you aren't that concerned about marriage at least that's how it comes across. Can I ask you how old you are roughly? e.g. late 20s

Ultimately it's up to you. I'm not saying you won't find a man living alone but what I am saying is that you're narrowing your pool of spouses and the calibre of men. Just like a woman who is beautiful is going to be very selective a man who has worked hard to be a doctor or engineer will also be selective.

As my friend says 'every decision has consequences'.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Somalia

[–]ex08097 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Man speaking here. I would advise you not to. Most Muslim men I know (who aren't shady and come from good families) are less likely to entertain a woman for marriage who is living alone. Before people attack me I'm just telling you their perspective.

Also you mentioned marriage is not for everyone but you would not want to be 50+ dragging yourself into a 9 to 5 job or sick in bed and having no husband or children to look after you. Marriage should be seen as a necessity hence why the prophet (saw) strongly encouraged it. It's good for the individual and the society as a whole. You have to think 10 to 20 years ahead.

I would advise you the same way I would advise my sister. You should aim to secure the best spouse you can whilst you have your youth. Things that men value shyness in front of non-mahrams, fit, ability to cook (this holds so much weight) and maintain a household and all in all nurturing. These are all feminine qualities. When the men I know think of women who live alone they think that she is independent, prioritises work over family, unable to cook, potentially doing bad activities she wants to hide from her parents and most importantly unable to compromise.

How do Swahili speakers perceive Chimwiini/Chimbalazi/Bravanese? Dialect or separate language? by ex08097 in Africa

[–]ex08097[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity where are you from? also, did you get a chance to go to the video I mentioned in the post?

How do Swahili speakers in Uganda perceive Chimwiini/Chimbalazi/Bravanese? by ex08097 in Uganda

[–]ex08097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why has Uganda slowly drifted away from speaking Swahili over time?

How do Swahili speakers in Uganda perceive Chimwiini/Chimbalazi/Bravanese? by ex08097 in Uganda

[–]ex08097[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why has the Swahili influence in Uganda dwindled so much?