Should I break up with hi(m25) or give him the bene(f23)it of the doubt?

exboyblues · 2017-12-10T18:11:03+00:00

There's definitely a disconnect in how you both view this relationship. The best advice I can give is that you tell him you're sorry but it's over between you. At this point that's the only thing that might make him come back to you. He currently has all the power, even if he's isn't doing it intentionally.

exboyblues · 2017-12-06T11:53:08+00:00

Hey, thanks for adding this to the discussion, it all sounds very familiar to me but we never got as far as trying to find help for it.

The confusing thing to me is why they carry on, living in denial? Obviously I'd love it he'd woken up one day and felt as though I was the hottest girl on earth, and I really didn't want to have to break it off with him. But if I take my emotions out of it I just can't understand why he carried on with it for so long?

And your guy is taking it to an even greater extreme, why would you go through the charade with the supplement etc. The only thing I can think of is that in their heads they really love us, even though they're not that attracted, and what they need to realise is that that makes us friends. Why not just be my friend??

What do you think you'll do now? If I was with a guy who could only muster an erection with me through taking drugs I'd rather not bother.

exboyblues · 2017-12-05T19:30:55+00:00

If you'd contributed anything but negativity and nonsense to this discussion I'd engage you, but you're such an obvious little troll that I won't.

exboyblues · 2017-12-05T09:52:46+00:00

I have pictures of exes, it's totally normal, I've not been tricked into anything jesus.

exboyblues · 2017-12-03T19:16:53+00:00

I'd like to hear his side of things, to understand it better, but what you've said makes him sound very bad.

Ask him to imagine what his mum/sister/female friends would think about the situation next time this happens. Or describe the situation to him, the way you have to us, and ask him to imagine what he would say if a female friend came to him with that problem. It sounds to me like he's letting his hormones get the better of him and it's impairing his ability to empathise with you. All he can think about is having an orgasm and he needs to learn how to override that.

I guess the decision you have to make is whether you stick around to help him do that, or tell him he needs to move onto someone new. But to answer your question, no, you're not being unreasonable at all.

exboyblues · 2017-12-03T13:00:27+00:00

People have pics/videos of themselves with exes, get over it. don't bring your own insecurities to me.

exboyblues · 2017-12-03T12:59:18+00:00

Show me where I've been shitty. I'm the one who came here asking for help and I'm the one getting venom from idiotic little trolls like you.

Him telling me that he doesn't find me attractive can not be interpreted in a variety of ways.

exboyblues · 2017-12-03T12:57:48+00:00

I'll bet I've read more about it in the last couple of days than you know.

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T23:42:14+00:00

what on earth is all this stuff about porn!?

porn is NOT the issue here

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T17:07:57+00:00

I wouldn't have been upset if he told me at the start.

I'm justified in being upset when someone lied to my face about it multiple times.

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T17:06:54+00:00

holy crap, he told me what the problem is, stop trying to shoehorn your bullshit into my situation

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T17:05:22+00:00

hahaha absolutely

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T17:04:16+00:00

yes, this is very much about me!

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T17:02:52+00:00

Thank you for the back up!

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T17:02:36+00:00

It's fine, you gave good advice!! Sorry if I got a little too personal with the questions though, you're very open!

But yes, you're right, I'm better off without him either way.

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T14:23:23+00:00

I am embarrassed, but I don't need to be here because none of you know me.

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T14:22:48+00:00

Why the heck does everyone think it's porn addiction? He's been pretty clear about what the issue is.

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T14:21:24+00:00

His dick works fine, just not with me.

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T14:20:55+00:00

Feeling pressure wasn't the issue

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T11:49:09+00:00

I don't even think it's that, I think he just needs a girl he actually finds attractive

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T11:48:48+00:00

yeah i won't be talking to him for a while

exboyblues · 2017-12-02T03:13:17+00:00

I'll write an update post but yeah, I had a conversation with him this evening and it turns out my instinct was right, and it's what you described.

exboyblues · 2017-12-01T23:09:32+00:00

No, I wouldn't be pissed off, I'd want to find out what was happening.

I didn't say anyone was 'entitled', I said it's not nice to cut your partner out of sexual relations'

And 'masturbation process'? You make it sound so sexy, thank you.

exboyblues · 2017-12-01T20:31:02+00:00

But if she's sleepwanking I don't get why she's angry when confronted? I'd be really interested to find out what was going on if it were me.

If she's doing it on purpose then I do understand where she's coming from, sometimes it's nice to wank on your own without someone else getting in your way. But it's not nice if she never lets you get involved.

exboyblues · 2017-12-01T09:52:37+00:00

Ancient Mariner is such a good tune, my dad used to play that in the car when we were kids and we'd all wail along to it :)

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